DAUGHTER: PAMELA LANE SHUPE FINLEY

"PAM"

Lovely photo of Pam!

Pam Pam (a pet name that stuck with her until her teenage years) was born in Norfolk, Virginia in 1969, ten years after her brother Dave was born. Her mom's birth pangs began some time after midnight, so we had to bundle up Davy and take him to the hospital with us, as we had no one to leave him with.

Then, along came Pam Pam at about 5:50 a.m. so Dave has to miss a little school. But he sat there in the waiting room down on the first floor while we were on the 4th floor. After Pam arrived though, the doctor told us to go down and bring him up so he could see his new baby sister, and he was so delighted. After we took him back to school, his teacher had all his classmates sign a card and send it to us. That was so nice.

We were indeed fortunate, for Pam too was a good child, friendly, and always having a cheerful nature and disposition. Pam acquired many friends in elementary school, high school, and college, several of which she still stays in contact with today.

In elementary school, she had a Phillipino friend named Daisy Daquilanea. I spoke to Daisy via Facebook a few weeks ago, and she told me that Pam was the only one in their class that was able to pronounce her last name, which we can verify by a cassette tape we have of Pam naming all of her friends when she was 9 years old.

A daughter is a bundle of firsts that excite and delight, giggles that come from deep inside and are always contagious, everything wonderful and precious and your love for her knows no bounds. ~ Barbara Cage!

Pam also has church friends and neighbor friends that she knew in her pre-school years and still meets with and even vacations with in Nags Head, North Carolina. Dave and I used to get a "kick" out of Pam using the tape recorder in her formative years, singing and talking, and enjoying reminiscing about all her friends.

Pam graduated from elementary school, then graduated magna cum laude from Green Run High School in Virginia Beach, Virginia in 1987, selected Virginia Polytechnic University in Blacksburg, Virinia as her school of choice, graduated in 1991, 4 months after her mother died from battling non-hodgkins disease for 3 1/2 years.

Pam, Dave and I went to Disney World to celebrate Pam's graduation from college. In September, Pam had enrolled in optometry school in Memphis, Tennesse and graduated from that in 1995, 4 years later.

In the middle of her post graduate schooling, Pam met and married J. Scot Finley, a Theological School graduate who was currently working as a librarian in Memphis.

After optometry school, Pam and Scot moved to Roanoke, Virginia where she set up practice in conjunction with Wal-Mart. Pam had had her first child, Sam, almost 2 months previously, so Scot helped Pam set up her practice and then worked as her receptionist for a few years.

Pam left Wal-Mart in 1996 and transferred her practice to Pearle Vision inside the Roanoke Mall, and in 2005 Pearle Vision moved their offices, along with Pam's office, to the strip mall located adjacent to the main mall where she was located until she had to give up her practice due to illness and subsequent death. Pam successfully completed almost 20 years of practice before losing the battle to breast cancer. My lovely daughter's battle and subsequent death has been the most traumatic experience in my entire life. I'll always feel that there was more that I should have done to help her lick this thing. One feels so helpless in these situations.

Pam and Scot have two children; Sam, who was 20 years old in September; and Heather Hope, who is 16 years old, going on 30. Pam was also a member of the Bonsack Baptist Church where Scot was an associate pastor.

POEM: PAM ~ HER LIFE!

PAM

When Pam was born on that cold February day,
I stood in the Norfolk, VA hospital maternity bay
Looking through the glass, starring down in a most prideful way,
This was such a miracle from God was all I could think or say.

At that moment I was the happiest guy in all the world,
Knowing that God had blessed me with such a beautiful baby girl.
Looking down at a lovely smile and a new born happy face,
It was certainly a special moment to cherish in this ole human race.

We brought her home to 404 Saddle Rock Road you see,
She was such a very special bundle of joy to me.
Over time we watched her coo and laugh and grow.
With her petite pink baby face all aglow.

While her name was Pam, we called her Pam Pam,
Because she seemed such a soft cuddley little lamb.
She would stretch her arms, coo, become excited and coo some more,
When she saw me, her Dad, after work, coming through the door.

One thing Pam Pam would never quite get used to,
Going right off to sleep like normal babies do.
While everyone else stayed up and did their thing,
Pam would lie in the crib, fuss and chatter, but no sleep-ping!

So it got to be a habit, if we stayed up until the hours of wee morning,
Pam Pam also stayed awake while giving us fair warning.
Then when all voices were stilled and all lights were out,
She would at last close her eyes in sleep without a pout.

One thing for which I was thankful,
When Pam Pam was still very young, but not a handful.
GAO assigned me to a 5-year tour,
At the local Norfolk Naval Base for sure.

So I had the opportunity to experience seeing,
Her formative years of growth and change in being.
To see her crawling, standing, walking,
And hear her first words of "Da da" in talking.

This was so different for me when Dave was a baby,
I attended school daytime, worked nightime, was home sometime ~ maybe.
I was home only for a few hours each day,
Then mostly for sleeping and eating, and then away.

So I was absent for many changes, heartaches and tears,
That take place in a child's early formative years.
For that I was always sorry that I could not have stayed,
Because those years could never be re-played.

Dave, being 10 years older than Pam,
Got a big "kick" out of her children's books like "Green Eggs and Ham."
He and Pam always got along so well together,
Oooing, aaahing, cooing, laughing as she was so petite and light as a feather.

And, for my part, when she wanted me to read Dr. Zeus to her,
I finally taped the entire book of "Sneetches" thinking this she would prefer.
I discovered how very wrong I was to actually think,
That a faceless tape could take the place of the human touch and link.

Christmas was a special time around our house and home,
We would decorate and put up a lovely tree and declare Shalom.
We each had at least a dozen presents to open or more,
And Pam and Dave had trouble sleeping the night before.

The family loved the special feeling that went along with the season,
Knowing full well that it was solely because "Jesus was the reason."
The Christmas tree, the decorations, presents, all these were well and fine,
Just being all together at Christmas time made things so peaceful and sublime.

When she reached the age for attending grade school,
And Marched off to the bus stop trying to appear "cool."
Chatting excitedly With friends, Amy, Karen, Christie and Heather,
To attend College Park Elementary School regardless of the weather.

One day when Pam was 9 years old, she was playing with our reel-to-reel recorder,
Singing the school and church songs she had learned, but not in any order.
She began naming all of her church, school, and neighborhood friends where we resided,
And almost 40 years later, a great number of those friendships have still abided.

After this, she attended Green Run High School,
Where she began learning to live by man's rule.
Graduating magna cum laude in 1987, her hard work not in vain,
Making her parents so very proud once again.

Then, lo and behold, our little girl, now all grown up
, Was suddenly college age, and off she would go, like a little lost pup.
To Virginia Polytechnical Institute, a higher institute of learning,
Located over 300 long miles away in Blacksburg, VA to all the discerning.

I remember that all throughout college you had a slogan,
Whether an original or not, it would probaly not appear on Shogun.
It said simply "Career With a Vision,"
But her career choice turned out to be an important decision.

Pursuing a career where seeing is believing,
Another four years and you would be achieving.
With this in mind it was an incentive to finish her schooling,
Which she did in fine style and that's no fooling.

It was just about this time that we experienced a trauma,
That Pam's Mom had contacted a rare form of cancer melanoma.
The family lived with this trauma for 3 and 1/2 years,
Throughout Pam's college education, as graduation nears.

Pam's Mom lost the battle to this hideous disease
About 4 months before she graduated from VT with ease.
After this tragedy and Pam's graduation day,
We took a trip to Florida's Disney World for her graduation pay.

Now that college is successfully completed,
It's on to Optometry School not to be defeated.
In the midst of learning that profession,
You became involved with another obsession.

You fell in love with a beau of the opposite sex,
It was as if Cupid had put on you a hex.
His name was Scot and he lived in Memphis too,
He was an ordained minister but had eyes for only you.

You two were married on that cool Abe Lincoln day,
But that did not deter you from continuing on your "sightseeing" way.
Two years later you completed your studies in optometry,
While preparing for a baby that you would soon be able to see.

You, Scot and newborn Sam moved to Roanoke to begin your profession,
Scot became a parttime pastor and a stay-at-home dad, and that's a confession.
Walmart was the place where you began your "seeing" eye career,
And that sure beat working in J. C. Penney's as a clerk and cashier.

After 4 months there, you moved over to Pearle Vision,
Which we all had to agree, was a perfectly good decision.
Because you have now been there to date, over 15 great years,
Although you might say, it's been a lot of blood, sweat and tears.

I know you were sent to me from above,
We taught you to walk and talk, you taught us how to love.
I hope that I have said it clearly,
That you will always be my daughter, and I love you dearly.

So, in closing:

When you were very little,
I held you lovingly in my arms.
Now that you are grown,
I hold you in my heart ~ with all your charms.

I now pronounce God's blessings upon you Pam, knowing well that God is your hope,
That God would richly bless your going out and your coming in and help you cope,
In your chosen profession, at work, at home, in all personal and church activities, related,
Always put God first, love Him best, others next, walk by faith not by sight~doubly restated.

So, may you always prosper and be in health, even as your soul prospereth! Selah!

We Love you Pam!
Your loving Dad & Mother-in-Law

David S. Shupe
Elaine Dewey-Shupe
August 29, 2011

POEM: A PRAYER FOR PAM ~ by David S. Shupe!

Lovely photo of Jesus Christ!

A PRAYER FOR PAM!

DEAR GOD:

We lift up to You
our precious daughter, PAM.
Fully aware You are our Savior,
the Great I AM.

She recently discovered
a serious medical malfunction.
Believing in Your saving grace,
she has no compunction.

You sent Your Son, Jesus
to save and to heal.
You gave us Your Holy Spirit
to convict and to seal.

Oh Lord our God,
in You do we put our trust.
Believing in Your only Son,
is an absolute must.

The effectual fervent prayer
of a righteous man availeth much.
The Lord is our Keeper, our Savior,
our Healer, not a crutch.

We earnestly intercede for Pam,
sending up to you our earnest pleas.
Praying without ceasing;
sitting, standing or on our knees.

God, we believe in You, Jesus,
and in Your healing power.
We know You are everywhere,
and with Pam this very hour.

That You'll be right there with her
throughout this entire ordeal,
As we send up to you Pam's need
through our earnest appeal.

We stand in the gap, and make up
the hedge for Pam's well being,
As she endures this uncertainty,
it's her, you will be overseeing.

As we approach you upfront,
trying to keep on the spiritual track,
Our faith is firmly planted in You,
knowing that You have her back.

Give her peace, reducing this problem
from a mountain to a molehill,
Realizing full well the availability
of your healing power to instill.

Who has God so nigh unto them,
as the Lord our God is in all things
that we call upon Him for ~ and from
Whom all hope eternal springs.

Before they call I will answer,
while they are yet speaking, I will hear,
Thank you God for hearing our prayer,
and to Pam, being so near.

Give Pam a spirit of peace, midst
the storms and tempests that roll,
That she may find rest and quiet within,
a calm buried deep within her soul.

We intrust her to Your everloving care
and Your warm embrace,
Resting in the comforting assurance of
Your infinite mercy and grace.

So God, we implore you to be by her side
every step of the way.
As Your Holy Word so clearly stipulates,
I will never leave nor forsake you, Jesus did say.

So thank you, God, for always
being there when we've needed you,
Never, never letting us down
And being faithful to see us through.
AMEN!

GOD BLESS!
WE LOVE YOU, PAM!
Dad & Elaine
September 7, 2012

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POEM: MY HEARTFELT PRAYER (For Pam)" ~ by David S. Shupe

Pam relaxing on pontoon boat!

MY HEARTFELT PRAYER
(For Our Loving Daughter, PAM)

Lord, I sit here at the computer with a heart so sorrowful,
As news about my only daughter, Pam, is so remorseful.

She recently received news that she has dreaded breast cancer,
Doctors are a tremendous help, only you have the complete answer.

You not only are our Savior, but our healer and our maintainer,
Our faith and our trust is in You, as You are also our sustainer.

Testing for gene transmission & 2nd breast turned out to be negative,
As fervent prayers went up to God as the most viable alternative.

While doctors are able to dress the wound, You are our healer,
You perform painless surgery requiring no stitches as the sealer.

We feel we haven't been remiss in praying for Pam all these years,
Sending up thousands of prayers, many with heartfelt tears.

For her health, safety and well-being along with her precious family,
So Lord, the ball is in Your court now, to prevent any calamity.

You can't make me believe that all of these prayers have been in vain,
For my complete trust is in the Living Lord who died for our pain.

Lord, Pam is a good wife, mother and christian as you well know,
Faithful to her family, her church and yes, bringing in the dough.

She has helped literally thousands of people as an optometrist.
So pleasant, so thorough in her exams, and quite the optomist.

Helping them to see better, as vision is so essential,
A service needed so badly, and in no way inconsequential.

Reminding us of Biblical Dorcas, who was always doing good,
Doing things for others, as only a faithful Christian should.

Dorcas was on her death bed, and You raised her up,
To serve once again, and also an opportunity with you to sup.

Jesus, You Yourself said, "whatsoever you ask in my Name, I will do it."
So we ask, "in Jesus' Name, heal daughter Pam," and that should fit.

Also, your Holy Word says quite explicitly, "ask and you shall receive,"
We have asked, now we anticipate Your Holy Spirit will properly relieve.

Also Lord, we're reminded of the woman having an issue of blood,
She touched the hem of your garment, and You her faith did laud.

Her faith triggered healing of a body previously wracked with pain,
Letting her know that Jesus was her healer, and He was her gain.

LORD, our FAITH is in YOU, and by FAITH, YOU can make her whole,
No cause for needless worry, for YOU ARE IN TOTAL CONTROL.

JESUS IS THE ANSWER!

WE LOVE YOU PAM
Dad and Elaine

September 24, 2012

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POEM: THANK GOD FOR BEING WITH PAM" ~ by David S. Shupe

Jesus' hands clasping ours!

THANK GOD FOR BEING WITH PAM!

Thank you, Lord, for being with Pam,
Before, during and after her operation.
You were faithful to her through it all,
You did HOLD HER HANDS in every situation.

We're well aware you are a healing God,
Sometimes you deliver us out of our problems,
Precluding the need for surgery at all,
Other times you help us through our doldrums.

As long as you are there, we have no fear,
The doctors do the surgery, You heal the wound.
With You calling the shots, recovery is sure,
You give us needed strength, to us a boon.

We're asking that you increase our faith,
Like that of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego.
Who stood up to the king and refused to bow,
Opting instead to serve their God, so long ago.

Said they, "Our God whom we serve will deliver us,
But if not, we will not serve your god, o king."
But we will serve the Lord our God, and Him only,
In other words, they would be true to Him in everything.

They wouldn't bow, wouldn't bend, wouldn't burn,
Although they were cast into the fiery furnace.
Neither their clothes nor a hair of their head was singed,
Because they served their God, and did it in earnest.

Pam experienced little pain, nausea or discomfort,
Coming through the surgery unscathed,
God was right there with her through it all,
Relying on Him to be healed as well as saved.

You were there for her because of the many prayers,
You said "ask and you shall receive."
She, along with many others, did the asking,
Not only did they ask, but they did also believe.

So we come to you with heartfelt thanks,
For everything you have done.
For being with Pam in such a special way,
And for the victory, You for her, have won.

THANK YOU, GOD!

GOD BLESS!
Love You Pam
Dad & Elaine
October 20, 2012

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POEM: KEEP LOOKING UP PAM ~ by David S. Shupe

Jesus wrapping His loving arms around a young girl!

KEEP LOOKING UP, PAM!

We love you, Pam,
And so does the great I AM.
He's the One to see you through,
No matter what you have to do.

God hears your urgent petition,
Regardless of your medical condition.
You may be devastated to hear the news,
And you feel like singing the blues.

But we're here to let you know,
There's a God watching over you here below.
He said, I will never leave nor forsake you,
And we stand on His Word, which is true.

When we thought things were going so good,
And doing everything we thought we should.
We wonder why bad things affect the upright,
Keeping good people on edge and uptight.

There are many things we don't understand,
We do know, you're safe in God's capable hand.
He's the One that you can always look to,
To calm the storm, heal and see you through.

While the enemy would like to tear you down,
KEEP LOOKING UP and you'll rebound.
Look up for your redemption draws nigh,
He looks down at you, so look up to Him on high.

Let the Holy Spirit speak peace to your soul,
For He is able to heal and make you whole.
He promised that He would not put on us,
Anything greater than we could bear ~ so trust.

Let not your heart be troubled, or afraid,
But cast all your cares on Him, One so staid.
No man is able to pluck you out of His hand,
By His divine help, you are able to withstand.

God, we ask that You hear our humble pleas,
Not time to be discouraged, but to be on our knees.
Sending up our requests for Pam's well-being,
Having faith that positive results, we will be seeing.

We know sometimes our faith may seem weak,
But through it all, Lord, it's your face we seek.
For the Lord shall be Pam's confidence for sure,
And in your loving arms, she will certainly be secure.

Jesus, You are Pam's savior and also her healer,
God is God, and the Holy Spirit is her sealer.
When we draw nigh to God, our spirit is uplifted,
Thank God, Pam knows the One so spiritually gifted.

Pam is facing possible chemotherapy and radiation,
But we serve a God who stands with us in every situation.
He can use the treatment to send bad cells into oblivion,
And totally shield the good cells from extinction.

Instead of loss, Lord, let her be the one to gain,
Instead of weakness, send down the heavenly rain.
Instead of uncertainty, increase her faith in You,
You are her sure hope, You will certainly see her through.

So we entrust Pam to You and Your heavenly embrace,
Relying on healing in Your Name. and Your saving grace.
Give her strength and the peace passing all understanding,
We are lifting her up to You, and her total care remanding.

You're in good hands with Jesus, that we have no doubt,
Regardless of any adversity, He's there to help you out.
So keep your eyes on the Savior, He's never failed you yet,
Our daughter, God's child, so you, He will never forget.

WE LOVE YOU, PAM
Dad & Elaine
November 15, 2012

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POEM: THE ALL SEEING EYE ~ by David S. Shupe

The proverbial eyechart.

THE ALL SEEING EYE

The practice of optometry is an honorable profession,
It seeks to elevate sight to its highest progression.

Daughter Pam is a trained and experienced optometrist,
And in her field, she's a true professionalist.

She religiously follows her 4 years of training at SCO,
Going off on a tangent in her field is a real no - no.

Pam has enhanced thousands of peoples' visions,
Resulting from innumerable eye examination decisions.

A long-standing eye exam tool is the eye chart,
Used to determine if our best vision did depart.

We read it from top to bottom, and from left to the right,
It helps measure visual acuity, and extent of any blight.

Another tool used to test eyes is the shining light, she said.
As the light shines in your eyes, you look straight ahead.

Other tools are used to test and exam patients' eyes,
To cover all bases, so there won't be any surprise.

After all the eye tests have been performed, done completely,
She thoroughly explains the patient's vision status discretely.

Once she and the patient arrive at the optimum description,
She summarizes results, then writes out a prescription.

The patient leaves with a feeling of well-being and fulfillment,
Later, new glasses result in enhanced vision and contentment.

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The Bible is our spiritual eye chart,
It contains what all should take to heart.

God, with optimal 20/20 vision sees everything here below,
He knows just what we're doing, and where we go.

In it, we read about how to mind our P's and Q's,
It's real truth, not something we pick and choose.

It shows us how to acquire, improve our spiritual vision,
Done without an operation or a physical incision.

It lays out what we need to see, and does it succintly,
No ifs, ands, or buts, and it shows us how distinctly.

Keep your eyes on Jesus, for He keeps His eyes on you,
You can't escape His watchful eye, do not misconstrue.

With His perfect vision, God guides us with His eye,
Relying on His direction, we will live eternally, never die.

His eyes run throughout the earth to show Himself strong,
In behalf of those with perfect hearts toward Him all day long.

The eye of the Lord is upon them that fear His name,
With God, He plays for keeps, this is not just another game.

He honors those that hope and trust in His infinite mercy,
The least we can do is to honor Him with a little courtesy.

The eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous indeed,
He sees our dilemmas and ministers to our need.

When He sees our needs, He is moved with compassion,
He heals our broken-heartedness, relieves our oppression.

As we stare very intently into the glorious light of the Son,
And continue in His light, we'll make it in when our work is done.

The light of the Son shines in our eyes, as we go forward,
It assures us we're heaven bound, and not to remain earthward.

If you fly to the highest altitude, or dive in the deepest sea,
You can't escape the eye of God wherever you might be.

GOD BLESS!

David S. Shupe
January 7, 2013

The Eye of God.

POEM: HAPPY 44th BIRTHDAY PAM ~ by David S. Shupe

Pam and Scot at Hotel Roanoke.

HAPPY 44th BIRTHDAY PAM!*
(February 25, 2013)

Pam was a wee little lass,
A wee little lass was she.
Glad she was not a little lad,
But who she was supposed to be.

When she was born in 1969,
Seeing her through a hospital window.
Our heart churned to hold her,
With me feeling all akimbo.

A little after her first birthday,
And just starting to walk.
She was always cute as a button,
Even cuter when she began to talk.

Coming home from work each day,
Seeing me, she would squeal "da-de."
Music to a proud dad's ears,
Jumping up, clicking my heels ~ whoo-pe!

Starting to school was an event,
In line waiting to get on the bus.
Acting like a real big grown-up,
Talking with friends, ignoring both of us.

Within a very few short years,
Going from elementary to high school.
How time does so swiftly pass by,
Her transition seemed so cool.

Before we knew what hit us,
She became a high school graduate.
On to higher learning she did go,
Where she could further educate.

It was tough seeing her go off to college,
Tougher if we'd known what lay ahead.
That she'd never again return to stay
But graduate, marry, make her own bed.

In four short and meaningful years,
She successfully fulfilled her coed.
She had posted a sign on her dorm wall,
"Career With A Vision," it read.

Then onward to optometry school,
Where she went on a seeing-eye spree.
Selecting the Southern College of Optometry,
Located in Memphis, Tennessee.

Completing all of the required training,
Comprising 16 years of fastidious learning.
She could breathe a sigh of relief, and begin
Setting up a practice so she could be earning.

Half way through optometry school,
She met a beau who captured her heart.
So from the carefree and single life,
She thought about it, elected to depart.

Two years later, a son was born,
Deciding Sam would be his moniker.
From birth, he started out with
No mileage on his odometer.

Pam affiliated with the Walmart stores,
Thus, to Roanoke, VA they did move.
Scot helped set up her optometry practice,
This helped establish her business groove.

Things went smoothly for about 5 years,
Then another heavenly event took place.
Another blessing from God arrived,
In form of little Heather with a lovely face.

It's now almost 13 years later,
And your family life has been rewarding.
Your accomplishments are to be commended,
The good you've done is not for hoarding.

May God's face shine on you favorably, reward you
For doing all you've done without fuss or barter.
So, for all you've done and have become,
God bless you, keep you our one and only daughter.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY PAM!

WE LOVE YOU
Dad & Elaine
February 14, 2013

Photo of Elaine, David and Scooby.

*Composed at Howard Johsnon's Motel, Tampa, Florida

POEM: HAPPY 20th ANNIVERSARY PAM & SCOT ~ by David S. Shupe

Photo of Pam and Scot Finley.

HAPPY 20th ANNIVERSARY PAM & SCOT

Congratulations are in order for Pam and Scot,
Twenty years of wedded bliss and that's a lot.
Many events have occurred since those Memphis days,
A lot of water under the bridge goes a long ways.

You were married on Abe Lincoln's birthday in 1993,
Although not in a log cabin, but in a church you see.
Two years later, you graduated from school of optometry,
Accomplishing a well-planned goal, you were home free.

Just before moving, along came a bundle of joy,
Who you named Sam, as he happened to be a boy.
Three memorable events occurred in your life in 1995,
First, your graduation from SCO, inspiring you to come alive.

Next, baby Sam made his grand entrance into this world,
Being a brand new papa, his son's arrival Scot did proudly herald.
Third, you picked up, packed up and moved to a city far away,
To the Roanoke Valley area, the place where you still live today.

Early on, Scot served 3 years as pastor of a Church named Forest Grove,
A quaint little church situated on a dedicated hill, instead of a cove.
In 1996, three things happened to help shape future events,
You became affiliated with WalMart to begin your professional ascent.

About 6 months later, you transferred your allegiance to Pearle Vision,
Which later turned out to be a wise and intelligent decision.
You've now been affiliated with Pearle going on 17 years,
God has blessed this relationship, allaying financial fears.

Third, Scot's lovely mother, Polly, went home to be with the Lord,
A devastating time, made more palatable by standing on the Holy Sword.
Four years later, another event happened within the family scope,
A precious baby girl arrived, who you named Heather Hope.

Like Sam, another angelic gift from the Lord, from the throne of grace,
As children are heritages from the Lord, and each one has their place.
This completes half of your journey through the sands of time,
The next 10 years would be filled with growing up, school and daily grind.

There's soccer, basketball, football and a few scrapes and bruises too,
Not to mention all the games Scot coached, and you sat through.
We omitted one important part, as Scot made Associate Pastor of Bonsack,
A position dealing with Bonsack's senior adults to be exact.

In addition to pastoral duties and recreational trips with senior adult cooperation,
Scot also teaches, preaches and heads up a large food pantry operation.
To show how fast life is moving, take a look how Sam's life is changing:

~~~turned 16, got his driving license,
~~~turned 17, joined the Virginia National Guard,
~~~in 3 months, he graduates from high school,
~~~in 6 months, attends Radford University to train for a career.

Time waits for no man, and family life is constantly in need of rearranging.

Can't forget Heather, our darling granddaughter, who is also growing up:

~~~she attended middle school this year,
~~~she's a star on two soccer teams, school and a travel team,
~~~she becomes a teenager in 2 more months,
~~~won't be long she'll graduate high school, and be off to college.

When all this happens, it's only natural for a few tears to erupt.

About a decade ago, the Finleys acquired a lovely brick home in Blue Ridge,
With a pool on a hill up a long driveway, after crossing a small bridge.
The family has hosted many festive pool parties and get-togethers,
Creating treasured memories that they will remember forever.

All in all, can we say that it's been a rewarding and exhilarating 20 years,
Although there have been a few setbacks, challenges and a few tears.
One such challenge is when Pam was recently diagnosed with breast cancer,
Increasing your reliance on Christ as the savior, healer and true answer.

Another sad occasion was the recent death of Buddy, a favorite collie,
However, for 10 great years, he was the family's best friend, by gollie.
You still have Buddy's partner, Xenia, who will sorely miss her Buddy,
I'd miss any pet in the family for 10 years, and I'm not just an old fuddy-duddy.

We thank you God for blessing Scot, Pam, Sam and Heather over the years,
And for being with them in trouble, relieving their anxiety and fears.
We entrust them to your safekeeping for another 20 years and beyond,
Knowing they're safe in your capable hands, and there's no cause to despond.

HAPPY 20th ONCE AGAIN!

LOVE YOU VERY MUCH
Dad/Father-in-Law/Grandad,
Mother-in-Law/Grandmother
February 8, 2013

Photo of Elaine and David.

POEM: HAPPY 21st ANNIVERSARY PAM & SCOT ~ by David S. Shupe

Photo of Scot and Pam on pontoon boat.

HAPPY 21st ANNIVERSARY
PAM & SCOT

(February 12, 1993)

Happy Anniversary
Pam and Scot.
Twenty-one years
and that's quite a lot.

Both of you have
persevered for years.
Relying on God
to allay your fears.

You've both enjoyed
successful careers.
Thankfully keeping you
from being in arrears.

You've been privileged
to invest in real estate.
Helping ensure you won't fall
into a financial strait.

Best of all, you've invested
in those heavenly assets.
Upon reaching the pearly gates
you won't be misfits.

It's so great, having Christ
as your faithful companion.
Helping us cross the highest
mountain and deepest canyon.

Without Him, we'd just give up
and throw in the towel.
With no spiritual goal in mind,
we'd commence to scowl.

A son, Sam, who's a high school
graduate and now in college.
Seeking to advance his future
in acquiring needed knowledge.

Even becoming an official member
of the VA National Guard.
With a goal of becoming a combat
medic, he cannot disregard.

A daughter, Heather, who excels
at her school activity.
Both academics and sports
are among her creativity.

Most importantly, she's made
a decision to serve our Lord.
Which will serve her life well,
to be in one accord.

So Pam and Scot, you have
so much to be thankful for.
The good Lord knocked, and
you guys opened the door.

So may God always smile on you
generously and dutifully.
And may He help you to
discharge your duties faithfully.

Giving Him thanks and praise
for His divine blessing.
With Jesus Christ as your guide,
there'll be no guessing.

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!

Elaine and David Shupe.

WE LOVE YOU BOTH
David & Elaine
February 7, 2014

POEM: HAPPY 22nd ANNIVERSARY PAM & SCOT ~ by David S. Shupe

Photo of Pam and Scot.

CONGRATULATIONS PAM & SCOT

Can tell by the dust on your saddles,
You've come a fur piece.
22 years and that's a long haul,
Gaining you lots of expertise.

You've done much in all those years,
So lighten down and rest a spell.
While you're at it, reminisce a bit,
Things you've done, you've done well.

Pam has her work cut out for her,
Examining thousands of patient's eyes.
Managing and running a flourishing practice,
That work is never done, is no surprise.

Scot oversees and pastors 700 seniors,
That's quite a commendable chore.
No matter how much you accomplish,
There's always a need to do more.

Raising two motivated & energetic kids,
Certainly requires lots of effort & love.
Attending football & soccer practices alone,
Takes planning to make things fit like a glove.

Household, church and school functions,
Leaves little time for personal gratification.
Always something else on the busy agenda,
Preventing one from dwelling on self edification.

This is just a small sample of what you do,
The list could go on and on for a page or two.
Comes a time you stop and smell the roses,
And that interlude helps you the day through.

So we have to rely on God's help each day,
And the strength that He amply supplies.
We look to Him for wisdom & knowledge,
Trusting His mercy & grace always applies.

So congratulations again on your anniversary,
I know you will say it's been quite a ride.
Whatever you do, wherever you are,
Our Lord and Savior will always abide.

HAPPY 22nd ANNIVERSARY

Photo of David Shupe.

WE LOVE YOU!
David & Elaine
February 12, 2015
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POEM RESPONSE

Pamela Shupe Finley, Ruth Owens, Geri Elliott, Judy Kidd, Pat Oakley Shupe, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Lori Finley Davey, Elisa Levy Harris and Daisy Daquilanea Kinard and 43 others like this.

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Way to capture 22 years of life in a poem David S Shupe! February 12 at 11:06pm.

Jamie Nicholson Klink: Happy anniversary you two. Love you. February 13 at 12:43pm.

Betty Ann Akers Harman: That is so sweet for two wonderful people. Love you Pam and Scot Happy anniversary!!! and many more.

David Shupe: Talked to Pam on the phone Sunday Feb. 15, 2015. Said she loved the poem and she was doing better.

POEM: HAPPY 45th BIRTHDAY PAM ~ by David S. Shupe

Photo of Pam Shupe Finley.

HAPPY 45th BIRTHDAY PAM
(February 25, 2014)

Happy 45th birthday to daughter Pam,
You're truly blessed by the Great I AM!

Hope your special day is out of sight,
And you can enjoy it with all your might.

You've certainly earned it, that's for sure,
A night out, a dinner, maybe even a pedicure.

You're a daughter for whom we're so proud,
A person that really stands out in the crowd.

You set your goals high and you achieved,
You persevered because you truly believed.

You're a faithful wife, mother, optometrist & a Believer,
Because you give so much, you're also a receiver.

You've also excelled as a breast cancer survivor,
Made possible by God, serving as your driver.

You endured much, tackling head-on your situation,
Back to back operations, chemo and radiation.

You continued to work, examining patients' eyes,
Keeping a positive attitude, which is no surprise.

You've been quite active in the local baptist church,
You love God, and His name you'd never besmirch.

You are an outstanding parent to Heather & Sam,
A good reason neither of them have been in a jam.

We commend your accomplishments over the years,
Achieving it all with happiness, maybe a few tears.

You treasure friends as lifetime companions for sure,
So much more important than passing worldly allure.

You plan a rendevous with some throughout the year,
Sharing and reminiscing over things you all like to hear.

Friends, family, God, that's what the good life is all about.
You're blessed to enjoy all of these, we'd like to tout.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Elaine and David Shupe.

WE LOVE YOU
Dad & Elaine
February 23, 2014

POEM: DEAR PAM, YOU'RE NOT ALONE ~ by David S. Shupe

YOU'RE NOT ALONE

Photo of daughter Pam.

DEAR PAM:

We lift you up in prayer,
Every day, every hour.
We know our God is able,
To give you strength & enable.

Know YOU'RE NOT ALONE,
This disease we will not condone.
When you hurt, we hurt back,
Keep chugging on the right track.

He is there to see you through,
He'll give you peace, I know it's true.
No way He'll leave you alone,
As He looks down from His throne.

He knows your every need,
So follow where He does lead.
He'll never lead you astray,
He'll be with you in every fray.

No matter what the test,
He's the ONE who knows best.
He is merciful and He is kind,
He doesn't keep us in a bind.

Said He'd be with us in trouble,
Able to deliver us many times double.
How often He has come on the scene,
He specializes in doing the extreme.

He's not just sitting on His throne,
He's with us when we feel alone.
When everyone else is in bed,
He's there to relieve fear and dread.

God is the ONE that feels our pain,
Sent His Son to die for our gain.
Loved us so much He sacrificed His Son,
While we were lost sinners quite undone.

If this is so, then we have no fear,
He'll never leave us, He's always near.
We're one of billions on this great earth,
But He died to offer each of us re-birth.

We're all important in God's great plan,
But it's up to us to take a stand.
We are His child, joint heirs with Christ,
No matter what, our salvation will suffice.

Nothing can sever our spiritual ties,
Or prevent us from splitting the eastern skies.
When Christ comes back to take us home,
We'll be with Him never more to roam.

So thank you Lord, for what you've done,
Sending down to us Your only Son.
Dying for us while we were yet in sin,
So we could live and make it in.

Not only is this gospel and so very true,
You came to help us make it through.
By your shed blood, our sins were repealed,
And by your stripes, we are healed,

God bless Pam as she battles this disease,
As You can give her victory with great ease.
Give her strength, peace, perpetual hope,
Be the divine knot at the end of her rope.

GOD BLESS YOU DEAR PAM!
(Scot too)

Photo of David & Elaine.

HEALING THOUGHTS & PRAYERS
WITH LOVE,
Dad & Elaine
July 15, 2014

POEM: PAM'S POEM TO HER MOTHER ~ by David S. Shupe

PAM'S POEM TO HER MOTHER*
(Penned in March 1985)

Photo of  Jean Shupe when she visited Israel in 1985.

MOM:

I hope you have a wonderful vacation
As you travel across the nation.

Don't be afraid to ride the plane
And get so scared that you go insane.

There's no need to worry about us
Or to make a big deal & make a fuss.

We're big enough to care for ourselves
We'll clean the house from shutters to shelves.

I (the Lady of the House) will take charge of it all,
So, go on Mom, and have a ball.

While I'm in Va. partying every night,
You'll be in Israel looking at the sights.

Have a great time, but don't act silly
As you Wanda around with Amelia & Millie.

And as for my purse, please don't lose it,
'Cause if you do, I won't like it one bit.

While you're away, we'll pray for you
To have a safe trip, and we'll miss you, too!"

Photo of  Pam when she was a teenager.

LOVE YA!
PAM
March 1985

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POEM RESPONSE

Posted this to Pam's Facebook page on July 20, 2015.

Ran across a poem that you penned to your Mother in 1985, and gave to her just before she left on a trip to Israel to tour the Holy Land. Since I didn't start writing poems until 2011, I guess what little talent I have came from you, instead of the other way around. Your Mom was so excited about going to Israel, which was a once in a lifetime trip for her, as she passed away 6 years later. On March 28, 1985 while in Israel, she wrote, "I walked today where Jesus walked. . .and I'll never be the same again." The photo of your Mom depicted here was overlooking the Mediterranean Sea. Here is the poem you wrote after you just turned 16 years of age.

Eighteen people like this: David S. Shupe, Pamela Shupe Finley, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Pat Oakley Shupe, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland, Norma Littleton Forbush, Judy Kidd, John Cathy Payne, Lisa Rice Davenport, Sam Finley, Jeffery Lee Williams, Jim Nicholson, Geri Elliott, Norm Fontana, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Ruth Ann Vaughan and Voner Ayers Spencer.

David S Shupe: Guess I should also share a picture of Pam which was close to the age when she wrote the poem above.

Cheryl Shupe Baker: Pam looks so much like her mom!! July 20, 2015.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Beautiful - just like her Mother!!! July 21, 2015. smile emoticon.

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Oh I love this story of Jean in Israel and Pam's poem just tickled me. Thanks for posting! July 21, 2015.

Ruth Ann Vaughan: Love this! smile emoticon. July 21, 2015

Angela Littleton Miller: Beautiful! Aunt Jean was my favorite!! She was the first person. I called right after I gave birth to Lane...I was happy and sad at the same time since mom had passed away. Her laugh was contagious especially when she was with her sisters. Thanks for sharing. July 21, 2015.

Pamela Shupe Finley: Embarrassing poem. Oh well. July 21, 2015.

David S. Shupe: Not for a 16 year old; it's quite good!

Joy Shupe Nicholson shared your photo: You, Jim Nicholson and Joy Shupe Nicholson like this.

Norma Littleton Forbush shared your photo July 20, 2015: I love seeing these pictures of my Aunt Jean but it tears me up....You, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Jim Nicholson, Joy Nicholson like this.

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*Footnote: A poem Pam wrote to her mother just before she was leaving on a trip
overseas to Israel with several church friends ~ in March 1985 when Pam.
had just turned 16 years old. Since I didn't start writing poems until 2011,
you can see who I took after!

On March 28, 1985, Pam's Mom was in Jerusalem, and she would
later write, "I walked today where Jesus walked. . .and I'll never be
the same again." Pam lost her Mom in January 1991, 6 years later,
to lymphoma.



REMEMBERING PAM:
PAMS TRANSFER OF ADDRESS FROM EARTH TO HEAVEN
(Born February 25, 1969 ~ Transferred October 18, 2015)




POSTINGS BY PAM'S DAD & RESPONSES

David S Shupe shared Scot Finley's post October 18, 2015 at 11:11am.

Scot Finley October 18, 2015: at 9:40am: Our hospice nurse told me yesterday afternoon that my beautiful bride has from between a few days to two weeks to live. Thus far this morning she has been unresponsive. She has bravely battled Triple Negative Breast Cancer since the summer of 2012, even seeing patients up until about four weeks ago. But, ah, Death will not get the last word. Everlasting Life doesn't begin at death; it resides in all of us who believe even now.

Scot Finley October 18 at 12:52pm: Pam passed away approximately 11:35 a.m. EST this morning. "To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord." You, Jim Nicholson, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Bill Morgan and 70 others acknowledged this; 208 people replied to this announcement.

David S Shupe: My heart is heavy, but the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the Name of the Lord! My precious daughter Pamela Lane Shupe Finley, 46 years old, loving daughter, faithful wife, devoted mother, and caring sister went to be with the Lord at 11:35 this Sunday morning, October 18, 2015, after battling Triple Negative Breast Cancer for almost 3 1/2 years; and she battled like a trooper. I thank God for loaning her to me for those 46 years and 8 months. She could not have been a more perfect and loving daughter. From the time she was a baby until she aced 20 years of schooling, including college and optometry school, she never caused us one moment of heartache or worry. Thank you Pam, for being such a loving and caring daughter, wife, mother and sister. You were the greatest, but we'll see you again on the other side when we all meet in heaven rejoicing.


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Larry Peacock, Norma Littleton Forbush, Andria Padgett McClellan, and 60 others acknowledged this.

David S Shupe: This picture was taken a year ago of our beloved Pam! October 18, 2015 at 1:04pm.

John Cathy Payne: We are so sad to hear this news. Sad for you and for us. We are joyful for Pam to be home with our Lord. David our hearts are broken with yours. You are in our prayers. Cathy. David S Shupe: Thanks Cathy. Surely the toughest thing I've ever been through in my life. But God is good!

William McComb: Dave, so sorry to hear about Pam. My sympathy. David S Shupe: Thanks Bill. Your condolences are appreciated.

Beverly Hurd: So sorry to hear about your daughter. God be with you and Elaine. David S Shupe: Thanks Beverly.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Words cannot begin to convey our sorrow for your loss!!! Our hearts hurt with you!!! I know our loss is heaven's gain, and I thank God for that, but it is just so hard to have her go so soon!!! All of you are in our prayers!!! We love you. Jim & Joy Shupe Nicholson. David S Shupe: Thanks so much Joy!

Michelle Shupe Wheatley: Sending my love to you and Pam's husband and children. I love you all. Heaven has gained a special angel. David S Shupe: Thanks Michelle!

Ginny Small: So very sorry for your loss, our Prayers are with you! David S Shupe: Thanks Ginny!

Rita Hudson: My sympathy and love to you and Elaine, May the Lord bless you and keep you. David S Shupe: Thanks Rita!

Ariana Mae LaVine My prayers are with you, David and Elaine. David S Shupe: Thanks Ariana!

Peni White Adams Praying for you! Love you. David S Shupe: Thanks Peni!

Cheryl Shupe Baker: I'm so sorry, Uncle David and Aunt Elaine. I am praying for comfort for you and the family. I know she is up in Heaven having a reunion with her mother. She is irreplaceable and will be forever missed. Sending my love and hugs. David S Shupe: Thanks much Cheryl.

Angela Littleton Miller: Uncle David, I am so very sorry to hear of Pam's passing. I remembered sitting on her bed and talking to her when Aunt Jean passed away. I was trying to comfort her because I had recently closed Mom. I will remember always seeing her smiling. My prayers go out to you, Dave, and Pam's family. She now knows the beauty of heaven without any more pain. She is now laughing together with the Lane and Shupe families. May God keep you and Dave strong...with love, Angela. David S Shupe: Thanks Angela for your thoughtful comments, and for sharing this. It means a lot to us.

Trisha Nicole Polidore: My heart aches for you and her hubby/kids. Prayers for your heavy hearts. David S Shupe: Thanks Trisha. They are appreciated.

Mike A White Sorry for the family loss David! Prayers to you and the family! David S Shupe Thanks for your expressions & prayers Mike.

Adrienne Scott: I am so sorry to hear of Pamela's passing but so blessed to read your tribute to her, your faithfulness is an inspiration to us all! God bless you and your family at this difficult time. David S Shupe: Thanks Adrienne for your genuine concern and wonderful comments. Also, we appreciate all the prayers you've sent up for Pam and her family too.

Nancy Davis: Prayers and sympathy for the loss of your precious daughter. David S Shupe:Thanks Nancy!

Donna Shupe: David - so sorry! Praying the Lord's comfort and peace for you and all the family. David S Shupe: Thanks Donna! That means a lot.

Margie Hiser So sorry for your loss. David S Shupe: Thanks Margie!

Pat Oakley Shupe: David, so sorry. You are all in our prayers. David S Shupe: Thanks Pat!

Hamilton Greene: I am so sorry David. You will be in my prayers. I know she was a great daughter and she had wonderful parents. David S Shupe: Thanks Hamilton. I appreciate that!

Erica Boyett Rowe: Uncle David, so sorry to hear of Pam's passing. May God continue to give you peace during this time. I am so glad that she is with our Lord & Savior. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love you! David S Shupe Thanks Erica. She's now rejoicing while we're still weeping!

Jeffery Lee Williams: Praying for you Uncle David and the family!! She was a wonderful Christian Lady and friend as well as cousin! Great is her reward in heaven! David S Shupe Thanks Jeff. You said it!

Geri Elliott: Uncle David you all are in our prayers. Our hearts are heavy, but our hope is in Jesus, and I look forward to the day when we see Pam again! Love and prayers! David S Shupe: Thanks Geri. You're right. One day we'll all be together again, and it may be soon.

Laurie Holmes: What a beautiful tribute to your daughter! My heart goes out to you and Elaine, David! We love you and are praying for you. David S Shupe: Thanks Laurie. That means a lot because you very well know how it feels to lose a child, and a teenage son at that.

Laurie Holmes: Yes, David, that is true, but I don't think it matters how old they are. My mom and dad lost my sister at 44 and my brother at 42. They still suffered the losses of a child. But I will always be Aaron's mom and you will always be Pam's father. Nothing changes that! They remain in our hearts. David S Shupe: One thing about it Laurie. We may still grieve, but our loved ones in heaven are rejoicing. They have made it and we have yet to make it. By the help of the good Lord we will.

Kenna LaJoy Barrett: I'm very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family. David S Shupe: Thanks Kenna. Appreciate it.

Annick Maubrey Hughes: So sorry for your loss !!!!David S Shupe: Thanks Unique Annick!

Louise Kinsler: My heart goes out to you. I know only faith helps people through these tough times. I will pray for you and your family. David S Shupe: Thanks Louise! That's very kind, because you know what it's like to lose even a younger child. Prayers for you too.

Jason D Nicholson: Heartbroken, love you all and prayers your way. Things that make me smile at the moment...remembering Pam and I sliding down the steps on our butts at Pop Pop & Mom's when we were kids, and now Pam now experiencing the beauty of Heaven and being with Jesus. David S Shupe, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Jim Nicholson and Cheryl Shupe Baker like this. David S Shupe Thanks Jason for the story and your prayers. How we love to reminisce. The memories are so precious.

Karie Button: Oh David I'm so sorry...my thoughts and prayers are with you...sending love and peace, if you can find some in the darkness. David S Shupe: Thanks so much Dr. Karie for your expressions of concern. We have experienced unending love and peace indeed from the God of your dear Mother.

Felipe Blanco: Oh noo, much love and prayers are being sent towards you and your family. David S Shupe: Thanks Philip ~ we appreciate that!

Linda Pitts Lane: My heart is so sad that we have lost Pam. I know it is Heaven's gain but the lost breaks our hearts. Alan and I are praying for all the family and friends. RIP Sweet Pam. David S Shupe: Thanks Linda to you & Alan too. Your encouraging words mean a great deal.

Melanie Latzko Bradley: I'm so sorry for your loss, David and Elaine. Praying for your family and grateful that you have such a deep, strong faith. Your church family is here for you. David S Shupe: Thanks so much for your encouraging words and your prayers Melanie. If anyone knows what Pam had to go through, it would be you. Thanks for your support.

Jared Shupe: I know we have all been praying that she would be healed. I guess today was her day to receive her healing. I am glad she isn't in pain anymore. My thoughts and prayers will stay with you and the family though. David S Shupe: As a former pastor said, "Sometimes God takes the sickness out of the body, and sometimes He takes the body out of the sickness. In Pam's case, He did the latter, and she'll never have another pain, or experience any more suffering. Thank God.

Betty M Cropper: We are so sorry for your loss! Our love and prayers are with all of you. May God give you comfort and peace. David S Shupe: Thanks Betty. Appreciate your comments and your prayers. They mean so much.

David N Vickie Byrd: Praying for the family. David S Shupe: Thanks David & Vickie.

Jerry Miller: Sorry for your loss, may she RIP; God bless her and her family. David S Shupe: Thanks Jerry for your concern.

Judy Kidd: Oh no, my little Pammy you were the light of my heart & the joy of my day. We had the best times when you were small. I loved to care for you at church, teaching you in Sunday School, even though you were three and I was 16. You were very special to me. I will miss you. Much love. David S Shupe: I know Judy. It hurts for sure. Pam loved you too so much. I'll never forget that you were the one that started Pam walking, after she waited so long to walk ~ 14 months as I recall.

Judy Kidd: So sorry David, may God wrap his arms around you and the family. David S Shupe: Thanks Judy, He certainly has done just that.

Doug Mills: David, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't imagine losing a child ever. Our prayers are with you for sure. David S Shupe: Thanks Doug. Appreciate that. To be honest, I have to say it's the hardest thing I've ever experienced in my life, but the good Lord has been right there to strengthen and give us peace.

Shari Allen: My heart aches for you both David and Elaine. Condolences to you and your family. My prayers are with you all. XX. David S Shupe: Thanks Shari for your concern and your prayers. They do mean a lot.

Shirley Hayes Carroll: David. I never knew her but she is very beautiful in her picture. My heart aches for you and yours. Oh, God continue to comfort them. Remind them there is a balm of Gilead to take away our pain. Below are some words of comfort. Entitled: Home With You! I know you're coming back again - you promised that you would.... I would not stay upon this earth even if I could. I want to be in Heaven with the Father and the Son. Where problems will be over and all my battles won! I get so excited I scarce can take it in. That you would want me there with you who once was lost in sin. You are full of mercy, forgiveness, love and grace, and soon you'll take me home with you to see your blessed face. This world is not my home but while I'm passing through--my eyes are turned t-ward Heaven --waiting Lord for you. S. Carroll. David S Shupe: Thank you Shirley for such wonderful words of comfort. Love the encouraging words of the poem, and you know I like to write poems. Bless you and dear Lord, take away all the pain that Shirley experiences in her legs. Amen!

Jim Ellis: Dave - I am so sorry to hear this very tragic news. I know it must be so awful to lose a child - as special as I know that she was to you and the family. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family as you deal with this loss. May God continue to bless you and all loved ones. Your loving tribute to her speaks volumes of your love for her and our living God......David S Shupe: Thanks Jim for your comforting words and your prayers. They are appreciated.David.

Shannon Vanover Nicholson: Praying! David S Shupe: Thanks!

Sally Bulkley: You are all in our prayers & thoughts . Much love to you both & your family. David S Shupe: Thanks so much Sally.

Brian K. Minnix: You are in my thoughts and prayers...David S Shupe: Thanks so much Brian.

Rick Hensley: Dave, I am so sorry to hear of Pam's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. David S Shupe: Appreciate your concern and prayers Rick. Hi to Peg.

Bob Mandigo: God bless you and your family. Treasure your wonderful memories. David S Shupe: Thanks Bob. You're very kind.

Shirley Poynter: So sorry to hear of Pams passing . I know she will be missed , but with her being with our Lord she is in no more pain and you will be with her again some day . Sending my love and prayers for you and the family . David S Shupe: Thanks Shirley. Yes, she will be missed something terribly, and yes she's in no more pain. Further, she's rejoicing in the Savior's presence while we're still grieving, but this too shall pass.

Norm Fontana: So very sorry David. I can not imagine your pain. We will be praying. David S Shupe: Thanks Norm. Yes, I've had my moments for sure when it hits me all of a sudden. But God is good and He knows what he's doing. Thanks for your prayers.

Lynn Johnson: Dave, our prayers are with you at this difficult time. You will see Pam again, as you say. David S Shupe: Thanks Lynn for your encouraging words and prayers.

Joe Rutecki: So sorry to hear about your loss. Will keep all in my prayers. David S Shupe: Thanks Joe, I appreciate it.

James Lewis: Dave, I am saddened to learn of your family's loss of such a warm and loving daughter. I am sure God has her in the palm of his hand, caressing and shielding her from all pain. Our prayers are with you and your family. David S Shupe: Thank you Jim. Yes, no more pain for her, thank God. I'm sure she's feeling the best she ever felt and more. Thanks for your prayers.

Trish Sheldon Cook: I was friends with Pam in high school, visited with her at Tech and became reacquainted on Facebook. I have such wonderful memories of her. I can't think of anyone more positive or sweet. Thinking of you and the rest of her family at this time. David S Shupe: Thanks for sharing Trish. What wonderful memories indeed. So glad you came into her life again before she left us.

Lu Wright: She was a precious lady! David S Shupe: Thanks Lu for saying that.

Chris Arnold: What a beautiful tribute. David S Shupe: Thanks Chris.

Ayer Whitley Ryden: · Friends with Pamela Shupe Finley. I am so sorry for your loss! I knew Pam in elementary school. I moved after the 5th grade and was reuninted with her on FB only a short while ago. There are very few people who touch our lives and we remember from our childhood...Pam was one of these people. I will always treasure the memories. David S Shupe: As with Lu above, so glad you & Pam were reacquainted not long ago. Thanks for your inspiring comments about Pam.

Jenny-Rick Eubank: We were so sorry to hear of this. We thought so much of Pam. We have been praying for comfort and peace for your family. David S Shupe: Thanks Jenny. Your prayers are working for I can feel that peace. Pam told me on at least one occasion that she was at peace with her condition and that makes me feel more at peace about her now.

Susan Leonard Hensley: Praying for you all. David S Shupe: Thanks Susan.

PAM'S TEXTS TO ME & Vice Versa

Mon.Jul20,2015:9:15pm: Pam: Received 3 framed pics of our day at VT from the professional photographer. One of Frank Beamer & me which he signed; one of my family in front of the jumbotron; and one of Ruth Ann & me in front of tunnel at stadium. Also, 2 other picures unframed. The surprises never end.

Wed.Aug19, 2015:1:22pm: Pam: Saw Dr. Fintel this morning...not much new. He did prescribe a liquid med to stimulate my appetite.

MonAug31,2015:4:01pm: Pam: MRI went fine this a.m. It's very loud. I put a washcloth on my eyes so I won't myself enclosed by machine. Forgot to ask when I wold find out results.

SatSep26,2015:1:11pm: Pam: Sam is back from VT. He decided on Buffalo Wild Wings for dinner (for his birthday). We will watch VT game here at 3:30.

SatSep26,2015:1:15. Me: Thanks Pam.

We should be there before the game.

SunSep27,2015:3:18pm: Me to Dr. Pamela Shupe: Made it home okay. Just arrived. Rained all the way to Charlottesville, then cloudy. How are you doing today?

SunSep27,2015:5:55pm: Pam: Constant rain most of the day. Not feeling too bad today. We all went to a movie Sam had wanted to see. Sun.

Sep27,2015:7.12pm: Me: Good! Sam needed that. Elaine felt bad that we didn't stop and get him a birthday cake & ice cream for his birthday. THANKFUL for our time spent together Friday & Saturday. Love you.

FriOct9,2015:7:30pm: Photo from Pam of Heather, Sydney and her sister Emmie in Va Beach for soccer tournament. FriOct9,2015:9:21pm: Me: Thanks Pam. Glad they arrived safely.

MonOct12,2015:12:30pm: From me to Dr. Pam Finley: Norma told me that Cathy Payne and Gayle were at the Salisbur church for a service last night, & they had a special prayer for you & family which lasted for 2 hours. I'll forward her message she sent to me. You know who the Kathy and Gale she refers to are. P.S. If Norma's forwarded msg doesn't come thru clearly, let me know & I'll email it to you. It brought tears to my eyes when I read it.

WedOct14,2015:6:59am: To Pam: Hi Pam. Love the pix of you, Lisa, Amy & Karen on FB. Don't think I saw that one before.

WedOct14,2015:7:32pm: Sent Melody's address to Pam based on her requst.

Text to Vivian Swanson SunOct18,2015:2:35pm: Our precious daughter, Pam, 46, went home to be with the Lord at 11:35 this morning. Our hearts are heavy, & we will surely miss her, but God knows best, & we defer to His judgment. May God bless her husband Scot, and her children, Sam & Heather.

Text from Vivian Swanson Re: Pam's death: SatOct24,2015:1:28pm: Thinking of you all this weekend as you celebrate Pam's life, and the blessing she was to your lives. Our prayers are with you. Fondly, The Swansons.

POSTINGS BY PAM'S HUSBAND, SCOT & RESPONSES

Scot Finley October 18 at 10:40am: Our hospice nurse told me yesterday afternoon that my beautiful bride has from between a few days to two weeks to live. Thus far this morning she has been unresponsive. She has bravely battled Triple Negative Breast Cancer since the summer of 2012, even seeing patients up until about four weeks ago. But, ah, Death will not get the last word. Everlasting Life doesn't begin at death; it resides in all of us who believe even now.

Scot Finley October 18 at 12:52pm: Pam passed away approximately 11:35 a.m. EST this morning. "To be absent in the body is to be present with the Lord." You, Jim Nicholson, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Bill Morgan and 70 others like this; 208 people replied to this announcement. Due to the large number of respondents, we've included only sample comments below.

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Ina Crouch Murphey: Pam made the world a brighter place for so many of us. She will be greatly missed. Love and prayers for you and the children.

Cheryl Campbell: l So sorry Scott....God now has a very special angel. Prayers for you and your family. October 18 at 6:43pm.

Diana Dalton: So sorry Scot! Pam was a wonderful person! She fought a great fight and is an example to all of us.

Collin Banter: Love you all! I know that she is no longer in pain but rejoicing with Jesus! Praying for you guys and that God would give you a peace that surpasses all understanding.

Paula Bartley: Family and friends are never ready to lose her but rejoice that Pam is well now and waiting for them in God's presence. Thoughts and prayers for her family.

Mark Laster: It's been a long road and I know you are tired. What a rare opportunity for you to know new depths of the Father's grace and rest. May you be blessed with great joy in your sadness. I love you my brother.

Sandy Jones Owen: Scot, my folks (Paul & Jo Ann Jones) & I have been praying for you & your family for a long time... & we'll continue to do so. We are so saddened for you all... We are here for you, & we support you in your time of sorrow.

Susan Swanson: Praying for you and Sam and Heather. Even though she is in a better place she will be greatly missed. God bless your family!

Candy Hill Williams: So sorry Scot. Pam was a beautiful and sweet friend to everyone. We love you guys and will be praying for you.

Linda Loope So sorry Scot. Heaven is a happier place with Pam's sweet smile. Sending love & prayers to your entire family.

Catherine J Keiser: My heart is with you all as I try to process this news... love and prayers for you, Scot, and Sam, Heather, and all yours and Pam's families.

Phyllis Petty Scott: Praying for you and your family. This is such a sad time for all of you. May God give you all the strength and comfort you will need in the following weeks and months. We love you and hurt with you in the passing of your sweet loved one.

Jane Morgan Palisoul: Scot, we are so heartbroken. Praying for you and Heather and Sam. Pam was so brave thru all of this. We will try and come.

Melanie Leweke :Scot, Sam and Heather, we are heartbroken to hear of Pam's passing this morning. Thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Charlotte Murray Jones: Scot and Heather Finley our hearts are just broken for you. Pam was a strong and beautiful lady and endured a terrible disease with bravery and dignity. Her love for her family was very evident. If there is anything I can help with please do not hesitate to ask.

Donna Morgan: For thw last several months Pam and you all have been in my thoughts and on my heart, praying for you day and night. Pam was a gem in the family. I cannot fathom your loss. I love you.

Kenneth Paul Morgan<: Pam was a classy lady who will be greatly missed by all who knew her. We are grieving with you and Sam and Heather. Stay strong, we love you and pray for you.

Kayla Swartz: I am so sorry. Praying for you and your family. I was definitely blessed to have known her.

Lu Wright: Oh, Scot, John and I are so sorry. Pam was a dear and special lady. I didn't have enough time with her. I'll never forget the trip to Washington with you two! You and your family have our prayers now and in the future.

Betty Ann Akers Harman: So sad and so sorry but now the suffering for Pam is gone and she is in a place where no pain can hurt her any more. God be with you, Sam and Heather. I send my love to all.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Scot, We know that she is at peace and rejoicing in Heaven, but we pray for you and your family for God's comfort, peace and strength now and in the days to come!!! We love you all, Uncle Jim & Aunt Joy

Robert L. Whittemore Jr: Scot, I somehow missed that ahe was sick. I am so sorry for your family's loss. Pam was a very sweet lady. I remember really getting to know her when we bowled together. We had so much fun. My heart breaks for you my brother.

Michelle Wood Harris: October 18 at 12:57pm. Lifting my old college buddy Scot Finley and family in prayer as his wife is now in her Heavenly home. Much love to ya'll my friend.

Bill Morgan: October 18 at 8:49pm. Our daughter Donna Morgan posted this regarding Pamela Shupe Finley who went to heaven this morning right about the time our Sunday School class prayed for the Finley family. Scot is the son of my late sister Polly. Our prayers for Scot Finley, Sam Finley and Heather. God willing, we will be with them next weekend for the life celebration of this beautiful daughter, wife, sister, mother and servant of God Pam.

Contemplating the frailty and brevity of our lives: We are born, live some years and then we all die. The dash in between the dates is all we know now and we can only hope that the dash encompasses Colossians 1:10: so that you will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might, for the attaining of all steadfastness and patience; joyously…We grieve when a loved one dies but not as those who have no hope in Jesus. Pamela Shupe Finley lived a life in Christ and returned to Him today.

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Bob Williams: Our prayers are with the family and acquainted by way of our son Scott was friends with Scott Finley and I was friends with Poly as we attended Memphis State around the same time and also were Members of Southland Baptist Church as they were. There is no comfort in a time such as this for the Christian like that promised in 2 Corinthians 1:1-4. To God be the Glory.

Beth Krisha Gunter with Scot Finley October 18 at 9:38pm · Blue Ridge, VA: We lost a wonderful neighbor and an excellent physician today. Please pray for the family of Dr Pamela Finley.

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Beth Krisha Gunter: Pam was the best eye doctor I've ever seen. I have been in glasses since kindergarten and never knew what I was missing. In 30 minutes Pam had my vision corrected to a level I never knew possible. She was an amazing doctor and I'm thankful that my family got the opportunity to be in her care.

Susan Beckner Sink‎ to Scot Finley October 18 at 11:54pm: Sending much love to you & your family. Pam was a godly & righteous servant of her Lord & Savior. You all are loved beyond measure.

Gretchen Gill Wilson‎ to Scot Finley October 19 at 4:13am · Vinton, VA: Scot--- may you, Sam and Heather find comfort in all the love that surrounds you. Pam was a good friend to me and I will miss her very much.

Sheri May Pecukonis‎ to Southland Baptist Church, October 19 at 5:47am · Olive Branch, MS: It is with sadness that I have to type this! Scot Finley lost his wife, Pam to cancer yesterday! Please lift Scot, Sam and Heather up in prayer during this time! Thank you!!!

Makayla Honaker with Pamela Shupe Finley and Scot Finley, October 19 at 12:19pm: My heart hurts over the loss of such an amazing, kind-hearted, loving, and always caring woman. She was always so generous towards everyone she met, including me. I will never understand why some of the worst things happen to the greatest people. It is all in God's hands. My thoughts and prayers go out to a family that I have been blessed to have known for so many years. Jamie Nicholson Klink, Scot Finley, Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland and 62 others like this.

David Honaker: So saddened to hear this tragic news . The Finley's were our neighbors in Roanoke and the best anyone could have . They treated Makayla as if she was their own child . My prayers and thoughts are with the Family during this time Heather Finley Sam Finley.

Renee Martin‎ to Scot Finley October 20 at 7:19am: Scot, I am so truly sorry and my heart breaks for you, Sam and Heather. I did not know that Pam was so ill. I remember Sam toddling around the office and you and Pam expecting Heather. Pam was so adorable. I remember holding Heather when she was just a day old, sitting and talking to Pam about this beautiful little miracle that is now a beautiful young lady. Sam has grown to be a wonderful and handsome young man. I hold you all in my prayers. Lisa Rice Davenport likes this.

Gail Craghead Arthur‎ to Scot Finley October 20 at 7:24am · Montvale, VA: Scot, our hearts & prayers are with you & your children during this difficult time. I recall Roger commenting that there are some things even worse than death , & that Cancer is definitely one of those things. So sincerely sorry for the hurt & loss!

Bill Morgan: October 20 at 5:41pm: Praying for our nephew Scot Finley and all of Pam's loved ones and many friends. I have been reading the many tributes to Pam on numerous posts and it easy to see how highly she was regarded and loved. What a sterling example of a Godly young woman. Thank you, David S Shupe for posting Pam's obituary. You, Elisa Levy Harris and 40 others like this.

Ken Wilbanks‎ to Scot Finley: October 20 at 5:53pm: Your wife, Pam, was so awesome God made her an angel! God has her in His arms, you have her in your heart...Take comfort in the memories of Pam that will never fade away. It will be all the little things about her you will remember -- the fun times, the laughter, all the wonderful memories ... although it's very hard right now, it will be all those wonderful memories that will help push the pain away and bring the smiles back again...Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with their heart and soul, there is no separation...Prayers of comfort and peace lifted for you and your family during this time...Elisa Levy Harris, Jane Morgan Palisoul and 17 others like this.

Lea Finley to Scot Finley October 28 at 2:47pm · Memphis, TN: My dear cousin, Scot, I want to comment on the beautifully done service to celebrate Pam's life. In my opinion, it was the perfect ceremony, words, songs and sentiments to honor the life of your lovely bride. I am so thankful that I was there! You, Sam and Heather are always in my thoughts and prayers. Love y'all! Elisa Levy Harris, Bill Morgan, Donna Morgan and 50 others like this.

Scot Finley:Thanks Lea; it meant the world to me that you and Kavin were there. I look forward to this weekend and seeing you all at Anna's wedding.

Sam Finley October 20 at 5:29pm: I'm posting this because I do have a large following (military and non) that aren't friends with the rest of my family. On Sunday, Oct. 18th at about 11:35 a.m. my mother, passed away due to complications brought on by her several year long fight with breast cancer. These events, though long anticipated, were a bit surprising to us due to how fast it all happened. I don't feel like including too much in this post, I mainly wanted to write it to let people know who otherwise wouldn't. Thank you to everyone who was so gracious in the last several years in your support of our family through letters, meals and overall, your friendships. You, Jim Nicholson, Joy Shupe Nicholson, David Gene Shupe and 104 others like this.

POSTING BY SCOT ON HIS FACEBOOK PAGE ON JANUARY 24, 2016 & REPLIES:

Just before Snowmageddon, I received the following card from one of Pam's patients, written in a beautiful script, "Dear Mr. Finley, My husband and I were patients of your wife, Dr. Finley, for many years. We were shocked and sad to learn of her passing, and our thoughts have been with you and your family these past months. I am sure that you are aware of how special your wife was. A visit to her office was always made pleasurable simply because of how kind, cheerful, and patient she was - ALWAYS. We had no hint that she struggled with an illness, and she must have been one of the strongest people I've known. We mourn her death and we keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. We feel very grateful to have known even a small part of your wife, and she made a lasting impact on so many - impressions, lessons and memories that will continue to influence and shape people. We are so very sorry for your loss. Our heartfelt prayers."

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Katie Allen Forbish: Perfect description of Pam!!

Carolyn Krisha: Pam was grace.

Lea Finley: How beautiful, Scot! What a testament to tremendous spirit and soul.

Gale Hancock: Garst Such a beautiful testament!

Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell: Such a true testament about Pam.

Linda Loope:Such a testament to Pam & her love for others & her sweet & graciousness! Praying that God will continue to take care of you & your family,

Lisa Banter: She was professional and so very caring in the care of her patients and a sweet spirit all around!

Anne Latane Brugh: It must give you great comfort to know that so many others saw who Pam truly was, and loved her so much.

Linda Wheeling :My sentiments exactly!!!

Nancy Wilson: What a thoughtful and lovely tribute to a thoughtful and loving person!

Bill-Nancy Gamble: Pam was such a loving person!!

Marianne Reynolds: Awesome!

Shirley Agra: What a beautiful tribute to a wonderful wife, mother and a friend to so many. Prayers and thoughts always with you all.

Billy Witt: We all miss her Scott. She was a lady of true Grace. We pray for you and know God has blessed our lives to call you a friend. God bless you my Brother.

Terri Dino Barnett: How heart-warming!.

Carol Weaver: Legacy!

Bitsy Borg Meacham: What a thoughtful thing for them to do. She surely left a great legacy.

Sherry Hearn: Blessings!

Teresa Adams Stowell: One of the best gifts is when others take a moment to share their memories and love for our loved ones. I pray you and the kids wI'll continue to be blessed, by not only your memories, but the memories of others.

John Bettie Hale: What a beautiful tribute for a beautiful lady. You're in our thoughts and prayers.

Wanda Reed: How beautiful are their words -- an expression of the heart and soul of a very precious lady. Now, a beautiful angel doing greater work in a better place! Thinking of and praying for you always.

Glenna Felts: Beautiful!

Followup letter to Pam's patients who sent the card to Scot: January 29, 2016: Dear Jean & Mike: I read your very touching and beautiful comments in the sympathy card you sent to my son-in-law, Scot Finley and his family. I am Pam's dad, and your heartfelt comments really tugged at my heart, so I just wanted to write and say "THANK YOU," for taking the time to do it. Your comments meant so very much and helps to ease the pain of missing Pam. So thankful she took her profession of optometry to heart, and she truthfully loved her patients and was duly concerned about them. Since you saw the professional side of her, pardon me for taking the liberty of sending along to you a couple of poems about Pam showing a part of her personal life too. We wrote these poems 2 days after she left us and went to her permanent home to be with the Lord. She was a very SPECIAL, as well as an only daughter. Your lovely comments evoked a few tears too. Again, thank you. In Christ, Pam's Dad

POSTING BY SCOT FINLEY ON PAM'S FACEBOOK PAGE & REPLIES JANUARY 24, 2016:

Scot Finley‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley:

Just before Snowmageddon, I received the following card from one of Pam's patients, written in a beautiful script, "Dear Mr. Finley, My husband and I were patients of your wife, Dr. Finley, for many years. We were shocked and sad to learn of her passing, and our thoughts have been with you and your family these past months. I am sure that you are aware of how special your wife was. A visit to her office was always made pleasurable simply because of how kind, cheerful, and patient she was - ALWAYS. We had no hint that she struggled with an illness, and she must have been one of the strongest people I've known. We mourn her death and we keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. We feel very grateful to have known even a small part of your wife, and she made a lasting impact on so many - impressions, lessons and memories that will continue to influence and shape people. We are so very sorry for your loss. Our heartfelt prayers."

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Kim Shelor: So well said! The many statements could be spoken for both of you!

Jenny-Rick Eubank: Yes, such kind and beautiful words that I know all of her patients felt.

Debbie Clinebell Witt: Pam was a very special lady. She is the strongest, most Godly, woman I have, or will ever, know. Visits to her office were always enjoyable. She loved God, family, friends, and her patients. I deeply regret she had to endure the things she did during her last week's, months and years. She was an inspiration to me. I will always be devoted to preserving her memory, and will always have unwaivering support for you. No more pain, emotional stress, or sorrow for Pam. Well done good and faithful servant!

Lu Wrigh: Beautiful letter about a beautiful lady!

Bill Morgan: Beautiful tribute!

Jill Hammer Meacham: Wow! What a beautiful tribute and spot on!

Betty Lou Moulton: So very true.

Janie Christopher Chapman: May it help to comfort you to know how many lives she touched and impacted in such a positive way in her short time here on earth. May you feel God's love surrounding you today!

Elisa Levy Harris: So sweet that they took the time to write to you. Pam really was very special to so many people. I miss her very much as I know you do too.

Carol Witt Pugh: What a beautiful tribute to Pam and her character, Scot...and you are right, Debbie Clinebell Witt...it is shameful what Pam and her children had to endure in her last months and days on this earth...from her own church and pastors, no less! And most people have no idea about it!! But, the TRUTH will come out...it always does! The truth shall set you free...and the deceit?? Who shall that curse fall on? Those that participated? Those that stood by and did nothing?? Deceit comes when we want to believe what we shouldn't!!! Wake up people!!

Candy Hill Williams: That describes her perfectly.


POEM DEDICATED TO PAM
ON FACEBOOK October 19, 2015:

Photo of Pam Shupe Finley.

WON'T IT BE WORTH IT ALL!

Oh, won't it be wonderful there,
Having no burdens to bear.
And won't it be worth it all,
When we're there, standing tall.

Jesus Christ will be our Center,
He's the reason that we did enter.
There is no other way for one to come,
Any other way, and you will succumb.

We will honor and praise His name,
As He loves us just the same.
There is no one else to cheer,
He's the One that brought us here.

We will always lift Him up,
For with Jesus we will sup.
With saints of old, we will sing,
To our Savior, we will cling.

There'll be no more parting over there,
Never will we have another care.
Heartaches we experienced on earth,
Are in the past, based on our rebirth.

Pain, sorrow and death are in the past,
Our Christ-prepared mansion will forever last.
No financial problems there to make us queasy,
No job confrontations to make us uneasy.

No light there, for Jesus is our light,
No night, for Jesus has dispelled the blight.
Neither will there be any sun,
For Jesus, our Light, is the mighty one.

Oh, what rejoicing there will be,
When our Jesus, we shall see.
It's beyond all our minds can conceive,
Blessings from our Lord we will receive.

No matter what we're going through,
Heaven will be worth it all for me and you.
All the world's evil and strife will pass away,
Each century will be like a brand new day.

No sickness or disease there, what a plus,
Just Saints, Family, Jesus and us.
No loved ones lost due to accident, or disease,
Leaving a life of turmoil for a life solely at ease.

We are unable to describe the wonders awaiting us,
Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, the Bible does discuss.
It will certainly be a remarkable and phenomenal sensation,
As God's ways are so much higher than our imagination.

But I want to see JESUS first of all,
Sharing with family and loved ones, times we recall.
Hugging and rejoicing, enjoying our new abode,
Thanking our Savior for paying what we owed.

GOD BLESS!

Photo of David Shupe.

David S. Shupe
August 14, 2012

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David S Shupe: Pam has made it ~ Thank God! October 19, 2015 6:25am.

Pat Oakley Shupe: Yes she did David! Yes she did! You know, when you think about it, while we grieve Pam's loss here, and rightfully so, it's a difficult time, Pam had a really good day yesterday starting at approximately 11:35am.!!! She made it! Now healed and whole in the arms of Jesus. October 19 at 7:34am. David S Shupe: Pat Oakley Shupe You're so right Pat. She's rejoicing, we're still grieving.

Anne McGuire: That's a beautiful way to express Pams home going! Oct. 19, 2015.

Millie Outten: Amen, prayers for your family.

Donna Morgan: Beautiful words and sentiment. We are praying for you today.

Bill Morgan (Scot's uncle): Much in our prayers, David.

Teresa Ellis: Friends with Heather Finley and 3 others: One of the sweetest persons I know, my family and I were blessed to have her in our lives!

Pat Oakley Shupe: That's beautiful David. You are in our hearts and prayers as are Elaine, Scott, Heather and Sam. We love you. October 19, 2015 at 7:18am.

Elisa Levy Harris: Beautiful! I'm so very sorry for your loss. No parent should ever have to go through this. I was so blessed to be able to have Pam as my friend. I will always remember her as one of the kindest, gentlest and most amazing ladies I've known. David S Shupe: So nice of you to say that Elisa. I know Pam considered you a true friend and a big help taking the girls to soccer games when she couldn't make it. Thanks for your caring and help.

Nadine Beth Maki · Friends with Pamela Shupe Finley: Prayers for your family. Pam was a classmate of mine at SCO. I remember her as a very sweet girl. May she rest in peace. David S Shupe: Oh Nadine, so glad Pam made your acquaintance at SCO. She loved to make new friends.

. Judy Kidd: Such beauty ...inside and out. David S Shupe: I know you always think that Judy. Thanks.

Angela Littleton Miller: Beautiful dedication to your wonderful daughter! David S Shupe: Thanks Angela. Just the way you are with your daughters.

Dianne Massie Leftwich: What a beautiful tribute to such a beautiful and humble lady. We look forward to seeing Pam in heaven. Our prayers are with you. David S Shupe: Thanks Dianne, for those comforting words.

Kenna LaJoy Barrett: Beautiful! David S Shupe: Thanks Kenna!

Amy Fermil Spruill: Praying for God's comfort during this time. David S Shupe: Thanks Amy!

Kurt T. Steele · Friends with Pamela Shupe Finley: I am so sad to see this. Pam was absolutely a sweetheart. I know she is in a better place and am so sorry for your loss. David S Shupe: Thanks Kurt. Yes she is!

Janie Christopher Chapman: I rejoice that Pam is now with her beloved Jesus. No more suffering, no more pain. We will miss her beautiful smile & sweet spirit. Praying for you all and Scot, Heather and Sam. David S Shupe: Thanks for your lovely comments.

Shirley Poynter: Beautiful. David S Shupe: Thanks Shirley!

Stacy Poole: Beautiful. So sorry for your loss. Pam was dearly loved by many. David S Shupe: Thanks Stacy. So nice to know.

John Shupe: I truly love it.......thanks for sharing. David S Shupe: Thanks John. You're welcome.

Laurie Holmes: Beautiful! Thank you for sharing that and the happy picture of your dear daughter. Remember her like that with the beautiful smile! David S Shupe: Thank you Laurie. We sure will.

Lisa Hall · Friends with Heather Finley and 3 others: Beautiful! David S Shupe: Thanks Lisa.

Wanda Reed · Friends with Scot Finley: Such beautiful thoughts. David S Shupe: Thanks Wanda.

Annick Maubrey Hughes: Beautiful poem David. David S Shupe: Thanks Annick. It was for a beautiful lady.

Gorman Wheatley: Beautiful poem , it made my day, prayers for you and your family. Thanks so much Gorman. Glad you enjoyed it.

Emily Galbreath · Friends with Pamela Shupe Finley: U are so loved, dear Pam. David S Shupe: Appreciate that Emily.

Catherine J Keiser: Beautiful writing! My prayers continue for you and all of Pam's family and loved ones. My heart is broken along with hundreds of others, yet I rejoice for Pam... and for those of us who will see her again one day! Oh, the promise of knowing Christ! October 20, 2015. David S Shupe: Thanks Catherine for your prayers and kind comments. Where would we be without Christ?

Stephen Wheatley: You have a wonderful talent..Thanks for sharing. David S Shupe: Thanks Steve. If it is a talent, it's just on loan from God, for He's the inspiration in any good that's in it.

Dewey Stevens · Friends with Scot Finley: Prayers are with the family.

CeCe Edmonds Offidani: Thinking of you and sending prayers as you go through this difficult time, I am so very sorry, may God comfort you and give you strength....November 3, 2015. David S Shupe: Thanks so much CeCe. We appreciate your kind thoughts, comments and prayers, and God is providing needed strength to face each day. He's there for all of us when we need Him the most.

‎Michelle Brady Talbert‎ to David S Shupe October 18 at 3:16pm: Mr. Shupe, I am so sorry for your loss. Pam was the best "babysitter" ever! She was the reason I fell in love with VT. I know you will find strength and comfort knowing she is flying free with the Angels. Prayers for you and the family. David S Shupe: Thanks Michelle for the kind words and prayers. You know what it's like to lose a wonderful father to cancer. Your dad was the emcee at my retirement party and a very good friend. You, Lisa Rice Davenport and Donna Morgan like this.

Joy Shupe Nicholson shared your post October 19, 2015 at 8:19pm: Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott, Shirley Poynter and 12 others like this.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: I love the poem!!! Inspired indeed, dear brother David!!! Yes, she has made it safely Home!!! She looks so much like her Mother in this picture!! smile emoticon.

Kay Stiffey: Beautiful!

Shirley Poynter shared your post October 19 at 2:26pm: David did this for his daughter that lost her battle with cancer . Such beautiful words . this is my sister-in law Joy Nicholson's niece . Jamie Nicholson Klink, Jim Nicholson and 2 others like this.

Pat Oakley Shupe shared your post October 19 at 7:22am: I am sharing the poem my brother-in-law, David, wrote and dedicated to his baby girl, Pam, who went home to be with Jesus yesterday.


Since this would have been Pam and Scot's wedding anniversary, the first one without Pam at his side, we thought it would be appropriate to post another poem that we actually composed only 2 days after she went to her heavenly home, which we have not published anywhere until now. Twenty-three years ago today, on February 12, 1993, Pam became the beloved bride of her beau, Scot Finley in Memphis, Tennessee on Abraham Lincoln's and my sister Pauline's birthdays. Pauline attended the wedding, but Abraham Lincoln was unable to make it. Her life was completed in 46 years, 7 months and 23 days. She leaves behind a devoted husband, Scot; a precious son and daughter, Sam and Heather; a faithful brother, Dave; a proud dad and stepmom; and so many relatives and good friends that we could not possible name them all. From the hundreds of comments and expressions on Facebook, texts, emails and sympathy cards, it's quite evident that Pam left her imprint on countless lives. For that, we thank God. We've tried to capture a little of Pam's life in memory of what would have been Scot's and her 23rd anniversay, in the following poem. Again, we thank God for giving us the thoughts and words for the poem:



Photo of Daughter Pam.

A TRIBUTE TO OUR LOVABLE PAM!
(46 Years, 7 Months, 23 Days)

P A M:

What a joy you were to me,
Over the years for all to see.
You made our house into a home,
Caused us all to achieve shalom.

When I first laid eyes on you,
God gave me a miracle, so true.
You were mine, I named you Pam,
A special gift from the great I AM.

We watched you grow and develop,
With my arms, I did you envelop.
After work, I came through the door,
You reached out your arms to implore.

You touched my heart with your love,
Changed my life, engineered by God above.
Never forget the heavenly joy you brought,
Or the many lessons in love you taught.

You were so loving as a little child,
Filling our home with love and a smile.
Never once in your maturing life,
Did you cause any heartache or strife.

Growing up you made lifelong friends,
Maintaining friendships to never end.
Realizing friends were better than gold,
Treasured such friends, as the truth is told.

After high school you decided on a career,
To be an optometrist, that was quite clear.
In college, you made a career decision,
Sign on your wall read, "Career With A Vision."

After college and 4 years studying Optometry,
Received your coveted Eye Doctor Degree.
You thrived at your practice almost 20 years,
Helping support a family thru happiness & tears.

In Optometry School, you met & married your beau,
You made it legal, tied the knot and it was so.
You & Scot became a pair before you graduated,
And from there, your family perpetuated.

Your firstborn was a little tyke you named Sam,
Another gift from God the Father, the great I AM.
Five years later, a little baby girl entered your nest,
A little angel you named Heather, completed the rest.

Pam was a faithful Wife, and a dedicated Mother,
A loving and caring daughter, like no other.
A fun-loving sister to her only sibling brother,
So many reasons we prayed for Pam to recover.

We'll miss your zest for life & your little silly giggle,
Should have patented it to make it legal.
Will miss your enthusiastic support of Virginia Tech,
Never a more staunch supporter than Pam, by heck.

We'll miss your spontaneous laugh and your bright smile,
Proud of all you've accomplished, all very worthwhile.
Thousands of patients whose eyes you have strengthened,
Improving eyesight, so their vision has been lengthened.

A horrible cancer disease took you from life prematurely,
You never complained or blamed circumstances insecurely.
You simply said "God must have a higher purpose for this,"
You knew that God had the ability to turn it into bliss.

Seeing me worrying, you said, "Don't worry, I'm okay with it,"
I said yes, you are, but I'm not, and it gives me a fit.
Another time you said to me, "I'll be okay in the long run,"
But I'm concerned what you're going thru in the short run, Hon.

I loved you for who you were, and for following God's Son,
So proud of you for all the things you have done,
But most of all, I admired you for your deep Christian faith,
Now you're with the good Lord, where you'll always be safe.

So thank you Pam, for being the best Daughter ever,
I could look the world over, and replace you never.
And thank you God, for giving me such a wonderful child,
On many occasions, you turned my sorrow into a smile.

Thank you God, for blessing me with the gift of Pam,
A precious gift straight from the Heavenly Lamb.
Pam, I will always treasure your memories and your love,
You flew away and left the nest like a little white dove.

WE WILL MISS YOU
AND LOVE YOU ALWAYS OUR PRECIOUS PAM!

Photo of Pamela Lane Shupe Finley.

Your Adoring Dad & StepMom,
Husband, Son, Daughter, Brother,
Relatives and Friends.

Composed by Pam's Dad,
October 20, 2015

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POEM RESPONSE

Mailed this poem on January 29, 2016, along with a letter two of Pam's patients, Jean & Mike Fallon, thanking them, after they wrote a beautiful letter to Scot about Pam.

Express mailed this poem to Scot on January 5, 2016, along with a birthday card and a photo calendar with Pam's pictures on each page.

Posted this poem to my Facebook Timeline on February 12, 2016, in honor of what would have been Scot and Pam's 23rd wedding anniversary.

David S Shupe: February 12, 2016 at 6:06am: Our hearts go out to Son-in-law, Scot Finley, on this, what would have been his and Pam's 23rd Anniversary since they were married in Memphis, TN on February 12, 1993. This will be his first year without Pam. Scot, you are in our thoughts, prayers and hearts forever. (Like to mention too, since today would also have been sister Pauline's birthday, that she and Bob had attended Pam & Scot's wedding in Memphis in 1993, even on her own birthday, and they had to drive many miles to get there).

I know I've offered a few poems before about Pam's life, and you're probably growing tired of them, but we feel this occasion is appropriate and calls for another one, so indulge me please! Missing her is still very fresh in our minds, and of course, we'll never get over it. But, I'm thinking more about Scot, Sam and Heather who lived with her from day to day, and now there's a big void there that cannot be filled. Our heart goes out to them, to her brother Dave, and to the many dear friends she cherished. I actually wrote the poem just 2 days after she passed on to a better place.

Twenty-seven people like this: Adrienne Scott, Laurie Holmes, Kylene Shupe and 24 others like this: Michelle Brady Talbert, Lisa Rice Davenport, Andria Padgett McClellan, Jim Nicholson, Ruth Ann Vaughan, Gary & Trisha Fearer, Michelle Shupe Wheatley, Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland, Adrienne Scott, Ruth Owens, Judy Kidd, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard, Samson Shupe, bonnie CVhristine Holcombe-Fontana, Geri Elliott, Shari Allen, Kylene Shupe, Angela Littleton Miller, David Gene Shupe, Norm Fontana, Jane Morgan Palisoul, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Jared Shupe, Amy Fermil Spruill, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Laurie Holmes and Stephen Wheatley.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Praying for Scot especially today, as well as Sam, Heather, you, Elaine and Dave. Precious memories!!! She was a beautiful bride, but also a beautiful person inside and out - always a smile and such a sweet spirit!!! To know Pam was to love her!!! February 12, 2016 at 6:22am. David S Shupe: Thanks Joy for your encouraging words and your prayers. Joy Shupe Nicholson: David S Shupe You always have my love and prayers!!! smile emoticon.

Donna Morgan: Before I read this FB post, you all were in my prayers. February 12, 2016 at 6:29am. David S Shupe: Thank you, Donna, for your prayers. They are appreciated.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: David, That poem was so beautiful!!! It brought tears to my eyes, but it just portrayed Pam so beautifully - of the precious person that she was (and still is in Heaven!!!). I know it is a comfort to know our families are SAFE AT HOME and we will see them again, but it is just so hard missing them on earth day by day when you are used to seeing them, hearing their voice and knowing they are with you. Our prayers for all the family today and all this month especially!!! February 12, 2016 at 6:29am. David S Shupe :Thanks Joy! It brought tears to my own eyes when I wrote it; not tears for Pam, but tears for the family; for Scot, Sam, Heather, Dave, her special friends, and of course, me and Elaine. Joy Shupe Nicholson: David S Shupe Yes, as Jason told me when Dad passed away, we cry for ourselves, not for them!!! They are enjoying the joys of Heaven with loved ones and the One Who died for us all!!!

David N Vickie Byrd: Praying. February 12, 2016 at 6:56am. David S Shupe: Thanks David!

Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Beautiful words. Sending prayers. February 12, 2016 at 7:01am. David S Shupe: Thanks Daisy. Wife Elaine ran across a lovely picture of you and Pam taken at the 20 year Green Run High School reunion in July 2007. Soon as I get around to scanning and saving it, I'll either post or send a copy to you, although I'm sure you may have one like it. Pam had sent it to me.

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Memories well captured. I remember the wedding day vividly. I loved that she wore my veil from my wedding held just 6 months prior, and that I had the honor of helping curl her hair. Kevin & I loved Scot Finley from the start. We knew he was perfect for Pam when he whisked her away in the old man costume mask. They shared a deep faith and a love for the silly. I think that's the secret to successful marriages like theirs (and mine). Missing her gets more real day by day...as I am certain it does for many. February 12 , 2016 at 7:45am. David S Shupe: Thanks Janet, for some more good memories. So glad you and Kevin were so involved in Pam's life for the past 20 plus years. I know she really enjoyed your friendship over the years.

Elisa Levy Harris: Prayers and love for you today and every day Scot Finley. I'm sure you are missing Pam extra today. And David, I enjoy reading all of your poems. I'm sure it is comforting to you to write them and to so many others who read them. Pam was an amazing lady who is missed so very much. February 12, 2016 at 7:51am. David S Shupe: Thanks Elisa. So kind of you to say so. You're so right ~ it was certainly one of the ways I coped with losing Pam. Writing was a tremendous help in dealing with the trauma.

Cheryl Shupe Baker: That was a beautiful tribute, Uncle David. Praying for comfort for Scot, Sam, and Heather today. And, praying for you, Aunt Elaine, and Dave as well. Love you all! February 12, 2016 at 7:55am. David S Shupe Thank you Cheryl, and appreciate your prayers so much. Think everyone should agree that prayers make a difference in our lives.

Judy Kidd: She so beautiful inside and out. February 12< 2016 at 11:28am. David S Shupe: Thanks Judy. I think so too, but I'm her dad!

Mary Lecates: Prayers for all. February 12, 2016 at 11:32am. David S Shupe :Thank you Mary. Appreciate your prayers.

Louise Kinsler: Beautiful! February 12, 2016 at 10:47pm. David S Shupe: Thanks Louise! Norma Littleton Forbush shared your post on Feb 12, 2016 at 9:19am. My cousin....our mothers were sisters.....4 people like this. Joy Shupe Nicholson shared your post on February 12, 2016 at 6:22am. Joy Shupe Nicholson, Geri Elliott, Michelle Shupe Wheatley and 5 others like this.

Linda Wells Jackson:Beautiful.


POEM COMPOSED FOR PAM
ON FACEBOOK October 21, 2015

David S Shupe: October 21, 2015 at 5:53am: Pam ~ We will always miss and love you and your merry manner. Your family will miss you. All your many friends will miss you. Our thoughts of you will never dim. The world is a better place because of you. In your courageous fight against cancer, you were always upbeat and positive, demonstrating your deep faith in the Son of God, an example for us all, just knowing that God had a better place prepared for you.

Photo of Pamela Shupe Finley.

PAM's UNSHAKABLE FAITH

Pam has crossed over,
To the other side
Now she's with Jesus
To forever abide.

We do not grieve
As those with no hope.
For we truly know
She's on a heavenly slope.

Pam said of her illness,
Don't worry or fret.
God has a higher purpose,
I have no earthly regret.

Also, she told me one day,
I'll be okay in the long run.
For Pam knew the Savior,
And He is God's only Son.

Pam read the gospel story
Her life was in God's hands.
She was deemed unpluckable,
No need to make amends.

She had lived a life of faith,
Which God honors in us all.
She was not afraid to die,
For on the Lord she did call.

She didn't fear enemy death.
For Jesus had been victorious,
Over death, hell & the grave,
So heaven would be glorious.

Dust to dust, & ashes to ashes,
That's based on the Bible.
He washed away the dregs of sin,
Making her no longer liable.

Departing life for one far better,
To see Jesus & Saints gone before,
The untold glories of that kingdom,
Are hers on entering heaven's door.

Her grip on life she did relinquish,
To the sure Anchor of her soul.
He took away her house of clay,
And Made Her Spiritually Whole!

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Faith looks beyond this transient life
With hope for all eternity—
Not with some vague and wistful hope,
But with firm trust and certainty.
D. De Haan.

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THANK GOD,
YOU MADE IT PAM!

Photo of Elaine & David Shupe.

WE LOVE YOU,
Dad & Elaine
October 20, 2015

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POEM RESPONSE

Thirty five (35) people like this: Larry Peacock, Sally Bulkley, Geri Elliott, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Ruth Owens, Kirk L Clary, Pat Oakley Shupe, Jeffery Lee Williams, Amy Fermil Spruill, Samson Shupe, Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Joanna Gunnells Shupe, Jared Shupe, Jim Nicholosn, Kylene Shupe, Geri Elliott, Ruth Ann Vaughan, Donna Morgan, Rick Hensley, Sally Bulkley, Peni White Adams, Lynn Johnson, Elisa Levy Harris, Laurie Holmes, Voner Ayers Spencer, Jane Morgan Palisoul, Millie Outten, Shari Allen, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Shirley Poynter, Michelle Shupe Wheatley, Theresa Ayers Baldwin, Norm Fontana, Beverly Hurd, Larry Peacock and Bill Morgan.

Samson Shupe: All well said and I agree with every word.

Pat Oakley Shupe: Beautiful David.

Bill Morgan: Moving and beautiful, David!

Michelle Shupe Wheatley: Beautiful poem for such a beautiful lady! I know Pam made you so proud in all of her accomplishments! She maintained her faith through such a battle and that is such a testimony to many. Love you Uncle David. David S Shupe: Thanks Michelle. Appreciate your words of comfort.

Cheryl Shupe Baker: A beautiful poem for a beautiful soul. David S Shupe: Thanks Cheryl for your lovely comments.

Voner Ayers Spencer: Beautiful!!!!David S Shupe Thanks Voner!

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: David, your faith inspired her, as it always has me. Look forward too seeing you and Dave soon. Indeed, she made it! David S Shupe: Janet ~ Don't know how I missed your beautiful comment previously. Just know that your support, and Kevin's, for Pam and family, as well as your comments throughout this entire ordeal have touched our hearts. Thank you so much! Nov. 9, 2015.

Jamie Nicholson Klink: So beautful uncle david. love you. David S Shupe: Thanks Jamie, on both accounts. Love you too.

Angela Littleton Miller: Wonderful! I pray that God will give you the strength to endure the next few days and beyond! Love you and Dave! David S Shupe: Thanks for your prayers Angela, and He has given us the needed strength.

Judy Kidd: Beautiful words ....beautiful person....David S Shupe: Thanks Judy for both statements. Based on what you went through for so many months, you know very well what Pam had to go through. Pam always thought so much of you. Love the picture you posted ~ had not seen that one before, so I 'll add that to my collection. Judy Kidd: I have two more I will send you later. God bless you and yours.

Pam Medlin Nabers: Lovely words Mr. Shupe. She would be touched. David S Shupe: Thanks Pam, so nice of you to say that.

Amy Fermil Spruill: Still so hard to comprehend. Continuing to pray God's comfort for you and your family! David S Shupe: I know Amy, it's still like a bad nightmare to me. Thanks for your prayers.

Michelle Brady Talbert: Beautiful!

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Beautiful niece with a lovely spirit, beautiful poem - so befitting!!! The tears may flow on earth but there is a lot of rejoicing in Heaven right now!!! Wish we could get just a glimpse of her Welcome Home!!! She was a beautiful Christian example in her life and in her dying (but dying to live forever)!!! Love you dear brother!!!David S Shupe: Thanks Joy! The feeling is mutual. Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning!

Adrienne Scott: How beautiful David. Thank you for sharing. David S Shupe: Thanks Adrienne & you're welcome.

Marjorie Latzko Nov. 11, 2015: All choked up!

Joy Shupe Nicholson shared your post October 21, 2015 at 7:40pm. Norma Littleton Forbush, Joy Shupe Nicholson and 7 others like this.

Angela Austin: Prayers for the family!

Linda Wells Jackson; Prayers. With you all.

Pat Oakley Shupe shared your post October 21 at 7:54am: Pam's Unshakeable Faith! I pray this is an encouragement and a blessing to you ...Norma Littleton Forbush, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Cheryl Shupe Baker and 7 others like this.

Emailed this poem to Scot, Heather, Dave, and Elaine on November 1, 2015.

Mailed this poem, along with a thank you letter to Karen Snyder, Hilton Garden Inn Motel Representative on Nov. 2, 2015.

Hand carried this poem, along with a copy of Pam's Obituary on Nov. 1, 2015 to neighbor, Dorothy Hudson.

Mailed this to Nita & Larry Weeks on November 9, 2015 after receiving her sympathy card and comments for Pam's passing. Also sent a copy of the Pam's obituary, along with a letter.

Mailed poem, obituary and letter to Efrain Lopez & wife Nilsa in St. Croix on November 14, 2015.

Mailed this poem to LPC friend, Alice Sturtz on December 7, 2015 after talking with her yesterday at church and she said she didn't know much about Pam.

Mailed this poem to good friends Gayle King Harris, Wanda and David Rice and Nita and Lary Weeks on January 2, 2016.

Mailed this poem to Sharon Harris Moher on January 18, 2016, along with a letter and New Year's poem.

Mailed this poem on January 29, 2016, along with a letter to two of Pam's patients, Jean & Mike Fallon, husband and wife, thanking them, after they wrote a beautiful letter to Scot about Pam. Their response to me was just beautiful: From Jean & Mike Fallon: Thinking of You...as I often do! John 6:37: Everyone whom my Father gives me will come to me. I will never turn away anyone who comes to me. Then, Dear David and Elaine, I think of you at this Easter season--knowing that you mourn and miss Pam but know too, that she lives because of Christ's death and life! The season offers so much hope, and I do believe that your poem that you shared expresses so beautifully that your daughter, though greatly missed here, has found her home. Thus, though painful, these days celebrate a life and a return to God's arms. I still have not been able to bring myself to look for a new eye doctor ~ it will take some time, and there will be no one who can compare to the care and the personality that your daughter offered to her patients. I'm sure that there are others who will offer professional care ~ but they won't be like Dr. Finley. I miss her, my husband misses her, and we know that our feelings are nothing like what you are feeling. yet, we share with you a little, and that links us in a way that touches us greatly. So we send you our thoughts, prayers and care. Jean & Mike Fallon.


David S Shupe ~ November 4, 2015: We would personally like to thank all the friends, relatives and family members who so eloquently voiced their sympathy, well-wishes, concern and prayers for Pam's immediate family (husband Scot, son Sam and daughter Heather), and us in the Facebook postings. The hundreds of expressions of concern and reminiscings about Pam were said so beautifully that they brought tears to our eyes. These came from Pam's friends in kindergarten, elementary school, high school, college, optometry school, her optometry practice and the Virginia Beach and Roanoke neighborhoods she primarily lived in all of her life. Also have to mention church friends, family, relatives and special friends who so faithfully supported her throughout her 3 1/2 year battle. At the visitation and funeral services on Saturday and Sunday, October 24 and 25, at the Bonsack Baptist Church in Roanoke, VA, over 600 well-wishers attended. This was quite overwhelming, and I believe all of them must have come through the receiving lines. When Pam made friends, I believe she considered you friends for life.

The Bible, the inerrant Word of God, tells us that we should give THANKS FOR EVERYTHING! You know, it's terribly difficult to thank God for losing a daughter, wife, mother, or sister to death, and especially more so through losing one through the hated disease of breast cancer. But Pam's faith allowed her to manifest a positive attitude throughout her entire ordeal, never complaining or saying, "why me, Lord? While she hated leaving her son, daughter, husband, her devoted loved ones and her dear friends, she knew she would be in God's presence when her suffering was over. So if she could see a silver lining and a light at the end of the tunnel, so should we do the same. In this vein, we composed the following poem in her honor 10 days after she triumphantly crossed over that bridge to forever be with the Lord, family and friends who had gone on before.

Re-shared this poem 1 year later on October 21, 2016. Thirteen people liked it: Elisa Levy Harris, Karie Button, Amy Fermil Spruill, John Shupe, Ruth Ann Vaughan, Beverly Hurd, Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell, David Little, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Debbie Clinebell Witt, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Pat Oakley Shupe and Lisa Rice Davenport.
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MEMORIAM TO PAMELA SHUPE FINLEY!
(February 25, 1969 ~ October 18, 2015)

Pam in Outer Banks, NC.

IN EVERYTHING GIVE THANKS:

In everything give thanks,
Even when an only Daughter dies?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
Pam's safe with God above the skies.

In everything give thanks,
Even when I'm going ballistic?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
For God turns impossible into simplistic.

In everything give thanks,
Even when not hearing, "I Love You Dad?"
Yes, in everything give thanks,
Pam now lives where everyone is glad.

In everything give thanks,
Even when you lose a devoted Wife?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
Pam's free of all turmoil & strife.

In everything give thanks,
Even when the house is so forlorn?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
Pam wears a Crown of Life for being re-born.

In everything give thanks,
Even when we no longer hear Pam's voice?
Yes in everything give thanks,
Where Pam is, she will forever rejoice.

In everything give thanks,
Even when a loving Mother of 2 is dead?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
Pam has followed where God has led.

In everything give thanks,
As we no longer feel her gentle caress?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
For Pam is no longer under any duress.

In everything give thanks,
Even when we feel so all alone?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
For God is still on the throne.

In everything give thanks,
Even when an only Sister is no more?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
Pam is where there are joys galore.

In everything give thanks,
Even when the family is still weeping?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
For Pam's soul, God is safely keeping.

In everything give thanks,
As a Best Friend bids a final farewell?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
For living this life, Pam did excel.

In everything give thanks,
Even when a Special Friend fades away?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
"Don't worry, I'll be fine," our Pam did say.

In everything give thanks,
Even when when we're heartbroken?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
For the Lord God has spoken.

In everything give thanks,
Even when Pam's life is over & done?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
She told me, "I'll be okay in the long run."

In everything give thanks,
Even when her life here no longer exists?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
Pam said, "God has a higher purpose in all this."

In everything give thanks,
Even with Pam, we can no longer trod?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
For this is the divine will of God.

In everything give thanks,
Even when we miss Pam so much?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
There'll be a glorious reunion as such.

In everything give thanks,
Even when we miss Pam's sweet smile?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
For we'll see Pam again in a little while.

In everything give thanks,
Even if we miss her warm embrace?
Yes, in everything give thanks,
For Pam has won the final race.

In everything give thanks.

WE'LL NEVER FORGET YOU PAM

LOVE ALWAYS
Your Loving Family, Relatives & Friends
Composed by Her Dad
October 28, 2015

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POEM RESPONSE

Twenty-nine people like this: Rick Hensley, Jared Shupe, David Gene Shupe, Scot Finley, Jim Nicholson, Lisa Rice Davenport, Samson Shupe, Trisha Nicole Polidore, Ruth Ann Vaughan, Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland, Stephen Wheatley, John Cathy Payne, Beverly Hurd, Jamie Nicholson, Geri Elliott, Laurie Holmes, CeCe Edmonds Offidani, Larry Peacock, Michele Schmitt White, Michelle Shupe Wheatley, Judy Kidd, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Jane Morgan Palisoul, Amy Fermil Spruill, Elisa Levy Harris, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Norma Littleton Forbush, Pat Oakley Shupe and Norm Fontana.

Nancy Davis: You certainly have my sympathy in losing such a wonderful daughter.

David S Shupe Appreciate that Nancy, and a wonderful daughter she was without question. As the old adage goes, "Our loss is heaven's gain."

Amy Fermil Spruill: Very nice poem for Pam! She will surely be missed but we hold on to the fact that we will see her again. Praise God!!

David S Shupe: Thanks Amy. Certainly we do not grieve as others that have no hope, for indeed, we know we'll see her over on the other side. I know she'll be waiting and looking for all her friends to join her one happy day when life on earth will no longer be!

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Wonderful truth in your poem David S Shupe. Truth based on God's Word is where we find our strength and purpose, just like Pam. I am challenged to give thanks but I have been doing so and I do feel God's pleasure and peace. Pray the same for you.

David S Shupe: What faith you display Janet Joyce. So encouraging for all who know Christ.

Ruth Ann Vaughan: So well said. Thank you for sharing this. Hugs to you.

David S Shupe: Nice of you to say so Ruth Ann. Glad to be able to share what God put on my heart. So glad to meet , greet and give you a hug, as well as receive one from you at Pam's weekend services.

Elisa Levy Harris: A beautiful poem for a beautiful lady.

David S Shupe Appreciate your "beautiful" comments too Lisa. I know you'll so miss sitting and chatting with her at both daughter's soccer matches.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Beautifully said, dear brother David!!! It brought tears and smiles!!! As the old song said, "Heaven Will Surely Be Worth It All"!!! Praying for God's daily peace, comfort, grace and strength for all the family!!! We love you!!!

David S Shupe: Thanks Joy. I can truthfully say I had tears in my eyes when I wrote it. Indeed, heaven will be worth everything we will ever experience in this old world, no doubt about it.

Pat Oakley Shupe: This is beautiful David.

David S Shupe: Thanks Pat, nice of you to say that.

Bill Morgan: Thank you, David S Shupe. It was good to meet you after all these years. Heaven gets sweeter.

David S Shupe: Thanks Bill. The meeting was mutually beneficial. Yes, while we still have many friends and loved ones here, we have many up there, and with the Lord Jesus, the transition from earth to glory will be so much easier.

Annick Maubrey Hughes: How special David!

David S Shupe: Thanks! It's because Pam was a very Special person, so it's easy to write about her.

John Cathy Payne: A lovely tribute for a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing as it brings us all in closer. We love you and continue to keep you all in our prayers. Cathy.

David S Shupe: Thanks Cathy ~ So glad Pam had the opportunity to know you as a little child, as you had a big influence on her life. I'll never forget it.

John Cathy Payne: And she lived to influence my life. So thankful to have known her. Cathy

Linda Pitts Lane: Uncle David, That tribute is so beautiful. We love you all and our prayers are going up for you.

David S Shupe: Thanks for your prayers and your comments Linda. Appreciate them all.

CeCe Edmonds Offidani: Amazing poem, so comforting to everyone I'm sure...God bless her husband and two beautiful children...

David S Shupe So nice of you to say so CeCe. Appreciate your blessings for her family. Surely they need them.

Laurie Holmes: Thank you for sharing your heart, David!

David S Shupe: You're welcome Laurie, and I well remember when you poured out your heart for your 16 year old son, Aaron, as you dealt with his untimely drowning by writing the story of his life in 16 chapters, which depicted the 16 years of his life. May God's continued blessings be upon you, Arlan, Ariana and Arelia, that his memories will continue to sustain you day by day.

Joy Shupe Nicholson shared your post on November 4, 2015: Joy Shupe Nicholson, Linda Wells Jackson and Carolyn Johnson like this.

Norma Littleton Forbush shared your post: For my friends and family that prayed for my cousin PAM while she was suffering with this awful thing called cancer I THANK YOU.....She suffers no more, she is forever with JESUS.. I talked to her by Tex the day before she passed and she passed on my birthday...........10.18.15. Willie Radford Sr. and 7 others like this.

Julie Wilson Evans: Sorry for your loss.

Melody Lane Popo on Nov. 8, 2015: Thank you for sharing those lovely words about Pam. She was a beautiful woman of God. Shortly before Pam passed away, she sent me a card sharing her love, prayers, and encouragement. Even with all she was going through, Pam thought of others. My prayers are with you all.

David S Shupe: Melody ~ Thank you for sharing that. So encouraging. Two days before she died, Pam sent me a text message asking for your new address. I thought at the time that was what she had in mind, to encourage you over your loss of Bob, as well as your medical condition, but she didn't say. She was quite a lady for sure, and it was in her nature to be thinking of others, even when she was so close to the end herself. Our prayers are still with you every day, by the way, Melody!



POEM COMPOSED FOR PAM
ON FACEBOOK October 22, 2015

Thank God that Pam now has a heavenly address. We don't know what it is yet, but one day we will. We often refer to heaven as on the other side, that is, when we get to the other side. Well, to get to the other side, we have to cross a bridge (normally). I composed a poem less than two years ago about that bridge to the other side. The title of the poem was inspired by our good friend, Gayle King Harris, who we were privileged to hear her sing a song by the same title many times in Norfolk and Virginia Beach, VA. So here 'tis: Brian K. Minnix, Amy Fermil Spruill, Joanna Gunnells Shupe and 64 others like this.

A bridge to heaven.

I SEE A BRIDGE*

I see a bridge
straight and wide.
Leading us to
the other side.

On this bridge
there is no toll.
The fee's been paid
For young & old.

What a structure,
built to last.
Those who travel it
have a forgiven past.

Jesus paid our price
& arranged our passage.
We'll be traveling light,
needing no baggage.

A matter of faith
in the Son of God.
Going the way
other Saints have trod.

Spirits of loved ones
preceded our journey.
Made possible by
our Heavenly Attorney.

It's our connection
from earth to glory.
Leave here, arrive there
that's our story.

Not by any works
that we have done.
It's all made possible
by God's only Son.

We've made the transition
to heaven above.
Because of Christ's mercy
and God's infinite love.

We will have a mansion
prepared by Jesus Christ.
Over 2000 years in preparation,
No brainer to say it'll suffice.

Christians will receive
an eternal pass
Into the portals of glory.
Home at last...
HOME AT LAST!

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Faith builds a bridge across the gulf of death.

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GOD BLESS!

Photo of Pamela Shupe Finley.

David S. Shupe
February 19, 2014

*This poem was inspired by our long-time friend,
Gayle King Harris of Norfolk, VA who sang a song
by the same title at Norview and Kempsville, VA.

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Judy Kidd: David, your words are beautiful; makes one want to see the other side. I am sure Jean and Pam are rejoicing night and day ~ October 22, 2015. David S Shupe: Yes Judy, I'm sure they are too. We're grieving, while they are rejoicing and receiving! Knowing that makes it easier to accept.

Eleanor Kidd: I am so sorry David; she was a beautiful person and I see how much she looked like Jean. You have a lovely family. I would love to see LITTLE DAVID, been years. Love you all. David S Shupe: Thanks Sis. Kidd. You very well know the separation anxiety caused by the loss of a special person in your life. Dave's still fine, except he's taking loss of his sister worse than he did the loss of his mother. Love to see you too.

Janie Christopher Chapman: She is truly HOME now. We will miss her, but we will join her one day. Prayers for you and all of her family. heart emoticon. David S Shupe: Thanks Janie, for your support & prayers.

Noreta S. Morgan: David, what a beautiful poem....such a good explanation of that "other side". David S Shupe: Thank you Noreta. Glad you liked it.

Wanda Reed: Loved this poem and beautiful Pam!

Catherine J Keiser: Thank you for another beautiful poem, David. My prayers continue for you and all the Shupes and Finleys. David S Shupe: Thank you Catherine for your comments and most of all for your prayers.

Dewey Stevens: Well stated David. Beautiful poem. David S Shupe: Thanks Dewey!

Charlotte Boyd: Such a beautiful poem. We will miss Pam so much. She was such a beautiful person, inside and out. David S Shupe: Thank you Charlotte for your touching comments. Pam was a unique daughter. Naturally, we will so miss her smile, her laughter, her love, but thank God, we have such good memories.

Norma Littleton Forbush shared your post October 22, 2015: My gold is to someday have a Heavenly address. 6 people like this.

Norma Littleton Forbush To all who don't know...Pam is my cousin......Our mothers were sister's ..................... Her father wrote this poem......October 31, 2015.

Elsa Gloria Olivos Carrasco shared your post October 22, 2015.

John Cathy Payne shared your post October 22, 2015: Pam was one of our young people in our early ministry at Norview. What a beautiful poem written by a great Father and man of God. God bless the family in your loss. - John. You and 25 others like this.

Pamella Williams: Oh Sister John Cathy Payne I read it and am blessed by his word. Beautiful words, touching and down right inspirational. May her soul rest in peace . John Cathy Payne Thank you so much.

David S Shupe:Thanks John and Cathy, for your comforting words as well as words of others. The support from such friends as you two has been tremendous and eases the burden of the loss of Pam.

Linda Lawson Aiken: What a beautiful and inspirational writing. God bless this precious soul's family.

John Cathy Payne We continue to pray with and for you. She was extraordinary. Cathy. David S Shupe: We surely appreciate that Cathy. Thanks.

Joy Shupe Nicholson shared your post October 22, 2015. Jamie Nicholson Klink, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Joy Shupe Nicholson and 4 others like this.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Beautiful David!!! What a comfort to know!!!

Linda Wells Jackson: Beautiful!

Like · Reply · October 25 at 1:00am Sue Graham shared your post October 22, 2015: Very good & worth sharing.



David S Shupe November 2, 2015: Sometimes we may feel no one knows, and no one cares what happens and what we're going through in this life. However, we know that's not true, for family, friends, relatives show their support and prayers when crises and tragedies occur in anyone's family. You only have to come on Facebook and see the waves of support erupt from many voices. And, to top it off, God knows all about what happens to each of us, and someway, somehow He's there to pick us up and give us strength to face each new day.

POEM COMPOSED FOR PAM
ON FACEBOOK November 2, 2015

The good Lord knows.

THE GOOD LORD KNOWS!

The good Lord knows all about it,
Whatever my problem, never doubt it.
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

When I feel down and put out,
But I don't know what it's all about
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

When I've been unjustly treated,
And I feel like I've been defeated
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

When I'm unable to find needed relief,
And no one is around to share my grief
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

When I'm burdened down with care,
I need help, but there's no one there.
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

When my loved ones leave the nest,
And I experience such unrest
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

When I've done the best I can,
But things still get out of hand
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

When I try, but still I fail,
I continue to try, but do not prevail
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

When I lose my special person,
It hurts to smile as things just worsen
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

When it's time for a pet to depart,
The existing void tugs at my heart
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

When my problems seem to mount,
And my solutions don't seem to count
. . .The Good Lord Knows.

If the good Lord knows for sure,
Will He help me to endure
. . .YES ~ for the Good Lord Knows!

GOD BLESS!

Photo of David Shupe.

David S. Shupe
August 11, 2015

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Theresa Ayers Baldwin, Kylene Shupe, Joy Shupe Nicholson and 21 others like this.

Judy Kidd: You and your family are very much loved and have always had a part in my heart from your kindness and strength joy and peace....thank you. November 2, 2015. David S Shupe: Nice of you to say so Judy, but that's the kind of lady you are. You know we were big fans of your Dad and Mom in Norview, and I'll never forget how much Pam loved you as a baby, then a child of 4 and 5 years old, and also how much you adored her.

CeCe Edmonds Offidani: I know how you feel David with all of my heart...i feel sometimes all alone, but I know that God knows and that I'm never alone ...the poem is amazing...beautiful, and the words ring so true...I hope to visit soon. God bless you. David S Shupe: Wow CeCe ~ You certainly know how make a person feel humble. Thank you and such comments help to make the writings all worthwhile. November 3, 2015.

Amy Fermil Spruill: Been thinking about you. David S Shupe: Thanks Amy.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Beautiful, my dear brother, David, and so true!!! Thanks for sharing!!! smile emoticon Love you!!!David S Shupe Thanks Joy. So wonderful having a caring sister, and you're welcome!

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POEM RESPONSE

Emailed this poem to Scot, Sam, Heather, Elaine, Dave, Lisa, Amy, Karen, Janet & Ruth Ann on November 17, 2015, along with comments.

Dave G. Shupe, November 17, 2015: So touching, Dad! Thank you for sharing your gift of poetry to express your thoughts which I wholeheartedly embrace. Love, Dave.

Janet & Kevin Cleveland: To: David Shupe: Your poem captures our disappointment in unanswered prayers, our optimistic hope for healing, and most importantly our knowing He was there all the time. Thanks Mr. Shupe, Janet ~ Sent from my iPad.

Posted this poem on Facebook November 18, 2015, one month after Pam changed her earthly address to a heavenly address.

David S Shupe added 2 new photos — with Pamela Shupe Finley. November 18, 2015 5:40am.


Remembering Pam one month later:

It has now been exactly one month since Pam made the transition from earth to heaven. While thinking of Pam, I composed the following poem just 12 days after she crossed over that bridge to her heavenly abode. I never in my wildest dreams ever thought that she would be leaving us this way. Then, when it happened I felt deflated, discouraged, and abandoned by God. Didn't He even hear all the prayers that were prayed for her; didn't He see the heartfelt tears? Where are you Lord? Don't You even care? We probably all felt about the same way. Then I realized just as Pam had told me a few days before she died, that "God must have a higher purpose in all this."

Though I still held on to the belief she was going to be okay, and did to the very end. I know that "whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord's," and as Paul said, "To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord." Also, as Jesus Himself said, "He that believes in Me shall never die," for they will be transferred from earth to heaven, to be forever with Him. In many instances, I could recount, and I know husband Scot could tell many more, that the hand of God was with Pam throughout her ordeal all the way to the end. In this vein, while we couldn't physically see Him, we could sense His Holy Presence. I'm assured He was there all along the way for Pam and her family, for the Bible tells us He's omnipresent and is with us always, even to the end of the world. HE WAS THERE. . .ALL THE TIME! Amen!

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Photo of Pamela Shupe Finley.

HE WAS THERE. . .ALL THE TIME!

I was so heart-broken
And all alone,
Wondering if God
Was still on the throne.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

When an only daughter
Regrettably dies first.
One can only visualize
That this is the worse.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

It's the natural thing to do,
To question WHY.
Why did my daughter
Have to die?
He Was There. . .All The Time!

Why did my Pam
Have to go through "hell."
Thousands of prayers,
All seemingly to no avail.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

However, God kept her sane,
With a positive attitude.
Having great FAITH,
Gave her great latitude.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

A void exists in the household,
A faithful wife totally gone.
The house is now empty,
Though Scot is not all alone.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

The confusion of why this;
A loving Mother of 2 is no more.
For Heather and Sam,
I'd certainly like to implore.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

From an only sister Pam,
To an only brother Dave.
Do not worry or needlessly fret,
For you have memories to save.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

To my very best friends,
From Pam, your best friend.
I'm so sorry our time together,
Came to an untimely end.
Do not be sad or forlorn,
For we'll see each other again.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

Pam had 4 operations,
Biopsies, chemo & radiation.
Lost all her hair twice,
Pam voiced no trepidation.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

Never quite seen anyone,
Take death so positively.
No blame or lamenting,
No downside negatively.
He Was There. . .All The Time.

Pam was aware her life here,
Was coming to an end.
But a new life over the horizon,
Was just about to begin.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

The hurt is there,
You better believe.
Her physical healing,
She didn't receive.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

However, God took her body,
Out of all suffering.
In heaven, He's there,
To guard & be her buffering.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

Pam was at peace with God,
Her faith anchored in Christ.
She knew His love for her,
Would eternally suffice.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

Because Christ was victorious,
Pam was victorious too.
He was her paid ticket to heaven,
As her life on earth was through.
He Was There. . .All The Time!

THANK YOU LORD FOR BEING THERE
. . .ALL THE TIME ~ FOR PAM!

Pam in Outer Banks, NC.

WE LOVE YOU PAM. . .SEE YOU THERE!
Scot, Sam, Heather
Dad, Elaine, Dave,
Lisa, Amy, Karen,
Janet, Ruth Ann

Composed by Pam's Dad
October 30, 2015

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POEM RESPONSE

Emailed this poem to Scot, Sam, Heather, Elaine, Dave, Lisa, Amy, Karen, Janet & Ruth Ann on November 17, 2015, along with comments.

Dave G. Shupe, November 17, 2015: So touching, Dad! Thank you for sharing your gift of poetry to express your thoughts which I wholeheartedly embrace. Love, Dave.

Janet & Kevin Cleveland: To: David Shupe: Your poem captures our disappointment in unanswered prayers, our optimistic hope for healing, and most importantly our knowing He was there all the time. Thanks Mr. Shupe, Janet ~ Sent from my iPad.

Posted this poem on Facebook November 18, 2015, one month after Pam changed her earthly address to a heavenly address.

Kathy LaGrange, Larry Peacock, Shari Allen, Norma Littleton Forbush and 80 others like this.

Stacy Poole November 18, 2015: Beautifully said. May you feel Him with you today as you remember Pam. David S Shupe: Thanks Stacy, just as the poem states, He's there all the time. We might feel at times that our prayers are not getting any traction, but his presence is there just the same.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: What a comforting reminder for us all, dear brother David!!! Yes, even through the tears and sorrow, the loneliness, the emptiness, He is there...reminding us that this life is short in comparison to eternity and we shall meet again!!! Thank God for the truths of His Word and His anointing on you to bless not only you and the family but many, many others who are going through the same thing!!! November 18, 2015. He does indeed comfort us to make us comforters!!! (2 Corinthians 1:3-7). May God continue to give His comfort, peace, grace and strength for each day!!! Love you so much!!! David S Shupe: Thank you Joy. Can always count on you for a Biblical Word. We only write what the good Lord puts on our heart, and it is our hope indeed that others may be comforted even as God has comforted us in our time of travail.

Elisa Levy Harris Beautiful.David S Shupe: Thanks Elisa, hope to see you Saturday.

Jeffery Lee Williams: Beautiful expression of the True Love between a father and daughter and their God who loves them both more than they do each other and is always there still! Still praying for you Uncle David , Scott, and kids, and all that were touched by Pam's life. David S Shupe: Thanks Jeff. Of course, God is our first love, since "he who loves son or daughter more than me, is not worthy of me." But our offspring are a close second, and hopefully all others follow, then ourselves last, if we're following the Biblical pattern.

Judy Kidd: God is ever so present....may God keep his arms around the family! We shall meet again Pam ... David S Shupe: Yes He is Judy, and He has. Know that will be a joyous meeting when each of us see our loved ones that have preceded us in that heavenly utopia.

Pat Oakley Shupe: This is beautiful David. And what an encouragement for others going through a similar circumstance, having the same thoughts and questions. You have led them to a correct conclusion: God is there, all the time! David S Shupe: Thanks Pat. Most of us may not realize just how much we do depend on the good Lord, until we reach the end of our rope, as we go through life's trials. However, this life wasn't meant to be permanent; just a rehearsal for the one to come.

Lisa Hall: Friends with Scot Finley and 3 others. So very beautiful. Miss her too. David S Shupe: Thank you Lisa for both thoughts. Makes it a little more bearable knowing that others miss her too. Hope to see you Saturday in Richmond. David, I wont be attending tournament this coming weekend, Scot Finley is taking Emma for me and I hope the girls have fun. But I hope you have a lovely Thanksgiving. Lots of love. David S Shupe: Lisa Hall Will miss seeing you, but hope you and family have a blessed Thanksgiving too.

Lu Wright · Friends with Scot Finley: Wonderful testimony to God's unfailing presence! David S Shupe: Thanks Lu; His Word confirms his everlasting presence.

Andria Padgett McClellan: Sending love and prayers your way. What a beautiful poem about a beautiful friend and woman. David S Shupe: Sending thanks for all your generous comments. Appreciate your prayers.

Michele Schmitt White: Beautiful! David S Shupe: Thanks Michele; one word says it all, but I'd like to transfer it to our Pam and her life she lived so full!

Michelle Shupe Wheatley: Love you... Sending hugs your way. David S Shupe: Thank you Michelle; we accept!

Marjorie Latzko: I needed this. Thank you. David S Shupe: If it meets only one need, such as yours, then it was worthwhile to write it and post it. Thank you for saying it Marjorie.

Voner Ayers Spencer: Beautiful!!!!! He is truly ALWAYS there!! God is so good-I'll continue to pray for your family:). David S Shupe: Thanks Voner for sharing; and yes He is and always will be. We do appreciate your prayers. I'll always remember you as a sweet and lovable girl from your early childhood in Aragona Village in Virginia Beach.

Carolyn Krisha · Friends with Sam Finley: The "why" can never be answered but the "who" is evident in Pam's life. What a wonderful poem. David S Shupe: Thanks Carolyn. Appreciate your comments.

Catherine J Keiser: A sweet morning blessing this is, David! Thank you for again sharing your gifts of writing and faith as a comfort to all who knew and loved Pam. So beautiful! Continuing prayers for you and all your family. David S Shupe: Thank you Cathy. Glad it was a blessing. Comforting comments, and thanks for your prayers.

Angela Littleton Miller: Beautiful... David S Shupe: Thanks Angela. Beautiful she was.

Cheryl Shupe Baker: That was beautiful, Uncle David!! Sending love and hugs to you and the family!! David S Shupe Thanks Cheryl! Appreciate your sentiments.

Louise Kinsler: You are an amazing writer Dave. Thank you for reminding us all in your poems how much faith you have and remind everyone about God's promise to those who have faith. David S Shupe: In multiple instances, the Bible declares that "the Just shall live by FAITH," and we walk by FAITH and not by sight." So FAITH is essential for a successful walk with God. Our prayer is that God would increase our FAITH even more. Thanks for your comments, but the writing is easy when done by the computer. God does the hard part, for He supplies the thoughts, words and the context for the writings.

Jordan Lugar Purdham · Friends with Pamela Shupe Finley: Beautifully said and written. David S Shupe Thanks Jordan. Nice of you to say so.

Brian K. Minnix: Thank you for sharing your heart felt words... I continue to pray for you and your family to heal and feel the loving comfort from God. 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 So we do not lose heart. hough our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal. David S Shupe: Thanks Brian for your prayers and your scriptural encouragement. The Word really means everything to us, from a child even, and that was a long time ago. And I know it's the same for you, for I remember how you were brought up to love, respect and serve the Lord, remembering all the good times at Norview. God bless!

Laurie Holmes: Thank you, David. Your writing is your healing, as was mine! David S Shupe: You're absolutely right Laurie. You'd think it would be just the opposite as it keeps your mind focused on what happened, but it really does help one to cope as you're concentrating on the positive things that happened rather than the negative.

Amy Fermil Spruill: I thought of her and you and the family today when I realized the date. Continuing to pray for your comfort. Pam will always be missed. She did receive the ultimate healing! Take comfort in that. David S Shupe: Thanks Amy. It does comfort our hearts knowing that she is completely well and whole at this very moment. It also helps us to know that Pam had such friends as you in her life, friends who care and express their concern in such a commendable way.

Charlotte Boyd · Friends with Scot Finley: This tribute is beautiful. Pam was a wonderful person and will be missed by so many. David S Shupe: Thanks Charlotte. Your comments are so appropriate and appreciated.

Dianne Massie Leftwich · Friends with Scot Finley A beautiful, quiet and strong lady who is with her Lord now. David S Shupe:Thank you Dianne; there is consolation in knowing she is in the presence of the Lord.

Norma Littleton Forbush: Pam was very SPECIAL to her Dad, but Her Dad was very SPECIAL to Pam too. She loved her Dad and hated to see him worry...The good thing about her passing was she knew her saviour and she knew she had a special place waiting there with Him... Thank you Jesus for showing her that...........David S Shupe: Thank you Norma. Pam often told me she wasn't worried about herself, as she would be okay, but she was very concerned about leaving Heather, Sam, Scot, and us of course. But mainly that her guiding hand would no longer be around to help the kids do such important tasks like putting their clothes in the washer and dryer, making sure they're properly attired when they go out, etc. The important everyday things of life. I'm real sure though that Scot's and her training are sufficient to keep them on the right track.

Norma Littleton Forbush shared your post. Pam's Dad wrote this beautiful poem 30 days after she went home to be with JESUS. It's still hard to believe....We can's question GOD... He know best....Three people like this.

Norma Littleton Forbush shared your post on November 19, 2015: Pam's Dad wrote this beautiful poem 30 days after she went home to be with JESUS. It's still hard to believe....We can's question GOD... He know best....Sophia Park likes this.

Nicole Townsend: What an encouraging testimony. So beautiful....David S Shupe: Thanks Nicole for your generous comments.

Joy Shupe Nicholson shared your post November 18, 2015. Jamie Nicholson Klink, Jim Nicholson, Joy Shupe Nicholson and 13 others like this. What a comforting reminder for us all, dear brother David!!! Yes, even through the tears and sorrow, the loneliness, the emptiness, He is there...reminding us that this life is short in comparison to eternity and we shall meet again!!! Thank God for the truths of His Word and His anointing on you to bless not only you and the family but many, many others who are going through the same thing!!! He does indeed comfort us to make us comforters!!! (2 Corinthians 1:3-7). May God continue to give His comfort, peace, grace and strength for each day!!! Love you so much!!!

Patti Scattergood Campbell: This is beautiful. David S Shupe: Thanks Charlotte. Your comments are so appropriate and appreciated.

Lorrie Button November 24, 2015: Dear David and Elaine, Please forgive me for not responding to you sooner, David, regarding the sad loss of your daughter Pam. I'm sure she was a wonderful lady, and your poem shared the pain you felt from your loss. Your poem did touch my heart that God is there for us and he finds a way for us when there seems to be no way. My church at home, Ocean Pointe Christian Church, wanted to do a story on me. It's posted on my Face Book Page. I have faced health challenges and financial challenges, but God has always pulled me through; yet I know there is eternal life through him. May God bless you both in the month ahead, Thanksgiving and Christmas Time. Love to you in Christ, Lorrie.

Lorrie Button November 24, 2015: Hi David. Thank you for your comment back to me 're my story on Facebook. Hope you received my message relaying my condolences very belatedly 're Pam transitioning to be with God. The poem you wrote was from the heart. I hope to see you and Elaine sometime in Dec. After the ninteenth. Fond Regards. Lorrie.

David S Shupe: Thanks Lorrie for your condolences for Pam. Yes, I did read your comments and they are very much appreciated and I, too, am dilatory in answering back what with everything that's been going on in our lives for the past month or so. Looking forward to seeing you over the Christmas holiday season. Love in Christ, David & Elaine.


Jesus welcoming saints to heaven.

WELCOME HOME PAM!

Forgive me for writing another poem,
But we so hated Pam had to be going.
She was a dedicated Wife, Mother,
Sister and Daughter like no other.

When a loved one leaves the nest,
And is gone to their eternal rest.
Then we which are still grieving,
So saddened they had to be leaving.

The pain & heartache as Pam sailed away,
My knees began to buckle & my body sway.
Lord, dear Lord, give me strength I pray,
NO, I'll never be the same for many a day.

Missing her still; tears keep flowing,
Happy she's pain free, this we are knowing.
It will take time, and we'll never forget,
Missing her sweet & gentle ways with regret.

Said a fond farewell in our heart,
Wished Pam didn't have to depart.
Waved goodbye as she left the port,
Knew we could no longer offer support.

On yonder shore, loved ones waving hello,
She'd finally arrived from earth below.
Mother, Grandparents, Friends & Saints of old,
Together, they walk the streets of gold.

Oh what a heartfelt greeting, and glory divine,
You are forever His, and He is eternally thine.
Your earthly trials & troubles are in the past,
Now only peace and happiness to forever last.

Where Pam is, there's no more pain or suffering,
No more worry, heartache, sorrow or crying.
For her, the former things have passed away,
Neither will there be any more parting or dying.

Come meet the Master, He's looking for you,
He's the One who helped you make it through.
Of course you knew that, for it is widely known,
No more suffering will you have to condone.

Pam paused and looked around, & what did occur,
Her glorious Heavenly Savior coming towards her.
With a face full of compassion, dressed in white,
Meeting the Master was such a pure delight.

When she looked up and saw His smiling face;
He walked up and gave her such a warm embrace.
The soft expression & love He emitted all the while,
Tenderly whispering, "Welcome Home, My Child."

WE LOVE & MISS YOU PAM!

Photo of Pam Shupe Finley.

LOVING FAMILY & FRIENDS!

Composed by Pam's Dad
November 24, 2015

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POEM RESPONSE

Hand carried this poem to Norma and John Forbush on February 24, 2016, when we met them for a late lunch at Red Lobster.

Posted this poem to Elisa Harris' & Debbie Clinebell Witt's Facebook message page on Dec. 25, 2016, in honor of Pam's 47th birthday.

Elisa Levy Harris: David, all of your poems are creative and beautiful. Thank you very much for sharing it with me. I do not think you are over posting at all, especially with all you have been through. I know how hard it was to lose my parents but I can't even imagine your heartache of losing your daughter. Especially someone as amazing as Pam. In her too-short life she touched so many people in such a positive and loving way. I think you are entitled to post as many poems as you want to on YOUR Facebook page and I don't think anyone will object. I for one enjoy remembering all of the wonderful things about Pam. Thanks again for sharing and this is such a great picture of her! So happy!!

David S. Shupe: Thanks Elisa for your loving and caring words. They really do mean so much to us. Since I have known you, I have so appreciated your friendship and support for Pam while she was still with us, and for Scot, Heather and Sam. Certainly what real Christianity is all about. You have been through so much in you own life, being a cancer survivor and losing a beloved parent. Guess this is part of the reason you are able to encourage others in need. You are a blessing! Thank you again.

Debbie Clinebell Witt: Oh my goodness. Thank you so much for sharing this with me. I read it through tears! Since we just recently became FB friends,I need to look back over your timeline for other poems. This is absolutely beautiful and I'm sure the others are as well. You truly have a gift, and Pam is the inspiration. She's still with you, deep inside, inspiring your words of fond memories, pain, sorrow, joy, hope, peace and love. Feel free to always include me by messaging or email. My email address is: debbie.witt@homeinstead.com God bless you on this special day!

David S. Shupe: Oh Debbie ~ Thanks so much for your beautiful words. Believe me, they mean a lot to us. We so appreciated your friendship and support for Pam, Scot, Heather and Sam. Thanks also for giving me your email address. Will add it to my listing. It's friends like you that show what Christianity is all about. Yes, we did write several poems for Pam and posted them immediately after she went home to be with the good Lord on October 18th. Hopefully they've blessed others as much as they blessed me in writing them. Thanks again, David.

Emailed this poem on February 25, 2016 in honor of Pam's 47th birthday to the following people: Elaine Shupe, Dave Shupe, Janet Cassell Cleveland, Ruth Ann Vaughan, Lisa Rice Davenport, Amy Jarvis Gould, Geri Willey Elliott, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Jason Nicholson, Pat Oakley Shupe, Sam & Donna Shupe, Jean & Carl Swanson, David & Vivian Swanson and Kathie Miller Maxwell.

Pat Oakley Shupe: This is beautiful David. Thank you for sharing it with us. May God's comfort and strength be yours as you walk this out. Sent from my iPhone.

Janet & Kevin Cleveland: Great tribute, Mr. Shupe. I love your calculations...I now know exactly where Pam got her knack for remembering/tracking dates/years/special moments. Today was a bit sad for me. I could not look at a picture of Pam with crying. The reality just gets stronger each day. I am in disbelief. Talked with Scot today. He seemed in good spirits. I texted and left Heather a message. Kevin and I are hoping to go visit next weekend. I know it was more heartbreaking for you...almost 47 years of celebrating a daughter's birthday has to be such a loss. Praying God's peace for you. Warm regards, Janet.

Samson Shupe: That was beautiful, David, as are all of your heartfelt poems. We still pray for you and your family every day that God will give you peace and comfort through this whole ordeal. Love you guys. I need to come up on some weekday soon just to spend some time together.

Kathie Maxwell: David...with tears I read the poem . My heart goes out to the family and you. Oh the mysteriousness of God. David...you are not overdoing it...ever. You have a gift and are using it to encourage others. Things going well and trusting God. ....Just very busy. I am sooooooo glad you had my email too. I have a friend who lost her wonderful Christian daughter to cancer a few months ago at the age of 18. She is very depressed and angry at God. My heart aches for all.

Ruth Ann Vaughan: Thanks for sharing this. She has been on my mind so much today. I do definitely remind myself every day when I think about how much I miss her that she is pain & suffering free... and then I just smile. :-). Many hugs to you today...RA.

Amy Gould: Love this so much and miss her terribly! Thank you for this poem, it has lifted up my spirits, been thinking of her all week! Love and much thanks, Amy.

Joy Nicholson: That was all so beautiful, David!!! The tears did flow as I read it. You expressed your feelings so well and it was easy to identify with what you said!!! I cannot imagine the heartache of losing your precious daughter, especially one so sweet and special as Pam was!!! I think we will always miss them on earth and feel the void in our hearts and lives!!! My only comfort in remembering our loved ones gone to be with Jesus is the fact that, like you stated, they are with Jesus and other family members rejoicing and breathing in that celestial air!!! How I long to be with them sometimes – or even to just catch a glimpse of what they are experiencing in Heaven, but, the good Lord knows, if we caught a glimpse, we would long to be there even more! Remembering the song that Mother liked so much:

“I’ve got a longing, I am homesick to go to a land without heartaches, no sorrow or woe,
There’s nothing but trouble in this this world below. I’m homesick for Heaven, I’ve got a longing to go.
When I’ve sung my last song, When I’ve prayed my last prayer,
And the death angel whispers, ‘It’s time to go Home’;
T’will be good bye to friends that I’ve met on life’s way,
But I’ll see them again on that Homecoming Day…”
Probably don’t have the words just right, as I couldn’t find the lyrics, but I love that song. Thinking of you all a lot today and praying for God’s comfort and peace especially today, but every day also!!! Love you all so very much!!! Jim & Joy.

Elisa Levy Harris on February 25, 2016: David, all of your poems are creative and beautiful. Thank you very much for sharing it with me. I do not think you are over posting at all, especially with all you have been through. I know how hard it was to lose my parents but I can't even imagine your heartache of losing your daughter. Especially someone as amazing as Pam. In her too-short life she touched so many people in such a positive and loving way. I think you are entitled to post as many poems as you want to on YOUR Facebook page and I don't think anyone will object. I for one enjoy remembering all of the wonderful things about Pam. Thanks again for sharing and this is such a great picture of her! So happy!!

David S Shupe: 2/25, 10:45pm: Thanks Elisa for your loving and caring words. They really do mean so much to us. Since I have known you, I have so appreciated your friendship and support for Pam while she was still with us, and for Scot, Heather and Sam. Certainly what real Christianity is all about. You have been through so much in you own life, being a cancer survivor and losing a beloved parent. Guess this is part of the reason you are able to encourage others in need. You are a blessing! Thank you again. Elisa Levy Harris: You are welcome.

Mailed this poem to Jean and Mike Fallon on March ?????, 2016, along with the Easter Poem, "The Crucifixion."

Jean & Mike Fallon (Pam's Patients): March 23, 2016: Received a greeting card which stipulates, "Thinking of you . . .as I often do," along with a scripture which states, "Everyone whom my Father gives me will come to me. I will never turn away anyone who comes to me. ~ John 6:37.

Dear David & and Elaine, I think of you at this Easter season ~ knowing that you mourn and miss Pam, but know too, that she lives because of Christ's death and LIFE! The season offers so much hope, and I do believe that your poem that you shared expresses so beautifully that your daughter, though greatly missed here, has found her home. Thus, though painful, these days celebrate a life and a return to God's arms.

I still have not been able to bring myself to look for a new eye doctor ~ it will take some time and there will be no one who can compare to the care and the personality that your daughter offered to her patients. There are others who offer professional care, but they won't be like Dr. Finley. I miss her, my husband misses her, and we know that our feelings are nothing like what you are feeling. Yet, we share with you a little, and that links us in a way that touches us greatly. So we send you our thoughts, prayers and care, Jean & Mike Fallon.



Pam on the soccer field.

THANKS FOR THE MEMORIES PAM!

Precious memories ~ Oh, how sweet,
Pam's life is over, but is now replete.

Precious memories ~ How they linger,
More than can be counted on every finger.

Precious memories ~ We will never forget,
They'll remain with us forever, you bet.

Precious memories ~ How they sustain us,
Long as we have them, they'll maintain us.

Precious memories ~ Your warm & caring ways,
They'll remain with us all of our days.

Precious memories ~ Such a beautiful smile,
Warm and friendly was just your style.

Precious memories ~ The love that you exhibited,
There was no way it could have been prohibited.

Precious memories ~ Loved that funny little laugh,
Especially when someone committed a little gaff.

Precious memories ~ The long time friends you kept,
At making & building friendships, you were so adept.

Precious memories ~ Love you showed each patient,
Always showing respect, never complaisant.

Precious memories ~ So loyal to your dear spouse,
A loving companion, inside or outside the house.

Precious memories ~ Your devotion to Heather & Sam,
As a loving Mother, you passed every exam.

Precious memories ~ Concern for your only brother Dave,
Special consideration to him, you always gave.

Precious memories ~ Your love and respect for your Dad,
Just reminiscing about your young years makes me glad.

Precious memories ~ Respect showed to your stepmother,
She was there for you like no other.

Precious memories ~ Concern you had for each relative,
Way you treated family members was superlative.

Precious memories ~ How we do treasure them,
There is no way that we can adequately measure them.

Precious memories ~ They'll stay with us forever,
Will the time come when we'll forget you ~ NEVER!

Thank you Pam, for all the memories you provided,
Our thoughts of you will never dim, that's decided.

And thank you God, for blessing us with joy of Pam,
When You made her, You hit a Grand Slam.

WE'LL LOVE YOU FOREVER, PAM!

Captain Pam piloting the boat.

Dad, Elaine, Dave
Scot, Sam, Heather
Family & Friends Galore

Composed by: Pam's Dad
December 14, 2015

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POEM RESPONSE

David S Shupe: Posted to Facebook Timeline December 23, 2015

Thirty-seven (37) others like this: Laurie Holmes, Bonnie Christine Holcombe-Fontana, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard, Jane Morgan Palisoul, Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland, David N Vickie Brd, Geri Elliott Stephen Wheatley, Angela Littleton Miller, Eleanor Kidd, Rick Hensley, Michelle Brady Talbert, Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell, Doug Mills, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Ann Rice Cheryl Shupe Baker, Bill Morgan, John Cathy Payne, Shirley Poynter, Norm Fontana, CeCe Edmonds Offidani, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Marjorie Latzko, Ruth Owens, Lisa Rice Davenport, Andria Padgett McClellan, Sam Finley, Amy Fermil Spruill, Jeffery Lee Williams, Judy Kidd, Trisha Nicole Polidore, Jim Nicholson, Michelle Shupe Wheatley, Pam Medlin Nabers, Elisa Levy Harris, and Ruth Ann Vaughan.

12 comments 1 share Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell: Priceless! December 23, 2015 at 7:46am. David S Shupe: Just like Pam! Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell: Yes David....you are right about Pam.

Elisa Levy Harris: Missing her pretty smile and sweetness.

Voner Ayers Spencer: Beautiful! Love and prayers are with you especially during this holiday season!

Norm Fontana: So beautiful!

Judy Kidd: Sweetness!

Geri Elliott: Beautiful poem for a beautiful person who lived a life that touched so many. David S Shupe: Thanks Geri. Yes, she was and she did touch a lot of lives, for the better I might add. Thank God she had that knack.

Norma Littleton Forbush: I agree with Geri......as a cousin I have to say it is so sad for so many......but we Thank God that we know where she is......we Thank God for all the years she was here and for all the lives she touched....but even through all that, it is a sad time ...December 24 at 10:32pm. David S Shupe: Thanks Norma, for your words of comfort. It's okay to accept the mourning with the merriment of Christmas. There's room for both. It's what I call a sad but merry Christmas! Norma Littleton Forbush: We've been thinking and praying for you over the pass few days as we know what you said is so true.....We love you,,,,,,,

CeCe Edmonds Offidani: May you find comfort this Christmas knowing that Pam is not gone, she is just away, and waiting for the day that she will see you again...Merry Christmas and God bless you, Elaine,Scooby and the family...December 24 at 3:21am. David S Shupe: Thanks CeCe for your comforting words too. As noted above in Norma's comments, we'll be spending the Christmas holiday with Scot, Sam, Heather and son Dave. Wishing you and hubby a great Christmas. December 24 at 4:30am.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: So precious brother David!!! She is beholding the One that we are celebrating today, but, oh, how we wish we could hug them and hear their voices one more time here on earth!!! We will hug our families a little closer this year realizing the value of each life!!! Love you all very much!!! Give hugs and our love to yourself and each one around your table today!!! December 25 at 7:38am. David S Shupe: So true Joy. Gave Heather, Scot, Dave & Elaine a hug for you sister Joy, but Sam was working his shift at the hospital when we departed so had to do a proxy on him. We had a very nice visit with the Finley's and Dave; I called it merry but a little sad. Think everyone had a good Christmas in spite of Pam's absence silently hanging over our heads.

John Cathy Payne: Sweet tribute my friend. She continues to bring great joy as we remember her life among us. Our prayers continue for you and your family. David S Shupe: Thanks so much Cathy. Joy was evident as we shared Christmas and memories of Pam with her husband Scot, son Sam, daughter Heather and brother Dave over the Christmas holiday. Appreciate your prayers too.

Joy Shupe Nicholson shared your post December 24 at 9:39pm. Joy Shupe Nicholson and 4 others like this: Marie Poynter, Stefanie Willey, Judy Pike and Roxie Carter.

Joy Shupe Nicholson So precious brother David!!! She is beholding the One that we are celebrating today, but, oh, how we wish we could hug them and hear their voices one more time here on earth!!! We will hug our families a little closer this year realizing the value of each life!!! Love you very much!!! December 25 at 7:35am

Mailed this poem to the following people on December 21, 2015: Nita & Larry Weeks, Gayle Harris, Millie, Voner & Theresa Ayers, Loretta Rogers, Sharon & Chet Moher, Wanda & David Rice, Fred & Lois Beaufait, Bill Baughman & Jack Lesher.

Emailed this poem to Sonja Dickerson Faust on December 22, 2015.

BEST VT FRIEND JANET JOYCE CASSELL CLEVELAND FACEBOOK POSTINGS

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland added 5 new photos — with Pamela Shupe Finley October 20 at 11:29pm: 27 years of life with my dear friend. College silliness, optometry school graduation in Memphis, wedding where she wore my veil, to holding her babies. At 11:30am Sunday while hearing Ecclesiates 7 "The end of a thing is better than the beginning" God took Pam to heaven. It was too soon but He answered my prayer and many others' to prevent her from suffering. She has left me and Kevin a beautiful family (Scot Finley, Sam Finley & Heather Finley) to love and continue building memories. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Sam Finley, Joy Shupe Nicholson and 66 others like this

David S Shupe: Janet, this brought tears to my eyes. Oh the beautiful memories we can all share. Thanks for being such a special friend and roommate to Pam while in college, which friendship continued to the end of her life. I know you were also special to her. Not her only, but to Scot, Sam and Heather. That's what makes friendship so neat ~ October 22, 2015.

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: I feel so blessed to have had Pam and then to have added Scot Finley, Sam Finley & Heather Finley into the mix. Of course Kevin had known Pam just as long as I had and he too loved and loves them all. They are and will be forever a part of our extended family, as will you.

David S Shupe: Thanks so much Janet, to you & Kevin both, for your caring and your sharing. You're special people. October 22, 2015 at 7:09am.

Emma S Doss: Janet, I'm so sorry about your friend, and so sorry for you........I know how special she was to you. My sympathy to her family, as well.

Fine Heart: Pam was such an amazing woman. So sad for her family and of course you, but so rejoicing she is with our Lord and Savior and totally healed and perfected in Him. Thinking of you and Kevin. And praying for her husband, son and daughter

Martha Grow Leverette: Janet, I'm not sure if you remember me from VT. Pam was such a sweetheart! I know you meant the world to her as well. Words can not express...You are in my thoughts and prayers! October 22 at 12:10am.

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Hi Martha. I do remember you. Thanks for the kind words. Pam was a unique, sentimental, silly soul that I indeed will miss but fortunately see again. I know your heart is sad too. Blessings to you...

BEST VT FRIEND RUTH ANN VAUGHAN FACEBOOK POSTINGS

Ruth Ann Vaughan with Pamela Shupe Finley October 18 at 2:23pm: Today my sweet friend Pam, whom I have known since we were college freshman, lost her battle with breast cancer that she endured so bravely for 3 years. I look forward to seeing you again one day in heaven, my friend. You, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott and 56 others like this.

David S Shupe: Thanks Ruth Ann, for being such a close friend of Pam's. She always spoke so highly of you, and selected you as a lifelong friend. Thanks again for the special day that you arranged for Pam and family. I'll always cherish that. October 18 at 2:59pm.

Martha Grow Leverette : Mr. Shupe, Pam, RA and I were all friends from VT. She was such a sweet, gentle person. Everyone who knew her, loved her. I am praying for you and your family during this difficult time. October 18 at 8:10pm.

Tina Murphy: Ruth An, I am so sorry to hear this. I know you two were so close. Prayers to you and her family.

Janie Christopher Chapman: What a precious memory you gave her that day. We will all miss her sweet smile. May you feel God's comfort today.

Jen Bradshaw: That is a beautiful picture. Her smile and kindness will always be remembered. She was the sweetest person.

David Gene Shupe:Thanks Ruth Ann, I echo my father's sentiments. I will miss her greatly as my one and only sister! October 18 at 3:18pm.

Shawnda Kirchmeier: Ruth Ann , I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Praying for both families.

Gina Wright Haubenstein: I am so sorry, Ruth Ann. I didn't know her but I am certain our paths must have crossed. Prayers to you and her family.

Cecile Benitez Evers: So sad to hear. Prayers and thoughts for both of your families.

Stacy Poole: Pam's smile and infectious laughter will be missed. Her family and friends are in our prayers.

Martha Grow Leverette: Love this picture! What a wonderful day and a beautiful memory now. Praying tonight for all who loved her, especially her family!

Luly Reinhardt: So sorry to hear of your loss. Freind ship is precious.

Vickie McComb Hammond: I'm so sorry to hear of Pam's passing. I was just talking about her yesterday.

Brenda Beck Van Horn So very sorry Ruth Ann. Just prayed for Pam's family. So difficult.October 19 at 1:06pm.

Ruth Ann posted Pam's obituary: October 20 at 11:08am: I miss you, Pam. You and 5 others like this.

Julie Betts Du with Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland, Ruth Ann Vaughan, Pam Shupe Finley and one other VT friend October 25 at 11:40am: Thoughts and prayers are with friends and family gathering today in Roanoke, Va to celebrate college friend Pamela Shupe Finley (upper right). You, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Jim Nicholson and 43 others like this.

Scot Finley: Always had a talent for closing her eyes just in time! October 26 at 6:53pm.

David S Shupe: Thank you for your thoughts and prayers Julie! The funeral service went beautifully for family and friends who gathered to commemorate and celebrate her full life, even though she was taken prematurely from the family and friends she truly loved. October 26 at 8:22pm.

Norma Littleton Forbush: Everything was beautiful....Beautiful service.... still hard to believe, but we know that GOD knows best and we will not question that/....and now we know she is with HIM...

Julie Betts Du: So nice to "hear" from you, Scot Finley and Mr Shupe. I just realized how seeing Pam supported and lifted by Janet and Ruth Ann - what a representation of the years and challenges to follow! October 27 at 2:02pm.

Janie Christopher Chapman: Such a cute picture. Some good memories to keep of this precious lady.

BEST CHURCH FRIEND: LISA RICE DAVENPORT

Lisa Rice Davenport added 2 new photos — with Amy Jarvis Gould, Pamela Shupe Finley and Karen Diaz October 18, 2015 at 6:18pm: Today the world lost a wife, mother, daughter, sister, Doctor and best friend. Amy, Karen and I are heartbroken. The fabulous four were suppose to grow old together. Lifelong friends are a true gift that few are lucky enough to find. There are too many memories to count but each one is just as precious as the next. We find comfort in the fact that Pam has returned to the arms of her mother.

You, Norma Littleton Forbush, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Cheryl Shupe Baker and 71 others like this.

Jason Walsh: frown emoticon October 18, 2015.

Kathryn Michaels Kelly: I am so sorry Lisa. I know you are heartbroken.

Shawn Fischer: Sorry to hear Lisa. Thinking of you.

Christy Maxwell Hodges: Thinking of you, Amy Jarvis Gould! Sending you prayers and hugs!

Aimee Estes: I am so sorry for your loss Lisa Rice Davenport.

John Cathy Payne: Lovely tribute Lisa. We are so saddened by this huge loss. You were a great friend to Pam. Our prayers are with you. Cathy. Lisa Rice Davenpor: Thank you Cathy! I will miss her every single day. John Cathy Payne: Indeed. The Lord blessed you both with the gift of true friendship.

Linda Hayhurst: So sorry for your loss Lisa. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling. My thoughts are with you.

Amy Fermil Spruill: Been thinking of you both all day. It's hard to believe a life time ago we were all in Sunday School together and now she's gone. Love you!

John Cathy Payne: Indeed. Amy Fermil Spruill: Amy Fermil Spruill Cathy, you look great!

Angela Marie: Thinking of you, Amy and Karen today as well as Pam's family. Such a sweet women the world has lost.

Sarah Fisher: Sending love

Flynn Clarke Kern: Lisa I am so sorry to hear about Pam.

Voner Ayers Spencer: My heart is broken; many prayers for you, Lisa, and her family and friends who loved her. What a sweet person she was !! She will be greatly missed!!!!

Andria Padgett McClellan: Sending prayers for Pam's family, and to you, Lisa, and Amy and Karen. Remembering so many great childhood memories of a great woman.

Kim Kemp: I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending love and light.

David Gene Shupe: She was a great sister to me and I know she was a great friend to you also! I will miss her very much! My heart is truly saddened. Elisa Levy Harris:I'm so sorry for your loss David. Pam was one of the sweetest people I've ever known. I love her family like they're my family. I am keeping you all in my prayers.

Lisa Rice Davenport: Dave - I'm so sorry! Yes, she was the best friend I will ever have.

Theresa Ayers Baldwin: I am so sad!!!

Greg Gould: Thank you Lisa. That had to be as hard to write as it was for me to read. Over the years I have fallen in love with four wonderful ladies. I've spent the day cleaning; all I can do. I've spent the evening seeing pictures of a childhood blessed with lifelong friendship. It has been a difficult day. We knew this moment was coming, but we could never be truly prepared. Pam would say that we aren't broken, just patiently waiting to rejoin. My grieving is relieved knowing that is true. We love you Pamela and will miss you greatly in the meantime. Lisa Rice Davenport : Greg - you have been with us for most of our journey together. Love you!

Clint Ayers: Just can't believe it! RIP my dear friend in the loving arms of Christ. You will be missed. Lisa Rice Davenport: I just found the prom pic of you two this past Friday ~ Oct. 19, 2015.

Andrea Rhodes Harris: So sorry Lisa, hugs to you.

Judy Kidd: Truly Pam was special.

Andrea Briggs Coffey: I'm so very sorry for the loss of your dear friend. May your sweet memories bring you comfort. God bless.... Nancy Connor: I am so sorry for your loss Lisa. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Jamie Willerson Ferris: Still can't believe this. Just far too young. What a beautiful person Pam was. She will truly be missed. Prayers to all of her family & friends. But what a blessing knowing she's indeed in Heaven & we can see her again one day. David S Shupe: Thanks for your prayers Jamie, and your comments. Yes, one day there will be a great reunion of all the Saints together at last.

Staci Brisbin Griffin: I'm so sorry Lisa. Much love to you, your friends, and her family. frown emoticon.

Brian K. Minnix: My thoughts and prayers are with you and her family...

Nina Humphries-Schulte: What beautiful words for someone who has touched so many hearts.

Lisa Rice Davenport: Thank you all for your sweet and kind words. The world will not be the same without my partner in crime. October 19, 2015 at 10:54am.

Lisa Rice Davenport October 22, 2015 at 6:59am: For Pamela - thank you for being my oldest and best friend.

Lisa Rice Davenport updated her profile picture October 26, 2015.

You, Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland, Amy Jarvis Gould, Amy Fermil Spruill and 14 others like this.

Elly Bradshaw Smith: So Sorry for your loss. Lisa Rice Davenport Thank you Elly Bradshaw Smith!

Judy Kidd: Friends are hard to keep when you don't live near them; you get caught up in life. How wonderful God brought you and Pamela Shupe Finley together to be life long best friends. We will miss Pam, she was a big part of so many people's life, but our love and memories will stay with us til we meet again. Loved you so much! October 26, 2015 at 8:42am. David S Shupe: Lovely comments Judy!

Amy Jarvis Gould: Love these pics and love these two ladies very much!

Natalie Dillow Ross: Lisa, I'm so sorry! I've kept you, her and her friends and family in my prayers. I wish there was something I could say or do to make it easier. Just know I'm thinking of you and love you very much dear friend. I'm so sorry. Lisa Rice Davenport: Thanks Natalie Dillow Ross - I appreciate that!

Cindy Schneider Kramer: Soo sorry for ur loss. I lost my best friend at age 30. Been besties.since Jr High. There isnt a day that goes by that I wish I could talk to her one more time. Even 24 years later. I keep in touch with her Mom and Dad to keep her spirit alive for all. Hugs girlfriend. She will always live in your heart.

Lisa Rice Davenport: Cindy Schneider Kramer - it's not easy - it has been a week and I have had to stop myself almost everyday from wanting to text her or post something silly on her page. We were friends since birth (well my birth since I am a year younger as I always used to remind her). I am sorry for your loss as well. I told her Dad yesterday that it is like I have lost a part of my heart.

David S Shupe: I truly feel your hurt Lisa, and I know Pam would feel the same way if she could tell you. I know you hurt as much as I do in losing my only loving daughter. Thank you and your Mom for being there yesterday to show your love and support. I'm thankful for the tears we shared together in remembering Pam. I well remember you saying that you felt that you had lost part of your heart. You were her longest longtime friend. Thank you for being there for her all those glorious years. I thank God for the years he loaned her to us to love, and to love us back. Our lives were made richer because of Pam. October 26, 2015.

Cindy Schneider Kramer: Lisa Rice Davenport you do lose part of your heart. The ache never goes away. But remember the great times and the love you shared. How lucky she had you and you had her in your life. As I do for anyone I have lost I truly look to the stars at night. It makes me feel closer. And staying close to her Mom and Dad really keeps her close for all. Seeing you and hearing from you will help u all with the grief you all are experiencing. Big HUGS and prayers for all. If you ever want to talk I am here. I know the pain.

David S Shupe: Beautiful comments Cindy! Cindy Schneider Kramer: Thank you. Losing my best friend who knew me from youth good bad and ugly was one of the most.difficult things I ever experienced. You dont expect that to happen so young. I remember her birthday and day she left us with her Mom and Dad every day. That was their only daughter. I help keep her spirit alive. I am soo sorry for your loss. I am saying prayers for all. Lisa Rice Davenport is a wonderful person and I know she is at a loss as much as.you must be.

Helen Gingerella: Sorry Lisa.

Mia Stone Adams: So very sorry Lisa. Losing someone you love is so hard!

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Love the pictures Lisa Rice Davenport. I know that in the hustle and shock and grief as folks prepare eulogies for funerals that they tend to cover the basics of family relationships and omit close friends. I have seen services where I knew the friends were closer than many relatives but they never were mentioned. It makes me sad for the friends...Pam's service was very good but I must say if the pastor had known Pam longer he would have never failed to acknowledge Pam's lifelong, ongoing friendship with you specifically and with Amy and Karen. I was always in awe of you four. Such a beautiful living example of friendship. My heart is sad for you all. Praying God's peace for you in the days and months to come.

David S Shupe You have an excellent point Janet, but the new pastor had only been there a little over a year I believe, so guess he wouldn't have had the opportunity to get real acquainted with such a large church membership. Also, I wouldn't leave you and Ruth Ann out of the equation either. Although you two came along a little later at the college stage, Pam loved you guys with all her heart and soul. She always talked about all 5 of you, and I agree there should have been special mention of each of you. You and Kevin were always there visiting before and during her illness. And there were many others she thought so highly of too. But, hope you know that we know the significance of all of your friendships with Pam over the years, and how much you all meant to her as she loved you all dearly. We'll never forget it, that's for sure. Love you all, and thanks for all 5 of you being there at the funeral to show your deep love for Pam and support for her family. October 27, 2015.

Lisa Rice Davenport shared Megan Nicole's photo December 5, 2015. Pamela would have loved this. Miss being able to text her things like this (and silly things as well.) Megan Nicole's photo of Outer Banks NC Local Artist Page. A piece of driftwood shaped like a cross I found on the beach about a mile down from the house we stayed at in Corolla! You, Scot Finley, Elisa Levy Harris, John Cathy Payne and 7 others like this: Pam Medlin Nabers, Norm Fontana, Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland, Donna Morgan, Louise Whitlow Whichard and Jennifer Roberts Lundgren.

David S Shupe: Yah! Indeed she would Lisa! What I miss is hearing her cheerful voice when we would talk on the phone. December 5, 2015 at 7:15pm.

Lisa Rice Davenport: I keep thinking of her Christmas presents. I would open hers as soon as it arrived but she said she always wanted to wait until Christmas to open mine. I would wait until Christmas to thank her hoping she would think I waited to open mine.

David S Shupe: That was Pam. She liked to save everything for Christmas morning. This will be a time of thinking about past Christmases for sure. Sad for us, but happy for Pam! Thanks for sharing that Lisa!

Judy Kidd: Memories.....December 6, 2015 at 8:01pm.

BEST COLLEGE PARK FRIEND: AMY JARVIS GOULD

Amy Jarvis Gould added 10 new photos to the album: Pamela — with Lisa Rice Davenport, Pamela Shupe Finley and Karen Diaz October 18, 2015 at 9:22pm.

Today my heart is heavy, my bestie of over 42 years went peacefully to be with the Lord and her mother. Pamela and I met out in front of her house, she was making mud pies and I asked if I could make them too and we were friends from that moment on. When we were kids we had slumber parties, went to movies, made funny video tapes, went to the beach, busch gardens, concerts, rode bikes, swimming in our community pool, summer after summer, most every day of summer we stayed out till dark and sometimes later playing (because back then you could)! We will always be the Girls of College Park, that was our theme song! As we grew older the beach became a place we, as besties could go to relax, reminisce and talk about our future! As I type this I see Pam standing by the edge of the ocean with the waves splashing over her feet and me standing next to her as we enjoyed catching up. I will love you forever Pamela (aka Pam Poop Decker)! Your bestie Amy (aka Aim Toothpaste)

You, Lisa Rice Davenport and 14 others like this. October 18, 2015.

David S Shupe: You brought tears to my eyes Amy, reminiscing that way.

Amy Jarvis Gould: Lisa and I were hoping we would get the chance today to reminisce with Pam, but God had other plans. I know she carried those memories till the end. Miss her terribly!

Joyce Sharples Robey: I'm so very sorry Amy.

Donita Lewellen Wright: Amy, I am sorry for the lost of your dear friend. May she R.I .P.

Debi Lee Forrest: So sorry for your loss.

Taylor Dozier: I'm so sorry for your loss mrs Amy! Love you!

Monica Denise Wright Burgess: I'm so sorry for your loss Amy. I'm thinking and praying for you!

Jodie Olson: Hugs for you, Amy! So sorry about your friend!

Felicia Floyd Williams: I am so sorry for your loss.

Becky Markwood: Oh I am so sorry.

April L. Waters Fisher: So sorry for your loss Amy

Lora Müller: So sorry for your loss, praying for everyone she loves.

David Bogue: So sorry for the loss of your friend Amy.

Gene N Dottie Honeycutt: Awe Amy, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Jennifer Warholak Robinson: So sorry for your loss! Please let me know if you need anything! Amy Jarvis Gould Thank you so much Jen!♡

POSTINGS OF OTHER FACEBOOK FRIENDS

Julie Betts Du October 19, 2015: This picture is of me cerebrating my 21st birthday with great college friends Pamela Shupe Finley and Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland. Pam, the one on the right, was an incredibly kind, sweet soul who was also smart and talented. Sadly, she had to deal with her mother's cancer battle during those treasured college years. Our last semester of senior year, her mother passed away. Now, cancer has taken her away much too soon as well, before her own daughter reached college years. She had many important roles in her life - she was a mother of two, an optometrist, a wife of a pastor, and a beloved friend. Thank you for your friendship, sweet Pam. You will be so missed.

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Judy Beckemeyer: So sad...my thoughts are with you and her family. October 19 at 12:58pm.

Laura Licar: I am so sorry Julie. My condelences to you and her family.

Gina Heumann: So sorry for your loss. I hate when cancer takes such young people! frown emoticon. Julie Betts Du: I know, as you have posted before..... Cancer sucks!!

Lorinda Lee Oertel Anderson: Prayers & love to her family and you Julie. May God keep her daughter close as she goes through her next journey...heart emoticon.

Emiko Lanier: So sorry for your loss and the loss of Pam's family. We never know when we will be called to be the extended family of our friend's family. I pray that Pam's friend like you & Janet will keep Pam's memory arrive for Pam's daughter & son.!! May they also be blessed with the presence of Loving Savior & Friend!!

Julie Betts Du: Thank you all. I really appreciate the condolences. I made this post out of love and support for Pam and her family. Pam's son Sam has served in the military, and she recently posted that he has been accepted to nursing school. A remarkable legacy!

Victoria Pilgrim Jackson: So very sorry for your loss. Prayers for all.

Sessie Schomas-Carlson: So sad to hear this on behalf of your friendship and her family left behind.

Kristi 'Lizzy' Rice: I am so sorry. Blessings of peace and comfort to all who love Pam.

Christine Hartmann Edwards: I'm sorry Julie Betts Du ... truly sad!

Dan Betts: Sorry to hear you lost a friend. We seem too young to be losing friends already, but in reality we obviously aren't. At least they are in a better place. My condolences, sis. Hang in there. October 20, 2015 at 11:02am.

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Wonderful tribute Julie Betts Du. My heart is sad. Julie Betts Du: Thanks, Janet. I was looking at the photo album yesterday . When I saw this, I felt the need to share. Pam had a big circle of close friends, my heart is with all of you as well as of course her family.

Krista Frank Novak: That's so sad. October 21, 2015.

Arlene Betts: I remember when this picture was taken. Pam was a dear and precious friend to you. May God comfort all who loved her. October 24 at 7:34pm. Julie Betts Du: I think maybe you took the picture, mom? smile emoticon. October 24 at 9:21pm. Arlene Betts We had just been to Mountain lake to celebrate your birthday. Now the lake has disappeared but the grounds are still lovely.

Kelly Cothern Fermazin: My deepest sympathy on the loss of your friend. I'm sure she will be greatly missed. October 25 at 12:36pm.

Makayla Honaker with Pamela Shupe Finley and Scot Finley. October 19, 2015: My heart hurts over the loss of such an amazing, kind-hearted, loving, and always caring woman. She was always so generous towards everyone she met, including me. I will never understand why some of the worst things happen to the greatest people. It is all in God's hands. My thoughts and prayers go out to a family that I have been blessed to have known for so many years.

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Barbara Jacobs McGowan I'm sorry Babe !! Love u yes it does hurt we will understand some day.

Noretta Shifflett: So sorry for your loss..keeping you and your family in prayer.

Cathy Johnson Honaker: She was a special lady!!! We were blessed to know Pam!!! Love you baby girl!!!!

Ruby Ferguson: My thoughts are with you darling. Our condolences.

Karen Honaker-Thompson: My heart hurts for you sweetie and her family. I love you and am praying for you precious girl.

Paula J Burhoe: So very sorry for your loss. Feel better soon. Thinking of you. Love you.

David Honaker: So saddened to hear this tragic news . The Finley's were our neighbors in Roanoke and the best anyone could have . They treated Makayla as if she was their own child . My prayers and thoughts are with the Family during this time Heather Finley Sam Finley

James McGowan‎ to Pam Medlin Nabers October 19, 2015: Just heard about Pamela Shupe Finley. I am sorry you lost a close friend. I know this might be a geeky thing to reference but, when Tom Wallace died earlier this year, I remembered a line of dialogue from Star Trek II. McCoy says to Kirk after Spock's funeral: "You know, he's really not dead. As long as we remember him." My point is she's really not dead, Pam, as long as you remember her. Pam Medlin Nabers likes this.

Janie Christopher Chapman added 2 new photos of Pam and a flowered heart wreath October 25, 2015: In loving memory of our sweet friend, Pamela Shupe Finley, who was laid to rest today. She fought breast cancer with grace and dignity and is now singing praises to her precious, Almighty God, in His heavenly choir. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Jim Nicholson and 69 others like this.

Several people offered condolences, but we only included a few below:

Judy Lynne: Thanks be to God for our gift of eternal salvation, through the precious blood of Jesus. No other name! I will miss her greeting at the Community room entrance. October 25 at 5:58pm.

Patrick A. Merrill: We do not sorrow as those who have no hope.

Lu Wright: She was a special lady!

Noreta S. Morgan: Memorial service was so sweet - church was PACKED!

David S Shupe: Yes Noreta, it was, and Pastor Chris said the estimate was that over 600 friends and family members came to celebrate Pam's life and her entrance into heaven. Pam trusted God faithfully here on earth, so He took her home to be with Him. If God actually needs optometrists in heaven (although everyone should have perfect vision up there), He sure got Himself an outstanding one. October 26, 2015.

Trish Sheldon Cook posted Pam's obituary October 20, 2015: In case some of you didn't see the obituary for Pamela Shupe Finley. RIP Pam. Judy Kidd, Elisa Levy Harris, Pam Medlin Nabers and 10 others like this. I absolutely love the picture.

Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Me too! Looked so cute & happy. smile emoticon.

Kate Landries: I'm so sorry for your loss, lady. I'll keep her family in my prayers.

Laura Howland Porter: Such a precious lady. Prayers for her family.

Seven other people shared Pam's Obituary:

Valinda Carroll shared her obituary October 21, 2015.

Bill Morgan shared on October 20, 2015: Praying for our nephew Scot Finley and all of Pam's loved ones and many friends. I have been reading the many tributes to Pam on numerous posts and it easy to see how highly she was regarded and loved. What a sterling example of a Godly young woman. Thank you, David S Shupe for posting. You, Elisa Levy Harris and 40 others like this.

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David S Shupe: Thank you Bill for those glowing words for Pam. She was a SPECIAL daughter for sure! Pat Dakin: Prayers for the family. Bonita Wilson: Praying for your family. Erich Bridges: Thanks for sharing this, Bill. My wife recently completed treatment for triple negative, so this hits close to home, We'll be praying for the family ....Bill Morgan: And we will pray for you all to be sure. Paula Moore Hemphill: Erich and Bill, I had a triple negative 9 years ago, thankful every day to still be here and praying for women fighting this battle. Not an easy one!

Tina McClamroch Haney: Oh Scot, I am so sorry. Sending prayers and condolences. Paula Moore Hemphill; Praying for your extended family, Bill! Linda Carol Watson: Praying for you all...... Madeline Clenney: Praying for all of you. She sounds like she was a wonderful lady. Bill Morgan Thanks, friends. Pray for us as we travel to Roanoke tomorrow. Many thanks!

>Michelle Brady Talbert with Susie Brady and Mike Brady, October 20, 2015: This was my summertime "sitter" growing up. Many of my childhood friends will probably remember her from my house. She is the reason I went to Tech. She took me to my very first concert. We saw lots of movies, went swimming, and watched soap operas. We had the best summers ever! She will be greatly missed by so many friends and family. I know she is now one of God's treasured Angels. Once again...why we need to find a Cure for Cancer. You and 15 others like this.

Michele Dicso Sherrod: I'm sorry to hear this Michelle... You are in my prayers as is her family.

David S Shupe: Thank you Michelle for sharing about Pam. I think though she considered herself more your chaperone than a "sitter" since you were already a 13 year old independent young lady. At least I believe you were 13 at that time. October 20 at 6:12pm.

Susie Brady: She was a very special young lady. We all truly enjoyed having her take care of Michelle each summer. Losing a spouse is terrible ... the only thing I can imagine being worse is to lose your child. Unfortunately, Dave, you have experienced both. My thoughts and prayers are with the entire family. October 22 at 1:32am.

David S Shupe: Thank you Susie for your very thoughtful comments and prayers. Believe me, they are appreciated. Both of us surely know what it's like to lose a spouse. I still think about your hubby Hugh, and what you went through with him. He was such a special guy ...October 22 at 5:17am.

Judy Carroll: Prayers for you and her family....October 20 at 6:54pm.

Joanne Johnson: So sorry.What a beautiful Eulogy. October 21 at 7:33am.

Nora Walker: You never forget special people like that! October 21 at 12:33pm.

Donna Bowman: So sorry. She certainly was a wonderful individual and a huge loss to you and your family. October 21 at 1:17pm.

Brenda Lucas: Sounds like heaven. October 21 at 6:47pm.

Theresa Germanovich: Michelle, so sad. Our prayers and thoughts are with Pamela's family and friends. October 21 at 9:56pm.

David S Shupe shared a link on October 20, 2015. You, Laurie Holmes, Rick Hensley, Joy Shupe Nicholson and 2 others like this.

4 shares Ginny Small shared this on October 20, 2015: So very sad.

Shari Allen: What a beautiful smile. She really lit up. Beautiful.

Judy Kidd shared this on October 20, 2015: I will miss you, my little Pammy; loved you so much as a young child; you were the best 3 year old; loved you so much. You, Norm Fontana and 3 others like this.

Chris Thompson shared this on October 20, 2015: Judy, So sorry for your loss.

Susan Reynolds: Judy, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your friend! Pray that God brings comfort to you and your friend's family!

Carol Goard Gane: So sorry for your loss Judy. Prayer for you and her family.

GaryandTrisha Fearer: Judy, I was so sorry to hear about Pam.

Marie Chittum Smith DeGuzman: Sorry, GOD Bliss your family.

Ruth Ann Vaughan shared this on October 20, 2015: I miss you, Pam! You and 5 others like this.

Loretta Vaughan: Praying for you Ruth Ann. Losing a friend is hard. Love you. Praying for her family too. I bet she has that big smile up in heaven right now.

Maureen Purcell: So sad.....

Jamie Nicholson Klink shared a link October 20, 2015: Cheryl Shupe Baker, Shirley Poynter, Jim Nicholson and 9 others like this.

Val Cartwright Chorba: So sorry, Jamie.

Debbie Floor: So sorry Jamie. Love and prayers.

Karen Heim added 2 new photos October 18, 2015 of her and Pam in college — feeling heartbroken with Pamela Shupe Finley: I found out this morning that a dear soul that I knew from my days at Virginia Tech, Pamela Shupe Finley, lost her battle with cancer today. We lost touch many years ago, but a mutual friend told me about her brave battle. My heart kept believing that she would prevail. My thoughts and prayers go out to Pam's family and friends.I am glad her battle and pain are over, but I am heartbroken for her family and friends. Rest in Peace, Pam. You, Elisa Levy Harris, Pam Medlin Nabers, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard and 4 others like this.

Pam Medlin Nabers October 18, 2015 Casper, WY: Found out today that my first friend in Kindergarten Pamela Shupe Finley died today. She was a dear friend from K-12th grade, then reunited via FB. Hating cancer once again!!! You, Elisa Levy Harris, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard and 9 others like this.

Amber Strzesak: Sorry for your loss, Pam. Fu@$ Cancer. Sara Nichole: Cancer is some ruthless shit. I'm sorry for your loss. I hope your friend is resting in peace Pam. Pam Medlin Nabers: She is and she was an exceptional woman! Kristin Nabers: I'm so sorry Pam. Jeneen Avitia: So very sorry for your loss. Sarah J. Reese: I'm sorry for your loss. frown emoticon. Carlye Nabers: Terrible. Too young. So sorry for you and her family. Patti Nabers Gandy: So sorry Pam. Getting to the age where we see more and more cancer taking our friends. I agree with Amber....@*#¿ cancer. Prayers to her family and friends. Faith Perfetti Stultz So sorry Pam. Kathy Berry Awe, I'm so sorry

Valinda Carroll October 18, 2015: I'm sad to hear about the passing of Pamela Shupe Finley, known as Pammy to her classmates at College Park elementary. Life is short; cherish every moment. Elisa Levy Harris, Pam Medlin Nabers, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard and 3 others like this.

Melissa Bailey McSherry‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley October 18, 2015: So sad to see you go. You are truly a light to all of us. We love you and know you are up in heaven living victoriously with Jesus. Elisa Levy Harris and 6 others like this.

Elisa Levy Harris feeling heartbroken October 18, 2015: Today heaven gained a kind -hearted, beautiful angel. After a very brave three year battle with breast cancer, my sweet friend Pamela Shupe Finley is no longer in any more pain. My heart aches for the wonderful family she left behind. Please say a prayer for all of her family and friends. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott, Jim Nicholson and 61 others like this.

Danielle Alexander: Prayers to the family. Heartbreaking. October 18, 2015.

Natalie White: I'm so sorry Elisa. Is this the friend you were telling me about Friday? Elisa Levy Harris: Yes. Martha Gish-Toney: Sorry for your loss. There is no other way to say it other than cancer sucks. Glenn McGhee: Sorry for your loss Elisa ..... Jennifer Gilliam Sanchez Huerta: I am so sorry! Words can't express how sorry I am for you and her family. Sending many prayers.

Michelle Wimmer Franklin: Wow...this is heartbreaking! I will certainly keep her family and friends in my prayers! October 18, 2015. Karen Crawford Wright: So sorry for all. Courtney Freed Truntich: So sorry! Thinking of you . Lori Ballard: Prayers for their sweet family! Linda Jacocks: So sorry Elisa! Sandi Smith: I'm so sorry Elisa Levy Harris, prayers for her family. And for you.

Kimberly Bihl Hoffert: So Sorry... Prayers for her Family and Friends. October 18, 2015. Stav Borovich: Feeling your pain. (((Hugs))) Prayers for all the family and friends. Scott Woldman: I'm sorry for your loss! We will keep Pamela and her family in our thoughts and prayers. Angie Arthur Cannady: Prayers! Cristy Mason Spencer: I'm so so sorry to read this. Prayers to her family and to her friends she has left behind. Jody Duke: Thinking of her family and friends! Will pray for peace and comfort during this time!

Connie Taylor Albert: Hate to hear this, we have been praying for her!! Such a sweet caring woman!! She will definately be missed!! October 18, 2015.

Anne Marie Davis: So sorry to hear this. Prayers for her family and for you. October 18, 2015. Kimberly Brumfield Thacker: I saw this earlier. So sorry! They are such a sweet family!!! Tammy Martin Riggs Such a tragedy for this family. Praying for them and you. Makayla Leilani: Prayers. Audrey Davis Williams: Praying. Kathy Altizer Wilkerson: Thoughts and prayers. XOXO. Sandra Carbo: Will pray! Lena Godsey: Praying.

Janet N Davey: So sorry...my condolences and prayers for her family...

Jill Humphrey Pendleton: Sending prayers.

Sharon Presson Forrester: So very sorry to hear my sweet friend.

Carol Roffman: So sorry to hear of your loss, Elisa...

Jenny Lovett Lucsko: so sorry for your loss.

Kimberly Barger Marshall: Thoughts and prayers are with the family and friends of Pam.

Julie Barker Soviero: I'm so incredibly sorry, Elisa!

Harry Cannady: I'm very sorry to hear this! Praying!

David S Shupe: Thanks Elisa, for your beautiful words. I know you and Pam spent a lot of wonderful moments together watching your daughters play soccer.

Cecelia Shiflett Galmish: So sorry for your loss.

Lenora Finch Seay: So sorry. Prayers for her family.

Gloria Strickland Harris:Elisa, I just saw this... She was my eye dr. What a sweet and wonderful lady!

Jennifer Meade Bratton: Sending prayers for her family.

Brenda Norwinski: Deepest sympathy to the family.

Laura Howland Porter October 18, 2015: Today with a heavy heart I remember a sweet childhood friend of mine Pamela Shupe Finley and her dear family as I learned that she lost her fierce battle with breast cancer and went to be with her Lord and Savior this morning. Even though we were only friends a few short years in Virginia Beach, VA she touched my life and I always knew she was a special person. We lost touch through the years and just recently connected through facebook. I still have photos and special mementos from those awesome years growing up in College Park. You, Elisa Levy Harris, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard and 16 others like this.

Jules Zavwalk: So sorry to hear! Prayers for her family. Robin Smelser Peer: I'm sorry Laura. David S Shupe: Thanks Laura for your kind comments for daughter Pam. Joe Porter: Laura, I saw your reaction when you saw the news and it clearly effected you. You always spoke fondly of those years in VA Beach and I can only say, live life to the fullest bechause we never know when God will call us home.

Daisy Daquilanea Kinard feeling sad October 18, 2015: Brings tears to my eyes to hear that a dear friend, Pamela Shupe Finley, whom I have known since third grade, lost her fight with cancer today. She was a very special part of my childhood--from College Park Elementary all the way to my years at Virginia Tech. So glad I was able to reminisce with her just this past week about some fun memories. Take care Pammy. I know you are no longer in pain. I will catch up again with you later. ‪#‎CancerSucks‬. You, Geri Elliott, Pat Oakley Shupe, Lisa Rice Davenport and 57 others like this.

Tawanda Carter: I remember Pam, with fondness. Although I missed connecting with her on Facebook, I appreciate your posting the news. Peace be with her family and friends. October 18 , 2015 at 4:26pm.

Parcha Fruit: This is very sad news indeed. Sorry to hear about Pammy. It is wonderful that you could share memories with her this past week. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family and friends. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Really happy she reached out to message me this week. Was first time in a long, long time I had heard from her, so hearing this today makes it feel so much more bittersweet.

Charlene Teope Migrditchian: Oh no...I remember Pam from Tech. Thanks for passing the news. My condolences to her family.

Skyy Blue: My heart goes out to her family. May God Bless them!! So sad!

David Lillefloren Daisy. Thanks for letting us know. Cancer does suck. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Sorry to have shared sad news, but glad you know.

Vee Henderson: (((HUGS))) Praying for you and her family!

Eric Walsh: We at GRHS ALUMNI will have to add her name to the BOOK of REMEMBERANCE. Stallions, bow your heads as we have lost another or our fellow alumni.

Mary Meade O'Connell: Oh no! So sorry to hear this news. Very glad you were able to reconnect at the perfect time for Pam. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: It really was timely. Had not heard from her in a long time & it was so nice to hear from again. Very bittersweet when I think about it.

Donna Fox: oh my God! I remember Pamela. that makes me cry she was a very kind person. God bless her wonderful soul.

Trish Sheldon Cook: She was such a postiive person, wasn't she Daisy? I never heard her say a negative word about anyone. She was really a great person. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard She really was a very kind person. Have to say we did have some silly times when we were kids, but she did grow up to be a sweet person. smile emoticon.

Lori Evans Donovan: I remember Pam. I am sorry to hear of her loss.

Laura Howland Porter: She was such a sweet soul.

John Lewis: I remember her, sad to hear her passing.

Kellie Weisenbeck: I am so sorry to hear this! Pam and I were close friends in junior high. She was an amazing lady, even back then!

Cindy Chapman Butler: I remember Pam...haven't seen her since GRHS!!! May she RIP!!! Praying for her family!!!

Andria Padgett McClellan: Pammy was one of the sweetest, most kind people I knew growing up. Have so many memories. This one was from my 8th or 9th birthday party (the theme was "Mork & Mindy"!). I'm so, so sad. But I will always remember Pam's beautiful, sweet smile. Godspeed, Pammy.

Andria Padgett McClellan: Suzanne Boyce Carlson, Elaine Standish...sharing this sad news with a memory of our youth.

Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: What a cool picture!! I remember this time so fondly. Was a great time growing up in College Park with her.

Cecile Benitez Ever:s Very sad to hear. I was so glad to get back in touch on FB with her and see her pics in line. Prayers and thoughts with you all. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard Glad you found her on FB again. Thanks.

Debbie McMillan: I remember Pam... So sad to see this. Prayers for her family. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Definitely sad.

Julie Waltz Madziarczyk I'm so sad to hear of Pam's passing. I had not seen her since Green Run, but have very fond memories of her. Heaven has a new angel today. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard Definitely a sweet new angel.

Janine Pool: I remember Pam's beautiful smile from GRHS. She was a genuine soul. I'm sorry for your loss, Daisy. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard Thank you!

Daisy Daquilanea Kinard to Rick Shoop-Gardner: I remember thinking how cool it was that you two were Shoop/Shupe. At one time, you, Pam & me being some of the shortest people in our class, but then somehow, you both grew much taller & I grew just a little. smile emoticon.

Ann McGrath Cazares: That's so sad. Thanks for passing on the news, Daisy.

Samantha VerCruysse: Wise Sorry to hear of Pam passing... Prayers for her family...Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Sending many prayers their way.

Maryanne Eagan Welch: I was so sad to hear of Pam's passing. She was so sweet and we had reconnected on FB. My thoughts and prayers are with all her friends and family. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Really glad you go reconnected with her through here. It really is a great way to keep in touch. I know it helped me keep in touch with her.

Pam Medlin Nabers She is definitely going to be missed Daisy Daquilanea Kinard! I was with her from Kindergarten to graduation! Had a dream about her last night.

David S Shupe: Lovely comments Daisy. I know you were a special friend for Pam. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Thank you Mr. Shupe. She was a special friend to me too. Praying for you & rest of your family. October 19 at 5:56am.

Stacey Gordon :Wow, so sorry to hear this myself, I remember pammy, she was cute as a button. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: She was wasn't she? smile emoticon Thanks Stacey.

Wendell Ward: So sorry to hear this news, Daisy. I feel sad. I also remember Pam all the way back to College Park. She was always such a sweetheart, such a light. My thoughts are with her family and friends. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Definitely a sweetheart. Sorry to share such sad news. Take care.

Stephanie Overton- OHara: I remember Pam. Very sorry to hear this Daisy; prayers for you and her family. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Thank you.

Arland Udo Sorry to hear... Prayers for everyone! Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Thanks Arland. Arland Udo: i remember her from our good ole brandon junior high school days...

Deirdre Lamb: I'm so sorry to hear this. I remember Pam from back to elementary school. She was always such a sweet person. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: She really was Deirdre. Thank you.

Rick Shoop-Gardner to Daisy: this is really sad. My heart goes out to her family and friends. I have the most wonderful memories of Pam from elementary school and Junior High and only recently reconnected with her in my very infrequent Facebook visits. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: Really glad you were able to reconnect with her Rick. Lots of sweet memories with you, me & her. smile emoticon.

Elaine Standish: What horrible news--so very sorry to lose you, Pammy. Lots of love. Elaine Standish replied · 2 Replies.

Renee Will Cury: Sorry to hear about Pam. frown emoticon I remember her being the nicest, sweetest person in high school. She always had a smile on her face. Daisy Daquilanea Kinard replied · 1 Reply.

FA Ferguson: I am so sorry to hear about Pam. My heart goes out to her family. I'm also sending big hugs to you. Pam was a wonderful person. FA Ferguson replied · 2 Replies

Trish Sheldon Cook, October 18, 2015: To my fellow Green Run Stallions- I am broken hearted to share with you that Pamela Shupe Finley passed away today. Pam and I shared some classes together in high school and I could always count on her for a smile. We made a deal our senior year that we would attend high school reunions and in 2007 we both kept our word when we went to our 20th. It meant so much to me to walk around that building again with her. My thoughts and prayers are with her family at this time. You will be missed Pam. You, Scot Finley, Elisa Levy Harris, Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell and 15 others like this.

Louise Lemkul: I'm so sorry to hear of your friend's passing heart emoticon.

Michelle Light: Oh my gosh. Trish. I remember her. She always made me smile:(

Pam Turner McCausland:I'm so sorry to hear about your friend passing away Trish.

Claire Cochran Flaherty: So sorry for your loss of a good friend. Thoughts and prayers with you all.

Betty Rowell Hadden: Trish, I am sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I'm glad you were with her for that 20th reunion.

Linda Craze: prayers of strength and comfort to you and her family.

Valinda Carroll: I knew Pammy going all the way back to College Park elementary school. She will be missed.

Bill Miller: Ugh, no. That name brought a smile and fond memories back. So sad.

Lyn Llamas: Oh no! I'm so saddened by this news!! I'm so sorry.

Carrie Kemp Bertoncini: Very sad news to hear. Thoughts and prayers to her family and all who knew her.

Aileen Burgman: Been thinking about sweet Pam ever since I read your post and Daisy's. Prayers for her family.

Debi Styron Gattano: So sorry to hear this sad news Trish:(

Sheree Datson Ficklin, October 18, 2015: To my College Park friends...I just learned that we have lost one of our own. Pamela Shupe Finley or Pammy as we lovingly called her back in elementary school has lost her battle with cancer. My heart is filled with sadness at the loss of this sweet soul who was a big part of my childhood memories. RIP my sweet friend. You, Scot Finley, Elisa Levy Harris, Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell and 20 others like this.

Lori Krolikowski: Wow! That is definitely sad news. She was such a sweet kind hearted person. So sorry to hear this.

Vicky Byrd: I'm so sorry sweetie.

David S Shupe :Thanks Sheree, for your kind comments. Pam always loved to talk about her College Park elementary friends. In fact she would go on our reel to reel RCA recorder when she was 9 years old and sing songs she learned in elementary school and then start naming all her friends, one by one. It was so cute that she could remember and pronounce such names as Daisy Daquilanea & Lori Krolikowski & others.

Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: I have the best memories of her singing my name to me. She was one of the first to know how to say it. Your daughter was one of my first friends at College Park. Was so glad I always had her as a friend throughout those years, on through our VT years to now.

Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: I will miss your daughter Mr. Shupe. Hope you all find comfort in loving memories such as these. Thank you for sharing these sweet moments with her. Take care.

T.j. Smith Sorry, friend. I hate cancer.

Daisy Daquilanea Kinard: I am truly sad to hear this. Feeling so lucky I was able to chat online with her this week & shared some awesome memories with her. Such a loving & sweet person. Definitely a big part of my childhood at College Park, Brandon Jr, Green Run, & at VT. smile emoticon.

David S Shupe: Hi Daisy. Glad you got the chance to communicate with Pam. I always remember her mentioning your name when she talked about her school chums.

Sheree Datson Ficklin: Mr. Shupe, words can not begin until to express my sorrow for your entire family. Your daughter had perhaps the sweetest soul of anyone I've ever known. I remember singing on that tape recorder with her! Please know you all will continue to be in my prayers and she was loved by so many of us, from a very young age.

David S Shupe: Thanks again Sheree ~ Undoubtedly the hardest thing I've gone through in my entire life. Now I know why the child isn't supposed to die before the parent. It's unbearable for those who remain.

Sheree Datson Ficklin: I am so sorry...your beautiful daughter was so loved and touched so many of our lives. May God bless and keep you in the palm of his hand during this horrific time.

Susan Fatima Svaib: Oh I'm so sorry to hear that. I remember Pam well. College Park elementary through Green Run High. She was always soft spoken, kind and patient. I was always in awe of her receiving A"s on all our school work! Sweet sweet girl:).

David S Shupe: Thanks Susan. It's a comfort to see what positive effect she had on her friends, and I'm sure you had the same or similar effect on her.

Laura Howland Porter: She was one of the sweetest people i knew growing up. So sad.

David S Shupe: So nice of you to say so Laura.

Bobbi Cooper Kleckner: I am so sorry for your loss!

David S Shupe: Thanks Bobbi.

Yvette Nageotte: So sorry for your loss!

David S Shupe: Thanks Yvette.

Susan Fatima Svaib: Paula Rahall, did u see this? a friend from the neighborhood .

Phyllis A Braxton: I'm sorry for your loss.

David S Shupe: Thanks Phyllis.

Dina Schiano Spiva: So sorry and sad to hear this news, I didn't know Pam on a personal level, but do remember she was always so very sweet, kind and always smiling! Thoughts and loving prayers to her family.

David S Shupe: Thanks for saying so Dina.

Kitty Madren:Sorry, prayers going up for all.

Andria Padgett McClellan: My heart is so heavy. It's been many years since "Pammy" (as I knew her for many years) had been in touch, and I was so happy to reconnect through Facebook. Mr. Shupe, I remember fondly running around our street with Pammy, Amy and so many others in our Framingham neighborhood. What a great childhood. Sending love and prayers to Pam's family.

David S Shupe: Thanks Andria. It was a special neighborhood for Pam. I remember her mentioning your name several times when she was young.

Brenda Strickler-Giblin Hatch: Sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and her family. Miss you and love you.

David S Shupe: Thanks so much Brenda.

Nick Piper: Prayers for Pam and her family.

Joan Schlegelmilch: Wow --- so sorry to hear this!

Judy Lynne‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley October 18: The battle is over, the victory is won. Rest in Jesus. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Scot Finley, Michelle Shupe Wheatley and 9 others like this.

Jen Bradshaw October 18, 2015: RIP Pamela Shupe Finley. One of the most precious, sweetest, kindest souls I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. Known her since junior high and never once saw her anything but happy and with the cutest smile ever. Your family is very much on my mind. You were taken way too soon my friend and I will always remember you. You, Scot Finley, Elisa Levy Harris, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard and 8 others like this.

. ‎Amy Fermil Spruill‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley October 18, 2015: Praying for God's comfort for your family today. Sing with the angels. I love you. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Elisa Levy Harris and 2 others like this.

Nita & Larry Weeks via Christmas Card received December 17, 2015: David & Elaine, Thank you for letting me know about Pam. So sad. She had an impressive life, but way too short. She certainly made a good impact on those around her, and I'm sure you are proud of her. We don't know why things happen as they do, but we trust that God will bring good from this sadness. We hope you are doing ok, and that Dave is also doing well. We've been doing fine, both working part-time & staying busy. We attend a non-denominational church close to our house, & the preacher preaches the Word & also lives it. We really like it there. Walt (formerly Sonny) & his wife, Tamara, are doing well. He is a civil engineer, & she teaches 3rd grade. She is real sweet & I like her. I am thankful he found a nice Christian wife, and they get along well. They live in the Great Bridge area. We will always hold you in high regard. Your friendship has been special through the years. We hope you have a real nice Christmas, that God will be especially near, and that you will have a happy and healthy New Year. Love, Nita & Larry Weeks.

PAM'S FINAL 41 DAYS ON EARTH

September 7, 2015: Pam Medlin Nabers: Pamela Shupe Finley, I know you did not get to go this year. So here are five beautiful pictures! Love you my dear friend. Prayers from Wyoming!

Happy Labor Day Everyone! Sunrise from Kill Devil Hills, NC. I hope you all have a beautiful and restful day from all your labors. You, Pamela Shupe Finley, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard and 2 others like this. Pamela Shupe Finley: Beautiful!

September 9, 2015: Jamie Nicholson Klink‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Thinking about you today and sending love your way! Prayers always. Love you sweet cousin. You, Pamela Shupe Finley, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Ruth Owens and 6 others like this. Pamela Shupe Finley: Thanks for your prayers! Love you too!

September 10, 2015: Cheryl Shupe Baker‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Hi Pam. I just wanted you know that I am praying for you and sending love and hugs. Love you!! You and Pamela Shupe Finley like this. Pamela Shupe Finley: Thanks, Cheryl! I appreciate all of the prayers being lifted up for me...I know they are being heard.

September 11, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley with Heather Finley. Pam posted a photo of Heather dressed up in patriotic theme for 9/11 for home football game. You, Norma Littleton Forbush, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott and 21 others like this. Four people commented on it.

September 12, 2015: Norma Littleton Forbush shared a photo about cousins day to Pamela Shupe Finley's Timeline: I remember my cousins so well when we were at my Grandmother Lane's house for dinner.......then in later years had more cousins that are now younger than me....love and pray for them all. You, Pamela Shupe Finley, Joy Shupe Nicholson and Jeffery Lee Williams like this. Three people commented on it.

September 14, 2015: Judy Lynne‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Posted a sign reading, "Just wanted to post this. . .to let you know I'm thinking of you! Pamela Shupe Finley and 8 others like this.

September 15, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley: Finally had a pic taken in my exam room, and posted it. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott, Jim Nicholson and 27 others like this.

Debbie Clinebell Witt: Best eye care I've ever received was in that exam room. Thank you!

Judy Kidd: Lovely as you

Norma Littleton Forbush: I just had an exam yesterday. I would have rather it been done by by cousin.

Kim Butler: All of my big kids have sat in that chair more than once! I never doubted that they have gotten the best care there. Thank you Pam!!

David S Shupe: Must say I'm biased of course, but the most thorough eye exam I've ever had in my 81 years was the first one you gave me when you started your practice in 1996. It breaks my heart that you had to give up your practice.

Katie Allen Forbish: u r amazing!

Catherine J Keiser: U, Dr. Pam!

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Great memories made in that chair every year...even travelled for 4 years from Chicagoland just for your services. Will forever remember Kevin being examined by you...what " pain" you inflicted on him!

September 16, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley with Heather Finley and Robyn Cox Martin: Hannah & Heather dressed up as Boo & Sully for Disney Day at school. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Jim Nicholson, Joy Shupe Nicholson and 10 others like this.

September 16, 2015: Lisa Rice Davenport with Pamela Shupe Finley, posting a pic of the two of them when they were pre-teens. Pamela Shupe Finley, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott and 34 others like this.

Cheryl Shupe Baker So cute!!

Lisa Rice Davenport: Pam and I loved our barbies!

David S Shupe: Yah Lisa, I kinda remember those days too! Such memories for you and Pam!

Lisa Rice Davenport: Yes! Both Pam and I will admit we played with them probably longer than we should have, but that's ok.

Norma Littleton Forbush: I remember those days. I was visiting the Shupe household while visiting from Fla........I'm sure Pam remembers.

Betty Ann Akers Harman : Cute as always.

September 18, 2015: Mary-Lee Loope‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Loving your family, Pam, and hope this is a good day. You, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Michelle Shupe Wheatley, Ruth Owens and 3 others like this.<

September 19, 2015: Robyn Cox Martin with Pamela Shupe Finley and 6 others all dressed up for homecoming dance. You, Pamela Shupe Finley, Norma Littleton Forbush, Geri Elliott and 107 others like this.

Kathy Marven Moses Hannah: Va Va Voom!!!!!Kathy Marven Moses: Wayne Martin, bless your heart. Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Stinking classy dress on H! Robin Slusher Steffey: Beautiful girls! David S Shupe: Eight in line, all looking very fine! Elisa Levy Harris: These girls dress up so pretty!! Hope they had fun!! Toby Willis: Wow! Pretty ladies! Linda Royal: Wow! They all look so pretty. Hope they had fun. Hannah looks beautiful. I want to know how she walks in those killer shoes!!

September 19, 2015: Robyn Cox Martin with Pamela Shupe Finley and 4 others all dressed up: Tom, your soccer girls clean up quite nicely. You, Pamela Shupe Finley, Norma Littleton Forbush, Jamie Nicholson Klink and 82 others like this.

Bill-Nancy Gamble: Great group of soccer girls!! Keller Hodges Sadler: Oh my gosh. They look great!!!! Keller Hodges Sadler: And played great today! Robyn Cox Martin: Keller Hodges Sadler, your girl was on fire today!! Hat trick!! Lisa Whorley: Hannah is absolutely gorgeous clean or dirty!! Pamela Shupe Finley: Pretty girls! Tom Brown: The girls look awesome!! Hope they had a great time! Beth Martin Fisher: So pretty! Brenda Brooks: She is really grown up. Beautiful. Faye Keys Cox: Beautiful. Elisa Levy Harris: Beautiful!

September 20, 2015: Photo of Heather & two friends by Pamela Shupe Finley: Ready for LB Homecoming Dance. 9-19-15. You, Amy Jarvis Gould and 3 others like this.

September 20, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley posted another photo of Heather and two soccer team mates all dressed up for the dance: Pretty girls....and to know they were just on the soccer field earlier. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott, Jim Nicholson and 7 others like this.

Amy Jarvis Gould: Heather looks so grown up! David S Shupe: What a transition, from the soccer field to the homecoming dance floor! Norma Littleton Forbush: Beautiful ladies.

September 20, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley posted a photo of a group of gals and guys on the stairway all dressed up. You, Norma Littleton Forbush, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Jim Nicholson and 11 others like this.

Debbie Clinebell Witt: Great picture. David S Shupe: Lovely girls, handsome guys! Catherine J Keiser: What fun! Heather is darling... and growing into a beautiful young lady! Hope she had a great time! Norma Littleton Forbush: Where do all the beautiful girls and handsome guys come from...?

September 24, 2015: Donna Morgan‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Woke up with you and your family on my mind and in my prayers. Love you. Pamela Shupe Finley, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Lisa Rice Davenport and 6 others like this: Bill Morgan: We are praying constantly. We love you, Pam ! Pamela Shupe Finley: Thanks. It's been a rough day. Donna Morgan: I'm so sorry.

September 25, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley: Sorry I'm not in Memphis this weekend celebrating my 20th reunion with my Southern College of Optometry alumni. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Amy Jarvis Gould and 3 others like this.

David S Shupe: Pam ~ I'm sorry too, but let's plan on you going there for your 25th reunion. So glad that Elaine and I are able to spend these couple of days visiting with you, Scot, Sam and Heather. It does our hearts good to be able to chat and share, and yes, even laugh a little. Know that you & family are constantly in our thoughts and prayers 24/7; and I might add, so many of your good friends and relatives have confided in me that they are in prayer for you many times throughout each and every day. Our prayer is that God will receive glory by whatever happens in our lives. (Posted a banner that reads, "God has a purpose for your pain, a reason for your struggles and a reward for your faithfulness. Don't give up").

Jane Morgan Palisoul: Love you, Pam! Pray for you every day! Enjoy the weekend with your Dad and Elaine.

Julie Betts Du: I know you must be missed, but your presence is heavy in hearts and prayers.

Cheryl Shupe Baker: Love you, Pam! Praying for you daily!!

September 30, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley: We found out today that Sam got accepted into Radford nursing school, Roanoke campus. Finally, some good news around here! Congrats, Sam!! Kabuki celebration. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott, Jim Nicholson and 20 others like this. Ten people commented and offered congratulations to Sam.

October 2, 2015: Lisa Rice Davenport shared a link to Pamela Shupe Finley's Timeline. Virginia Beach, VA ~ Virginia Tech to open Campus Kitchen to feed community. Extra food from dining halls at Virginia Tech will soon help people who can't afford to buy food in the New River Valley. wdbj7.com|By WDBJ7. Pamela Shupe Finley, Judy Kidd, Elisa Levy Harris and 3 others like this.

October 3, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Thought about you today and how special you are to family and friends. She posted a poster with 2 red roses which read, "God loves you with a love that's increasing and overflowing." I Thessalonians 3:12-13. You, Pamela Shupe Finley and 3 others like this. Kathie Miller Maxwell: May you feel God's love in a special way.

October 5, 2015: Judy Lynne‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley with photo of a black and white cow (knowing Pam loved cows): Dropping by to say hello, praying for you! You, Pamela Shupe Finley, Elisa Levy Harris and 5 others like this. Linda Hardin: Me, too! Love you, Pam!

October 7, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley with a banner that reads, "The Lord is my strength and my song:" Pam...the sun is shining. May you feel His strength and song in your heart! You, Pamela Shupe Finley, Lisa Rice Davenport and 2 others like this.

October 7, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley: Congratulations to my "baby" who received her driver's permit today. Now the worry begins. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott, Jim Nicholson and 19 others like this. Jim Nicholson: Congratulations Heather! Geri Elliott: Awesome Heather! Carolyn Krisha: She's becoming quite a preschool teacher! Norma Littleton Forbush: Oh great............now the fun begins....Catherine J Keiser: Whaaat?!? No way! I must be getting old! lol! Margaret Palisoul: Congratulations, Heather! Anne Latane Brugh: Heather, you will be a great driver! Congratulations! Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Woohoo. She will do great! Donna Morgan: Right behind ya, Pam. David S Shupe: Congrats Granddaughter Heather Hope. Just to let you know; today's driving requires alertness and patience. Go with God! Judy Kidd: With a great mom like you...nothing but days full of JOY!! Melanie Leweke: Congratulations Heather!! Elisa Levy Harris: Yay for Heather!! The worry never ends.

October 8, 2015: Judy Lynne‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley ~ Goodview, VA: Good Mooorning. Have a blessed day! (Photo of a cow). You, Pamela Shupe Finley and Kathie Miller Maxwell like this.

October 8, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Praying you feel the love of family, friends and especially God's unfailing love. (Shows picture of Winnie the Pooh and a little friend sitting on a log. The little friend asks, "how do you spell love." Winnie replies, "You don't spell love, you feel it." You and Pamela Shupe Finley like this.

October 9, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwel‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Pam....sending you a Friday hug! A photo of a baby bear holding up a long pink rose with the words, "A cheery little note is sent your way. . .just to wish you a Happy Friday!" You, Pamela Shupe Finley and Susan Swanson like this.

October 10, 2015: Norma Littleton Forbush‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Pam, I'm so sorry you didn't get to go to the game tonight......know we are praying for you.....love you...You and Pamela Shupe Finley like this.

October 10, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Pam...an interesting rainy Saturday morning. Everyone needs a good laugh once in a while. (Photo of several pairs of shoes sitting out in the rain with the shadows of the people standing underneath the shoes instead of in them; a reflection in the puddles of water.) Stay warm and dry. Pamela Shupe Finley and 4 others like this. Pamela Shupe Finley: Too funny...& creepy! Kathie Miller Maxwell: Yes, you are right!

October 10, 2015: Janie Christopher Chapman shared Holiday Spirit's photo. (2 pumpkins, one saying "BOTOX.") Pamela Shupe Finley: Thinking of you and Scot today. Praying for you, sweet lady. I thought this would give you a smile today. heart emoticon. You, Pamela Shupe Finley and 8 others like this. Pamela Shupe Finley: Love it!

October 10, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley: A message from Heather in Va Beach for her soccer tournament. The message, "I Love You," written in the sands of Virginia Beach with the waves lapping at the beach. Norma Littleton Forbush, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott and 16 others like this. Debbie Clinebell Witt: She's so sweet. Cheryl Shupe Baker: That's so sweet. Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Hey that's not a soccer field! Sweet girl to tell me she loves me. Thx Heather Finley.

October 11, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell to Pamela Shupe Finley: Pam.....have a blessed Sunday! Then Kathie posted a colorful scripture verse from Numbers 6:24-26, "The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up His countenance upon you and give you peace." You and Pamela Shupe Finley like this.

October 11, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley with Heather Finley, Hannah, Emma & Syd @ Hallowscream, dressed in 4 large pumpkin t-shirts. You, Norma Littleton Forbush, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Heather Finley and 5 others like this.

October 12, 2015: Lisa Johnson Turney‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Sending prayers and love to you! Pamela Shupe Finley and Iris Lee Naff like this.

October 12, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Happy Monday , Pam! You, Pamela Shupe Finley and Janie Christopher Chapman like this.

October 12, 2015: John Cathy Payne‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley from Prospect, VA: You are on our minds and in our hearts today Pam. We are praying and believing. You are loved. Pamela Shupe Finley, Cheryl Shupe Baker and 3 others like this.

October 12, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley shared Antenna TV's photo: I love it! Such memories. Who remembers passing notes like this? Notes folded up in paper triangles & then thrown to someone. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Jim Nicholson, Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland and 7 others like this. Norma Littleton Forbush: Ha...we got the message....didn't cost one penny either....

October 13, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Pam...I thought and prayed for you today. Sent with a poster of Winnie the Pooh saying, "This is a hug from me to you, to let you know I am thinking of you, and although I have nothing to say, you know I have thought of you today!" You and Pamela Shupe Finley like this.

October 13, 2015: Lisa Johnson Turney‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Enjoyed talking with you yesterday! It made my day. Hope you and Sam got out for a ride.Congrats to Heather on her soccer game over the weekend. You, Pamela Shupe Finley and Mary Moock like this.

October 13, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley updated her cover photo to include bookoo's of friendly ghosts flying through the air. Amy Jarvis Gould, Elisa Levy Harris, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard and 6 others like this. Elisa Levy Harris: Love the ghosts!! May have to steal!! Carolyn Krisha: that's my spooky pam! Pamela Shupe Finley: Carolyn-I'll so miss not being involved with Trunk-or-Treat this year. I always looked forward to it. Carolyn Krisha: we will miss your spookiness! and your spunkiness and your specialiness!

October 13, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley updated her profile picture to include her, Lisa, Amy and Karen. You, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Geri Elliott, Jamie Nicholson Klink and 72 others like this.

Pamela Shupe Finley: This was taken in August when we had a "slumber party" at Hotel Roanoke.

Tami Alexander I know I don't keep in touch like I should, but you & your family are in my prayers.

Emily Galbreath: Good job Pam! Praying yet for u. Oct. 15, 2015.

Emily Galbreath: I know u r flying around with the angels. Bless you dear Pam and utter peace for ur family, Scott, Heather and Sam ~ October 20, 2015.

October 13, 2015: Anne Latane Brugh‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Pam, as usual, we are thinking of you, praying for you, and loving you. You, Pamela Shupe Finley and Kathy White like this.

October 14, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Poster showing pile of leaves with a sign, "Free Leaves," and a note saying, "You should be asking yourself, how can this not work? People love free stuff." Pam...hummmmm. Pamela Shupe Finley likes this. Janie Christopher Chapman: LOL - I like it!

October 15, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley with a photo of a little boy and girl holding hands and walking, with the words, "It's not what we have in life, but who we have in our life that matters." Kathie says: Pam...all of your friends and family are so blessed to have you in their lives....and what matters is that God is the center of your life. You, Pamela Shupe Finley, Lisa Rice Davenport and 4 others like this.

. Pamela Shupe Finley: Kathie-thank you for all of the sweet & inspirational posts I keep seeing on my wall...it means so much to know people are praying and thinking about me so often...it's overwhelming! I pray you and your family are doing well.

Kathie Miller Maxwell: Our family is doing well. Each time you see a post know that I am uplifting you to God.

October 15, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley with a photo and a scripture of Psalms 46:1, "God is my refuge and strength." Pam..praying you felt God's strength this week. As the weather gets colder praying you feel the warmth of God's love. Pamela Shupe Finley and Judy Lynne like this. Judy Lynne: Amen! Lu Wright Yes!

October 16, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley with a myriad of photos of babies and pumpkins: Pam....know you loved working with the one year olds at church for ten years. Thought you might enjoy these sweeties. Happy Saturday! Pamela Shupe Finley, Jamie Nicholson Klink and 6 others like this.

Talked with Pam 4:30 yesterday afternoon (Oct. 16, 2015). She just had fluid drained from her left lung the day before and she was having trouble breathing, even with oxygen which she said didn't help much. Said when she just stood up to walk, she couldn't get her breath. Oh how it hurts to see her go through this. Simply tares your heart out. We've prayed and prayed and prayed and she gets no relief. Literally thousands of prayers have gone up for her and she just seems to get worse. I don't understand it at all, but I know the good Lord does and she is in his capable hands for sure. I firmly believe He has a purpose for it all, we just don't know what it is or why this is happening. But He knows the big picture and we defer to his judgment.

October 17, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwell: Which one is your favorite? I have my favorite. I like the little girl with the flower in her hair and stripe socks top left .

October 17, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley: It was actually 14 years & I do miss my babies. Probably the one on the far right-that expression!

October 17, 2015: Kathie Miller Maxwel:l Oh my....14 years is a long time. You and Patricia like the same one. The expression is priceless.

October 17, 2015: Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Thinking of you Pamela Shupe Finley and our nameless moments of late night Stromboli, moon gazing out of our dorm window with me making fun of your obsession, first viewing of the Holy Grail, Wayne & Garth reenactment, family Halloween outings in Roanoke...simple things filled with lots of laughs. XXXOOO. Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland's poster stating, "The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you." You, Pamela Shupe Finley, Lisa Rice Davenport, Ruth Owens and 10 others like this. Ann Rice shared this. Jo Ann Childers like it.

October 17, 2015: Jamie Nicholson Klink shared her photo of 4 babies on Mother's couch at the Home Place (names are listed by Joy Nicholson below)— with Pamela Shupe Finley. Thinking about you and praying for you my sweet cousin. I love you.

Pamela Shupe Finley, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Shirley Poynter and 15 others like this.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Jared Shupe, Jamie Nicholson, Deanna Shupe, Pamela Shupe Finley.

October 17, 2015: Judy Lynne‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley with little girl poster that reads, "Praying for you today, knowing that God Will Provide for every need in every way. Casting all your cares on Him, for He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7. Joy Shupe Nicholson likes this.

October 17, 2015: Pamela Shupe Finley: Watching Virginia Tech Hokies vs Miami (FL) Hurricanes. Contest goes to Heather who scored a "hat trick" in today's game (3 goals). Twelve people like this: David S Shupe, John Shupe, Jim Nicholson, Geri Elliott, Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Lisa Rice Davenport, Elisa Levy Harris, Katie Allen forbish, Carolyn Krisha, Alton Prillaman and Julie Betts Du.

October 17, 2015 at 4:29pm: Pamela Shupe Finley: "Congratulations." Anne Latane Brugh: WTG, Heather! Elisa Levy Harris: She was amazing!! David S Shupe WOW Heather! 3 big ones for Mom! Love you Pam! Posted circular comments that read, "I didn't give you the gift of life; life gave me the gift of you!" Actually, God gave me the miraculous gift of YOU! Thank you God for my precious daughter Pam! 8:07 pm. Carolyn Krisha Way to go super heather! Love seeing her play she's fearless. Catherine J Keiser Congrats, Heather! October 17 at 10:31pm. (These were the comments to Pam's final posting to her Facebook website prior to her going to heaven about 13 hours later at 11:35 the next morning ~ Sunday.)

October 18, 2015 in am: Kathie Miller Maxwell‎ to Pamela Shupe Finley: Blessed Sunday Pam....The Lord is my light and my salvation. ...Psalm 27:1. Prayers uplifted to God. Photo of pumpkin decorations with candles. Elisa Levy Harris and 5 others like this. (Kathie made the final post to Pam's Facebook page probably a few minutes before she passed away just before noon.)

OBITUARY OF PAMELA LANE SHUPE FINLEY

Photo of Pamela Shupe Finley.

OBITUARY OF PAMELA LANE SHUPE FINLEY
(February 25, 1969 ~ October 18, 2015)

Pamela Lane Finley, of Blue Ridge, VA, passed away peacefully on Sunday morning, October 18, 2015 at the age of 46, after a courageous 3 1/2 year battle with Triple Negative Breast Cancer.

Pam was preceded in death by her mother, Jean Shupe, of Virginia Beach, VA.

She is survived by her husband of 22 years, Scot Finley. She also leaves two children. of whom she was very proud of, a son, Sam, and a daughter, Heather. She also leaves her father, David Shupe and his wife, Elaine Dewey-Shupe of Lewes, Delaware; and a brother, Dave Shupe, of Virginia Beach. Also surviving are a sister-in-law, Lori Davie, a niece, Anna Davie, and nephew, Will Davie and father-in-law, John Finley, of Bartlett, Tennessee. She is also survived by many loving aunts and uncles and literally “dozens of cousins".

Pam was a graduate of Green Run High School in Virginia Beach, earned a BS in biology from Virginia Tech and a Doctor of Optometry from Southern College of Optometry in Memphis. She practiced Optometry beside Pearle Vision at Valley View for almost twenty years where she had a special fondness for her thousands of patients. She was a member of Bonsack Baptist Church where she worked with her “babies”, the one-year-old Sunday School class and also served as a “greeter” for the contemporary worship service. She also faithfully ministered beside her husband, the former Minister of Senior Adults at Bonsack, for fourteen years. Her quick smile and sincere care for others will be enormously missed.

Visitation will be held Saturday, October 24, 2015 from 6-8 p.m. at the Bonsack Baptist Church. The funeral will be held Sunday, October 25, 2015 at 2:30 p.m. at Bonsack Baptist Church and an additional hour of visitation will begin at 1:30 p.m. that day. The Rev. Dr. Chris Cadenhead will conduct the service.

A fund is being opened for Pam’s children; if you would like to make a memorial contribution to that fund you may send it to “Scot Finley, Custodian” at 191 White Oak Dr, Blue Ridge, VA 24064. Memorials may also be sent to the building fund of Bonsack Baptist Church, 4845 Cloverdale Road, Roanoke, VA 24019, or to a charity of one’s choosing.

People Who Shared This On Facebook:

Carol Weaver shared a link to the group: Union University Singers, Miami Baptist Church, Logansport, October 21, 2015. This is the obituary for Pam Scot Finley that I shared about yesterday.

Sophia McKinsey: I'm so sorry Carol. Carol Weaver: I didn't actually know Pam - her husband, Scot, was a groomsman for Chuck and they were great friends. He left his ministry shortly after she was diagnosed to care for her.

Bill Morgan October 20, 2015: Praying for our nephew Scot Finley and all of Pam's loved ones and many friends. I have been reading the many tributes to Pam on numerous posts and it easy to see how highly she was regarded and loved. What a sterling example of a Godly young woman. Thank you, David S Shupe for posting. You, Elisa Levy Harris and 40 others like this. David S Shupe: Thank you Bill for those glowing words for Pam. She was a SPECIAL daughter for sure! You, Elisa Levy Harris and 40 others like this.

Michelle Brady Talbert with Susie Brady and Mike Brady October 20, 2015: This was my summertime "sitter" growing up. Many of my childhood friends will probably remember her from my house. She is the reason I went to Tech. She took me to my very first concert. We saw lots of movies, went swimming, and watched soap operas. We had the best summers ever! She will be greatly missed by so many friends and family. I know she is now one of God's treasured Angels. Once again...why we need to find a Cure for Cancer. You and 15 others like this. David S Shupe: Thank you Michelle for sharing about Pam. I think though she considered herself more your chaperone than a "sitter" since you were already a 13 year old independent young lady. At least I believe you were 13 at that time. You and 15 others like this.

Susie Brady: She was a very special young lady. We all truly enjoyed having her take care of Michelle each summer. Losing a spouse is terrible ... the only thing I can imagine being worse is to lose your child. Unfortunately, Dave, you have experienced both. My thoughts and prayers are with the entire family. David S Shupe: Thank you Susie for your very thoughtful comments and prayers. Believe me, they are appreciated. Both of us surely know what it's like to lose a spouse. I still think about your hubby Hugh, and what you went through with him. He was such a special guy and a good friend. We don't question God, but we still wonder why these things happen to such good people. Yes, it is undoubtedly the toughest thing I've ever experienced losing an only daughter, but because of Pam's positive attitude in going through what she did, it has helped me accept it as God's will, & given me peace about it. Our prayers are with you for the long haul.

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Jane Morgan Palisoul‎ to David S Shupe October 20: David, our hearts are broken in the loss of your beautiful daughter, Pam. She was such a sweet and special lady and wonderful wife to Scot and mother to Sam and Heather. My daughter, Margaret, and I will be there Sat. and Sunday and look forward to seeing you and Elaine. David S Shupe: Thanks so much Jane, for your comforting words. Looking forward to meeting you.

‎Bill Morgan‎ to David S Shupe October 20 at Knoxville, TN: Honored to be your fb friend. Look forward to meeting you Satutday. David S Shupe: Same here Bill!

Bill Morgan October 20: Praying for our nephew Scot Finley and all of Pam's loved ones and many friends. I have been reading the many tributes to Pam on numerous posts and it easy to see how highly she was regarded and loved. What a sterling example of a Godly young woman. Thank you, David S Shupe for posting.
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SCOT FINLEY: JOURNAL ENTRY FOR TODAY. . .AUGUST 29, 2016

As of today, Pearle Vision has a new optometrist. Heather and I went to Pam’s old office to remove some last-minute things that the new doctor would not have need of. We met Dr. Wang at the office. He was very nice; in addition to his optometry training he did residency training in low vision therapy. He is going to buy Pam’s files and even asked Heather if she needed a trial contact lens when she noted that hers had been bothering her. He gave her some CL solution. We took out some old insurance notebooks and the candy and gum machine. There was one very poignant moment – Pam and I had left a small statuette of a woman optometrist holding a clipboard. It always sat up high on a cabinet overlooking her second exam lane in the back. I told Dr. Wang that we had intentionally left that figurine there as a symbol of our blessing on the doctor that would take over her practice of nearly twenty years. I told him I hoped it would be an encouragement to him each time he saw it.

Just before we left, Heather and I went back to her back exam room and slowly walked through each room remembering and being grateful for the years we had Pam and the incredible impact for good that she had on the five-thousand some odd patients that she had ministered to over these past two decades. Rather than going “sky-diving and Rocky Mountain climbing,” she had wanted to stay at her post and continued to see patients as long as she was physically able to do so which, in a twist of irony, was the Friday before Labor Day of last year. She went to be with the Lord about seven weeks later.

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Beverly Smith: God bless you and Heather tonight Scot- love you. August 29 at 9:15pm.

Alton Prillaman: Praying for strength for you and the family each time you remember Pam and the many people she has blessed. May each and every memory be loved and cherished. August 29 at 9:16pm.

Brenda Queen Thompson: She was a special lady. We continue to keep you and your family in out prayers. August 29 at 9:18pm.

Sue Graham: Thanks for sharing these special moments, she was an awesome lady. August 29 at 9:19pm.

Alex Boone: She was the first doctor I saw when my retinal detachment started. She referred me to the right people and always checked in and got my prescription for my glasses, now. I'll always be grateful for that, on top of a number of other things. August 29 at 9:20pm.

Jenny-Rick Eubank: Thank you for sharing your day and these memories. August 29 at 9:20pm.

Ginger Davenport Cook May God comfort Heather, Sam, and you. Pam was such a wonderful and intelligent Christian woman that was an honor to know. Continue to remember all of good times you shared together and know that you will see her again one day!! Sending lots of love to all of you!! ❤🙏. August 29 at 9:21pm.

Phyllis Perdue: I appreciate you for sharing. She was a very special lady, one that we were blessed to know. August 29 at 9:25pm.

Diana Dalton: Bless you and your great family! Praying for you all! August 29 at 9:27pm.

Dodie Cobb Thompson: Enjoyed reading this tonight Scot Finley. God bless you and your kids. August 29 at 9:31pm.

Shari Savage Roney: Prayers for you, Heather and Sam. August 29 at 9:33pm.

Shirley Lovelace Williams: Prayers for you and your children. Bless you. August 29 at 9:38pm.

Mary-Lee Loope: Thanks for sharing your day, Scot. Pam was a precious person. August 29 at 9:41pm.

Alan W. May: Praying for you and your kids as you reflect upon the blessing Pam was to your family. Love ya, brother. August 29 at 9:43pm.

Linda Loope: Thanks for sharing. Pam was such a special person & is missed by all who knew her. She was a blessing & encouragement to everyone. August 29 at 9:48pm.

Sharon Gibson Farmer: Such a beautiful memory...thanks for sharing...God bless you, Sam and Heather. August 29 at 9:50pm.

Deborah Duvall: Thanks for sharing. You all continue to be in our prayers. Pam was a great, caring person. I will never forget the good times we had on the bowling league & I even have a couple of bowling ornaments she gave to me & our teammates. She is truly missed. Take care. August 29 at 9:58pm.

Tammy Huddleston Lyle: Lyle Precious memories. August 29 at 10:06pm.

Debbie Clinebell Witt: Pam was an amazing women. She was gentle, kind, compassionate, dedicated, devoted, giving, faithfull, strong, and so, so many other wonderful qualities. She endured more than anyone ever should and handled everything with dignity and grace. Well done, Pam! August 29 at 10:11pm.

Terri Dino Barnett: Your post is so inspirational thanks for sharing. August 29 at 10:18pm.

Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland: Great news and happy memories. Love the statuette. August 29 at 10:22pm.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Precious memories Scot!!! Thank you for sharing them!! You, Heather & Sam continue to be in our prayers!! Love to you all!!! August 29 at 10:26pm.

Lea Finley: Love y'all! August 29 at 10:31pm.

Andrew Morgan: Thank you for sharing- I think of you all often. August 29 at 10:33pm.

Angie Gonzales: God bless you. How lucky you all were to have known that kind of love. Gives me chills. Very lovely family. August 29 at 10:37pm.

Whitney Carroll: I absolutely loved working for her!!! She was so patient with me as a 16 year old who had no clue how to be a good employee. She is truly missed!! August 29 at 10:40pm.

Jane Morgan Palisoul: Scot, what a nice post. Thanks for sharing those memories. Think of you and Heather and Sam all the time. Keep in touch. Love you! August 29 at 10:53pm.

Lisa Moorman: Wow. Thanks for sharing your memories with the rest of us and may God continue to comfort and bless you all. August 29 at 11:01pm.

Kim Shelor: I miss my special friend-especially this time of year. Your family has always been an inspiration to so many of us - in the past - present - future !!!!! August 29 at 11:09pm.

Troy Fleming: Scot, to your family from our family, we miss Pam very much!!! August 29 at 11:14pm.

Roma Henderson: Praying....August 29 at 11:23pm.

Cheryl Campbell: Prayers to you and your children Scott. Pam was very special to all! August 29 at 11:33pm.

Norma Littleton Forbush: Still find it hard to believe as well as so many.. but, . to know she is no longer suffering and is now rejoicing with the LORD makes it all worth while.....my prayers are with you, your children, my Uncle David (Pam's father and her brother Davy)....August 30 at 12:26am.

Frank Huddleston: God bless you, Scot, in those special moments of reflections from the past. There will be many more; cherish them all. August 30 at 1:26am.

Melanie Feazell: Scot, what a beautiful testament and way to remember Pam! August 30 at 4:54am.

Sherry Burgandine Campbell: Bless you all. August 30 at 5:20am.

Donna Morgan: Very important that you and Heather intentionally took the time for closure and that you blessed the new doctor and honored and remembered Pam's contribution to vision and her patients. Very touching. I, too, keep you in my prayers. Love you 3! August 30 at 5:42am.

Anne Lowe: God's blessings to you and your family, Scot. August 30 at 6:36am.

Marianne Reynolds: Praying for you and your beautiful family. Healing comes in stages, so wonderful to take those steps together! Good bless you all. August 30 at 6:37am.

Rose Yvonne Snider: Precious memories. Thinking of you and your children. August 30 at 6:45am.

Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell. Thank you for sharing about your precious Pam. So glad you got to experience the walk through with Heather. Cherished memories. Very touching. August 30 at 6:58am.

Jane Woods Nason: Scot, thank you for being so transparent. We are praying for you and the children. August 30 at 7:09am.

Amanda Trent: Such a bittersweet memory! Thank you for sharing. Our neighbor is always telling sweet stories about Pam & you can certainly tell she was more than their physician. August 30 at 7:34am.

Elisa Levy Harris: 💗💗💗💗💗💗 August 30 at 7:44am.

Helen Perry: Precious memories: Thank you for sharing! August 30 at 8:02am.

Lisa Banter: Thanks Scott for sharing that sweet memory of love with all of us. August 30 at 8:10am.

Carolyn Krisha: As time passes and that's a blessing as sometimes we remember special memories that had been earlier forgotten in our immediate grief. This will be a difficult few weeks, thinking of you all. August 30 at 8:14am.

Wayne Martin: Sending prayers. August 30 at 8:18am.

Lu Wright: Beautiful memories for you to keep! Our prayers continue with you! August 30 at 8:24am.

Sandra Brown Hill: Thanks for this remembrance of Pam. What a beautiful lady. Thinking of you all. August 30 at 8:35am.

Kim Campbell Crist: Prayers to you and your children. August 30 at 8:45am.

Margaret Palisoul: What a sweet time of remembrance! Love you all! August 30 at 9:26am.

Candy Hill Williams: How special! I've found that memories are gifts from God that help us get through our losses. I know you're thankful for them. Love you guys❤🙏🏼. August 30 at 10:10am.

Dewey Stevens: Our prayers are with you & family. August 30 at 10:56am.

Wanda Reed: Thanks for sharing these precious moments. August 30 at 11:57am.

Ina Crouch Murphey: So glad I had the pleasure and blessing of knowing her. As I was reading this, I could visualize her sweet smile and sense her love for her family and dedication to her patients. Thank you for posting this and for keeping her memory alive in our hearts. August 30 at 12:14pm.

Sandy Wright Rakes: You and your family continue to be in our hearts and our prayers. August 30 at 1:43pm.

Marquita Brown: God bless you and Heather. August 30 at 3:33pm.

Eva Somers: Thank you so much for your love of family and friends. You will always be special to those who know you and love you and your family. Heather, you and Sam have a very rich and Godly heritage. God bless each of you is our daily prayer. August 30 at 4:53pm.

Michelle Kelley Lawson: Pam was a special, gentle, rare soul. She diligently took care of our family for most of those 20 years. A tear still escapes my eye when I think of her, because I miss her. Yet, a smile always comes to my face because she was tremendously impactful, in her quiet, kind, graceful demeanor. Much Love to each of you. August 30 at 5:35pm.

Sheri May Pecukonis: Bless your heart! God bless you and Heather! August 30 at 6:09pm.

Betty Lou Moulton: Thank you for sharing. August 30 at 8:11pm.

John Cochran: Thanks for the e-mail on memories of Pam. August 30 at 8:18pm.

Teresa Witt Arney: Beautiful memories, Scot! Pam was a blessing to everyone she encountered. August 30 at 9:21pm.

Jill Hammer Meacham: This is so special! I am glad you and Heather are able to have such special memories! August 30 at 10:19pm.

Donna-Jack Cothran: We continue to pray for all of you and we miss Pam . We always think of her especially in the fall when our church bowling league begins. She always had a joyful and sweet spirit even when she was going through the trials of her treatment. August 31 at 10:23am.

Terri Mayhew: Precious woman, precious memories. August 31 at 6:54pm.

Carol Witt Pugh: Sweet gentle spirit...honored to call Pam my friend!❤ prayers and hugs to you and Heather...and especially to Sam...so far away! September 1 at 9:03am.

Teresa Ellis: The most sweetest, kindest, people I know; she was truly a good Christan lady, whom always had a heart of gold for people and always spoke well of people and not put them down. She is missed! September 1 at 9:44am.

SCOT FINLEY'S POST ON PAM'S ONE-YEAR ANNIVERSARY IN HEAVEN OCTOBER 18, 2016 AT 6:45 PM

Today is the one-year anniversary of the loss of my beloved wife, Pam. In her last weeks of life, she often told me she was sorry for how much "trouble" she had been - all the doctor visits, measuring medications, me and the kids having to do much of the house work etc. Of course, all of that is nothing now; I would do all that and work in a coal mine all day to have her back! I told her that if I had known everything that was going to happen to us, I would have chosen her all over again! And that's the truth. As someone wisely said, "It is not the amount of years in our life but the amount of LIFE in our years." Pam squeezed more into her 46 years than many do in twice those number of years. Thank you to all who were her friends, family, and patients. Thank you for your many kindnesses and thoughtful acts over her years battling cancer. Thank you as well for your ministry to me and my kids since then. Hug your family and friends a little tighter tonight and rejoice with me in the Hope of the Great Reunion just over the horizon!

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Jill Hammer Meacham: Praying for you all! October 18 at 6:50pm.

Alton Prillaman Alton Prillaman We miss Pam greatly. Praying for you, Sam, and Heather on this anniversary. May you all be comforted by loving memories of Pam. Praying for God's comfort and strength for you and the family. Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 6:51pm Judy Staggers Finley Judy Staggers Finley Rejoicing in our precious memories and thankful for the husband and children Pam enjoyed! Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 6:56pm Judy Staggers Finley Judy Staggers Finley Rob: Scot, we share the memories and the sure hope of eternity when we all will be rejoined. Praying for you all. Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 7:10pm Teresa Adams Stowell Teresa Adams Stowell Anniversaries are tough, but living each day without the one you love is hard as well. Praying for your memories to always remain close to heart and in front of your mind to be quickly recalled. Oh what a sweet day the reunion will be! Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:10pm Kathy Marven Moses Kathy Marven Moses Thinking of you!! Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:25pm Kimberly Barger Marshall Kimberly Barger Marshall My thoughts and prayers are with your and your family! Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:29pm BobnBarbara Allen BobnBarbara Allen Beautiful tribute. Like · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 7:31pm Robert Young Robert Young I share your pain. Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:36pm Cyndi Bo Bendy Cyndi Bo Bendy I wondered if you and Scott were friends. So heartbroken. For both of you. 😓 Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:58pm David S Shupe Write a reply... Lisa Kerlin Tarbutton Lisa Kerlin Tarbutton Remembering all of the wonderful memories of Pam. Love and prayers! Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:40pm Terra Whittaker Terra Whittaker Words cannot express the loss of a loved one..God bless you and give you peace and contentment..my prayers and thoughts are with you! Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 7:45pm Linda Wheeling Linda Wheeling Prayers for you dear Scot and your family. Miss you much Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:46pm Elisa Levy Harris Elisa Levy Harris We all miss her so much. She was such a beautiful and sweet friend. Hugs for you and Heather and Sam. 💗 Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 7:47pm Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland Janet Joyce Cassell Cleveland Great memorial Scot Finley. We certainly join you in missing Pam sorely. So glad that we can talk about our wonderful memories of her. I just know she would be proud of how we are all making lemonade out of lemons. Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 7:47pm Ruth Ann Vaughan Ruth Ann Vaughan Many hugs to you, Sam, & Heather. I am very much looking forward to that reunion with her, too! Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 7:50pm Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell Beautiful Tribute. Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 7:51pm Stav Borovich Stav Borovich Grace to you and your family. Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:55pm Betty Jo Leonard Betty Jo Leonard God Bless you and your family and prayers for comfort! Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:56pm Gale Hancock Garst Gale Hancock Garst We love and miss you, Scot. Hope your dear family is well. Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:58pm Lori Rozzell Gottschalk Lori Rozzell Gottschalk My heart goes out to you, Scot, and my prayers are with you and your kids. Like · Reply · October 18 at 7:58pm Wende Gustafson Wende Gustafson Scot, I am never sure of the right words to say...what a beautiful tribute to your late wife. And thank you for your call after my father passed...it meant so much. 💜💜💜 Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:10pm Michael Normandy Michael Normandy Praying for comfort for you and family . Pam walked with the Lord and it showed everyday She is smiling down from Heaven God bless Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 8:14pm Belinda Edwards Belinda Edwards What a sweet remembrance. Hugging tighter...and hoping you and your kids are too. Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:24pm Dodie Cobb Thompson Dodie Cobb Thompson Sending our love to you and the kids tonight Scot Finley. Peace be with you. Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:25pm Jenny-Rick Eubank Jenny-Rick Eubank What sweet and heartfelt words. Hard to believe it has been a year. Praying for peace for you at this time Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:32pm Cheryl Campbell Cheryl Campbell Wonderful tribute Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:33pm Michelle Holliman Purser Michelle Holliman Purser Beautifully said...thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:34pm Lea Finley Lea Finley Love you and your sweet sweet family, cousin. Thoughts, prayers and lots of love for you all. Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:46pm Dewey Stevens Dewey Stevens Scot Great tribute God understands our prayers even when we can't find the words to say them. Press Like if you agree! =) Like · Reply · 2 · October 18 at 8:47pm Glenna Felts Glenna Felts How wonderful that you had those precious years! Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:49pm Mary Moock Mary Moock Beautiful Scot..God bless you and your family..❤ Like · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 8:49pm Joy Shupe Nicholson Joy Shupe Nicholson Such a loving tribute, Scot!!! You and your family have been in our prayers this year and especially today!!! We love you all and thank God for how He is working in your lives to bless and encourage others because of what you have been through - to comfort them with the comfort wherewith you have been comforted by our Lord!!! (2 Corinthians 1:3-11) God bless you all and keep you in His loving care always!!! We love you, Uncle Jim & Aunt Joy Shupe Nicholson Unlike · Reply · 2 · October 18 at 8:53pm · Edited Shannon Boone Shannon Boone Remembering Pam and praying for you all. Very lovely tribute. ❤️ Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:54pm Lisa Hall Lisa Hall Love to you and family. Pam is missed. Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:56pm Kim Shelor Kim Shelor So eloquently said! Like · Reply · October 18 at 8:57pm Candy Hill Williams Candy Hill Williams She was a great lady! Prayers to you❤ Like · Reply · October 18 at 9:05pm Bill Morgan Bill Morgan Well said, Scot. You were blessed! Like · Reply · October 18 at 9:05pm Debbie Clinebell Witt Debbie Clinebell Witt A life well lived. Blessed to have known Pam. Thankful for our friendship over the years. Like · Reply · October 18 at 9:26pm Siobhan Donegan Cline Siobhan Donegan Cline This is an amazing tribute to your wife, it gave me goosebumps. ❤ Like · Reply · October 18 at 9:35pm Brenda Queen Thompson Brenda Queen Thompson Prayers for you and your family Like · Reply · October 18 at 9:53pm Jane Morgan Palisoul Jane Morgan Palisoul Scot, what a sweet tribute to Pam. Hope you find comfort in the love around you and peace in the strength within you. Thinking of you, Sam, and Heather, especially today. Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 9:53pm Melanie Leweke Melanie Leweke So nicely said, Scot Like · Reply · October 18 at 9:56pm Beth McIlwain Hale Beth McIlwain Hale Scot, bless you and your kids for everything you guys have gone and are going through. We don't know why God allows such pain and heartache but as you said I believe the Great reunion will be soon!! Continue to press on brother through each and every day, as I can't imagine how difficult it must be. Sending love and prayers your way!! Like · Reply · October 18 at 10:01pm Wanda Reed Wanda Reed Blessings to you and your family. This was a beautiful tribute! Like · Reply · October 18 at 10:14pm Wade Wallace Wade Wallace Scott, you and your family are in my prayers. Like · Reply · October 18 at 10:15pm Ginger Davenport Cook Ginger Davenport Cook You, Heather, and Sam are in my continued thoughts and prayers!!❤️ We love all of you!! Like · Reply · October 18 at 10:26pm · Edited Gretchen Gill Wilson Gretchen Gill Wilson I miss Pam. She was a great woman and friend:) Like · Reply · October 18 at 10:27pm David S Shupe David S Shupe Such a wonderful tribute to Pam, Scot. She did enjoy life, and thoroughly enjoyed the people around her that made up her life. As you said, Pam lived life to the fullest, and accomplished so much in the years that God blessed her with here on earth. So thankful her influence spread to countless friends, relatives and family members. I know she would be pleased with all the accolades she has received on Facebook and through other media. We are all greatly blessed by God. Like · Reply · October 18 at 10:29pm Carol Witt Pugh Carol Witt Pugh Sending prayers to you and your family, especially today...as you all pass this mark in your lives without Pam...she is smiling down on you all and she is proud of you all, as I am proud to call you friend! Unlike · Reply · 1 · October 18 at 10:46pm · Edited Roma Henderson Roma Henderson Praying for you and your family, Scot. Like · Reply · October 18 at 10:49pm Kimberly Brumfield Thacker Kimberly Brumfield Thacker Thinking of you! Like · Reply · October 18 at 10:50pm Wayne Martin Wayne Martin Sending prayers Like · Reply · October 18 at 11:18pm Tim Cormany Tim Cormany Cass and I send you our prayers! Like · Reply · October 18 at 11:21pm Paula Ward Hedgepeth Paula Ward Hedgepeth So sweet, Scot. I'm sure she was a wonderful lady! Like · Reply · October 18 at 11:32pm Janie Christopher Chapman Janie Christopher Chapman Sending Prayers and HUGS for you and the kids today. I know it was very difficult. Hope you all are doing O.K. Like · Reply · October 18 at 11:50pm Angie Gonzales Angie Gonzales So beautiful Like · Reply · October 19 at 12:42am Chuchuchu Nchunga Chuchuchu Nchunga In God we get our comfort only him can touch and soothe where nobody can. Be comforted big brother God bless you. Like · Reply · October 19 at 1:28am Michelle Kelley Lawson Michelle Kelley Lawson My prayers are with you and your family. Pam continues to be a blessing with the precious memories many have of her. She is missed. Much Love to you all. Like · Reply · October 19 at 4:56am Teresa Ellis Teresa Ellis She was a wonderful lady inside and out,she was love and you and Sam and Heather too,she was truly a real example of a Christan,she was a down to earth good example of a pastor wife,she look at people as equal and not look down at them,or think she Better then them.she is miss here.love you guy's Like · Reply · October 19 at 4:57am Jerry Bonds Jerry Bonds Praying for you and your family Scott Like · Reply · October 19 at 6:13am Sherry Hearn Sherry Hearn Such a lovely lady. Her influence is a great blessing to me as I know it is to her family. Like · Reply · October 19 at 6:27am Steve Bartley Steve Bartley Scott, you, heather, and Sam are constantly in my prayers. You are a living example of strength, dignity, and grace to all who know you. May God bless you and kids going forward. Proud to know you brother. Like · Reply · October 19 at 7:35am Cathy Benson Cathy Benson God bless you. Like · Reply · October 19 at 7:49am Jay Whitmore Jay Whitmore What a beautiful thing to say Scott. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers today. So glad the girls got to go out together last night. Praying for you today my friend. Jay Whitmore Like · Reply · October 19 at 8:12am Dianne Massie Leftwich Dianne Massie Leftwich I miss Pam too Scot.1'll see someone who reminds me of herAnd her sweet sweet spirit. Our prayers will continue to be with you Like · Reply · October 19 at 8:38am Jennifer Crosthwait Mullins Jennifer Crosthwait Mullins What an awesome blessing to have had the experience of a loving marriage and wonderful wife. She will live on in your heart until you meet her again one day. Like · Reply · October 19 at 2:43pm Shirley Hartwell Shirley Hartwell May God comfort you and give you peace. We miss you! Like · Reply · October 19 at 5:10pm John Bettie Hale John Bettie Hale Thinking of you Scot and your precious children. Those we love dearly will always live in our hearts and minds. Praying for continued comfort for you and the family. Like · Reply · October 20 at 6:47pm Betty Lou Moulton Betty Lou Moulton So thankful for the time you were allowed together on this earth and so thankful to have known and loved you both. You stay very close to our hearts. Like · Reply · October 20 at 8:56pm Anne Lowe Anne Lowe God bless you and your family, Scot. Like · Reply · October 22 at 4:26pm



MORE POEMS ABOUT PAM ~ COMPOSED BY HER DAD!

REMEMBERING PAM ONE YEAR LATER ~ OCTOBER 18, 2016

Today October 18, 2016, my heart is heavy for granddaughter Heather, and grandson Sam currently stationed in Qatar, for the loss of their precious Mother, and son-in-law Scot for the loss of his devoted wife, exactly one year ago today, for son Dave losing his only sister, for a Mother-in-law who loved her like a daughter, our beloved daughter Pam. I also feel for her best friends from childhood; Lisa, Amy and Karen as well as her college buddies Janet Cleveland and Ruth Ann Vaughan, as well as multiples of other friends and relatives that Pam cherished so much.

It is both a sad and a happy time; sad because we all miss Pam, but happy because she has achieved what we're all striving for, a celestial home in heaven with family, friends and loved ones who've gone on before her, and to be forever with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. As Paul wrote in some of his New Testament writings, "To be absent from the body, is to be present with the Lord." A promise so wonderful for each of us.

While Pam made her celestial move from planet Earth to Heaven, and we would have loved to keep her here with us, the good Lord had other plans. While we miss her down here, as do all family members who have lost their loved ones this past year, or in prior years; in heaven I imagine she's in her glory, residing with her mother, grandparents, other loved ones and saints who have gone on before her.

She's in a land where we'll never grow old, never experience another pain, have another disease, never hear a cross word, never be exposed to political corruption that runs rampant in our world today, no more murders, robbing, raping, fear of terrorism, no more parting or dying over there, and on and on.

Sure, it's been a tough year. How often we think of Pam and how much we miss her. Many of you could say the same thing about your special loved ones who have gone on. The good Lord has brought us through another year, and He will continue to do so, until He calls us home. In God do we put our undying trust. His Son Jesus has been victorious for us over death, hell and grave. Nothing can separate us from the Love of God. We are His eternally.

We thank God for sharing Pam with us for 46 years, 7 months and 23 days. Pam has been committed to the hands of the good Lord, and she couldn't be in any better hands. To God be the Glory! Rev. 21:4: And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.

Photo David holding Pam, his daughter.

REMEMBERING PAM
(2/25/1969 ~ 10/18/2015)

Remembering Pam is easy,
I do it every day.
Missing Pam is the heartache,
That never goes away.

It's now been a year,
Since God called Pam home.
While we miss her on earth,
In heaven, Pam now does roam.

When Pam was ever so little,
I held her in my loving arms.
Though she is no longer with us,
I treasure all of her many charms.

I involve myself in many things,
To help fill her space.
But there's always a void;
As nothing can take her place.

Have never known such pain,
That such a tragic loss could entail.
Like you've lost a piece of your heart,
And her absence, I sadly bewail.

I often stop and think,
And Pam's face fills my mind.
Of a sudden, the tears begin to flow,
And I start to unwind.

I think of her many good friends,
That she prematurely left behind.
My heart goes out to them,
I pray for their peace of mind.

The effect it has on best friends,
Is difficult to assess & contemplate.
Another void that can never be filled,
Friendship is not something to delegate.

I think often of Scot, Sam and Heather,
And the emptiness in their lives.
Realizing there is no easy solution,
After that special loved one dies.

A spouse without his marriage partner,
Not an ideal situation to encounter.
A lonely way to be dealing with life,
Leaving him to hopelessly flounder.

A daughter & son without a mother,
What could be more painful.
No matter which way you view it,
It could not be more un-gainful.

They were the pride of her life,
Were Son Sam, and Daughter Heather.
How very much she loved & cherished,
Their family times together.

A brother, losing his only sister,
Is a burden so hard to bear.
The pain of such premature parting,
Drives one to total despair.

A father without his only daughter,
The heartache cannot be measured.
Pam, who was so faithfully devoted,
Her memories lovingly treasured.

Especially hard are special days,
Birthdays, anniversaries & holidays.
When that special person is absent
At family functions & movie matinees.

The many relatives she loved so much,
Were safely treasured in her heart.
She always loved the special gatherings,
So very sad she had to depart.

But the good Book clearly says,
Jesus heals the broken hearted.
That He provides the blessed peace,
Once our loved one has departed.

There's no set time for recovery;
It may take days or even years,
Deep sorrow may fill our heart,
Causing us to shed many tears.

Weeping may endure for a night,
But joy comes in the morning.
This is our promise from above;
We accept it to be heartwarming.

So thank you dear precious Lord,
For peace passing all understanding.
Although the ache will never go away,
It could eventually be less demanding.

Pam, you are sorely missed,
And you will always be in our heart.
We commit you to the arms of Christ,
Knowing we will not always be apart.

So thank you our faithful God,
For the years you gave us precious Pam.
Our lives were made so much richer,
For the priceless gift, from the great I AM.

Our heart melds with your heart Pam
WE LOVE YOU FOREVER!

Photo of Pam Shupe Finley.

Composed by:
A Dad With An Aching Heart
October 18, 2016

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POEM RESPONSE

Forty-four (44) people like this poem: Laurie Holmes, Susan Geisler, Mary LeCates, Shari Allen, Cheryl Shupe Baker, Jamie Nicholson Klink, Sally Bulkley, Kenna LaJoy Barrett, Grace P. Ogle, Geri Elliott, Annick Maubrey Hughes, Jane Morgan Palisoul, Jim Nicholson, Ruth Ann Vaughan, Nancy Davis, Amy Fermil Spruill, Angela Littleton Miller, Rita Fontana Jones, Gary & Trisha Fearer, Mike A White, Beverly Hurd, Norm Fontana, John Cathy Payne, David Little, Ruth Owens, Bill Morgan, Michelle Brady Talbert, Bonnie Christine Holcombe-Fontana, Elisa Levy Harris, Michelle Shupe Wheatley, Donna Morgan, Joy Shupe Nicholson, Norma Littleton Forbush, Stephen Wheatley, Daisy Daquilanea Kinard, Pat Oakley Shupe, Andria Padgett McClellan, Rita Hudson, Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell, Judy Kidd, Jared Shupe, Dee Shupe Goggin, Roxie Carter & Laura Howland Porter.

Judy Kidd: What a glorious child who grew up to be an amazing young woman. I will always have a place in my heart for you. So much love for my Pammy. October 18 at 5:04am. David S Shupe: Judy, you've always been there for Pam (and us), since she was a little tyke. Thanks so much! P.S. And today is also your Mother's birthday if I remember correctly! Happy Birthday to her. Judy Kidd: Yes it is, she appreciate you remembering her.

Gayle Harris: A loving tribute. We are indeed eternally His. We remember with you. Thanks for sharing. God bless and keep you. Much love to you and all family and friends. October 18 at 5:14am. David S Shupe: Thanks Gayle. I know! You always remember. Means a lot.

Kathie Miller Kingery Maxwell: Speechless! Thanks for sharing. October 18 at 5:22am. David S Shupe: Thank you Kathie for sharing. Just remembering some of your comments you made to Pam during the last couple weeks of her life, when every day you sent an encouraging Facebook message to her with a lovely photo, letting her know she was in your thoughts and prayers each day. Brought tears to my eyes when I realized what you were doing.

Andria Padgett McClellan: Sending love and prayers. Thank you for the beautiful tribute. October 18 at 5:53am. David S Shupe: Thanks much for your prayers and love Andria. Don't think I'll ever forget Pam's College Park friends.

Pat Oakley Shupe: Beautiful David. You are all in our heart and prayers today. May the God of all comfort do what only He can. We love you. October 18 at 5:56am. David S Shupe: Thanks Pat, for your prayers and blessing. You are always a blessing.

Norma Littleton Forbush: Uncle David, my heart aches for u. It is so easy for me to remember this date. It was not a good call that I received on my birthday. You are in our prayers today. October 18 at 6:40am. David S Shupe: Happy Birthday Norma. Pam's 1st Anniversary in heaven and your birthday are two good reasons to celebrate! We may miss her for sure, but that doesn't take away from the joy and heavenly bliss she is now experiencing. P. S. Thanks for yours and John's prayers and kind thoughts. We appreciate them all.

Joy Shupe Nicholson: Oh, dear brother David, what a beautiful and loving tribute to your precious daughter, Pam, and what emotions it brings to the surface for all her family and friends ("framily")!!! The tears do flow in remembering, but thank you for the reminder of that HOPE that surely has sustained you, Elaine, Dave, Scot, Sam, Heather and all the family and friends!! So thankful that even as the tears flow here on earth, she is indeed rejoicing in Heaven and waiting for us all to join her!!! We love you all and especially praying today for that peace from God that passes all understanding and His gentle comfort!!! We love you all!!! October 18 at 6:41am. David S Shupe: Thanks Joy, for your words of comfort. I know all the words of friends, family members, and Pam's friends will serve to comfort Heather, Sam, Scot, Dave, Elaine and myself through the day and beyond. Love you!

Michelle Shupe Wheatley: Sending love to you Uncle David. 😘 October 18 at 6:57am. David S Shupe: Thanks Michelle. We accept!

Marjorie Latzko: Tears. October 18 at 8:06am. David S Shupe: Indeed!

Elisa Levy Harris: Prayers and love and hugs in memory of an amazing, sweet and kind friend. 🙏🏼💗 This is such a beautiful tribute you wrote to her. October 18 at 8:22am. David S Shupe: Thanks much Elisa for all your prayers, love and hugs for Pam's family, and for Pam when she was still with us. Appreciate your comments.

Michelle Brady Talbert: Beautiful. Think of Pam and her happy smile often. October 18 at 8:46am. David S Shupe: So nice of you to say so Michelle. Pam so enjoyed the summers she spent with you.

Roxie Carter: Sending love and prayers from your cousins. October 18 at 9:14am. David S Shupe: Thanks much cousin Roxie! Appreciate your prayers & love.

Linda Pitts Lane: Pam you are forever in our hearts. Beautiful tribute to a beautiful lady. October 18 at 11:02am. David S Shupe: Yes she is, and always will be. Thanks Linda.

GaryandTrisha Fearer: It has to be a very hard day for you and the family, praying here. October 18 at 11:59am. David S Shupe: Yes, it would be much harder, Trish, if the good Lord wasn't always there to help smooth things out. Thanks.

Amy Fermil Spruill: Thinking of you and your family today! October 18 at 12:40pm. David S Shupe: Thanks Amy. Appreciate that. Hope your Mom is doing better. Amy Fermil Spruill: Thank you. She's home. Tired but that's normal after spending 6 days in the hospital. One day at a time. David S Shupe: Thank God. Will keep her in our prayers.

Nancy Davis: How sad for those of her family who are left to love her. Much sympathy to you David. October 18 at 3:55pm. David S Shupe Thanks Nancy. Sad for the family, but happy for Pam residing in her heavenly abode for a year now.

Lutie Ewers Davis: David & Elaine, seems just yesterday that Pam left this earth. You are such a blessing to others, now I offer prayers & blessings to you both. October 18 at 5:46pm. David S Shupe: Thanks Lutie. You're too kind. Thanks for your prayers and blessings. Appreciate them.

Ruth Ann Vaughan: Praying for you today. Many hugs. October 18 at 7:58pm. David S Shupe: Thanks for your prayers & hugs, Ruth Ann. Know the whole family appreciates all that you have done for Pam. A true friend indeed.

Cheryl Shupe Baker: That was beautiful, Uncle David. Pam was so kind and thoughtful. I know you are hurting. I'm praying for you, Aunt Elaine, Scot, Sam, Heather, and Dave. Sending hugs for you all. October 18 at 9:27pm. David S Shupe: Thanks Cheryl. That's very kind of you. Appreciate your thoughts and prayers for each of the family members.

Debbie Clinebell Witt: What a wonderful tribute to an amazing woman. Pam continues to bless my life. Thank you for sharing this beautiful poem. October 18 at 9:39pm. David S Shupe: Thank you Debbie, for your special comments about Pam and the poem. So glad Pam's influence touched so many people like yourself.

Jane Morgan Palisoul: David, thinking of you today! May the memories that you hold grow more dear. Your poem is so sweet. October 18 at 10:04pm. David S Shupe: Thank you Jane! The memories do keep us going!

Geri Elliott: That is a beautiful poem for a beautiful person...inside and out. You all have been in my thoughts and prayers today. Love you Uncle David! October 18 at 11:03pm. David S Shupe: Geri ~ Thank you for those comments. Pam was a special person for sure, and sometimes the good die young. Appreciate your kind thoughts and especially your prayers. Love you. October 19 at 6:42am.

Jane Burkey · 7 mutual friends: David, I didn't know you at LPC, but this beautiful expression of your grief and faith has touched me deeply. You are a gifted poet, I especially identified with the first four lines of Remembering Pam. The death of someone we love changes us forever. But Jesus said "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted". The only time the Bible mentions that Jesus wept was when his dear friends were weeping for the death of their brother, Lazarus, even though Jesus was about to bring him back to life. I think knowing that his death would give all of us eternal life, gave Jesus the strength he needed to face his own death. We are comforted by the fact that our physical death isn't the end of our eternal life with Jesus who loves us perfectly, something we can all look forward to indeed. October 19 at 4:37am. David S Shupe: Jane ~ Your comments touched our heart. Yes, even though life is uncertain and death is assured for each of us, it still affects us tremendously when a special loved one dies, just like Lazarus' death affected his sisters and friends so much, and as you say, affected Christ so much that He wept. It does change us, and hopefully for the better. Thanks for sharing. (Just wanted to add that it was our loss that we didn't get to know you & Jim better when you were still at Lewes LPC. We wish you God's blessings in all that you do in your new location). Jane Burkey: Thank you. Jim and I retired to Lewes in 2003 to be near our son in DC. Three years later he and his wife moved back to Rochester where we lived for 30 years. Finally in May, Jim agreed that it was the right thing to move back to be near our son and his family, they have a girl 7 and a boy 3. We lost our older son to Melanoma 2 years ago, he was 40 and had never married. He was a truck driver and alone most of the time. So you have the joy of knowing that Pam had a loving partner and two beloved children. Still it's hard to loose her at such a young age. It sounds like all who knew her loved her, especially you. My sympathy to you in your loss. But I'm happy to know that your faith is strong and will give you strength until you see Pam again in heaven. October 19 at 8:23am.

Shari Allen: My heart is heavy for you. Praying for you. ❤🙏 What beautiful pictures. I'm sure you have such wonderful memories. October 19 at 7:39pm. David S Shupe: Thanks Shari for your thoughts and prayers. We do have "bunches" of memories to sustain us. God is good even when we feel sorrow. You know what it's like to lose a special loved one too. October 20 at 8:03am.

Norma Littleton Forbush shared your post on October 18 at 11:31pm: This poem was writtten by my uncle in memory of my cousin, his daughter Pam, who went home to be with Jesus one year ago today, on my birthday. Me, Geri and 2 others like this.

Joy Shupe Nicholson shared your post on October 18 at 6:41am. Joy Shupe Nicholson, Cheryl Shupe Baker and 3 others like this. Joy Shupe Nicholson: Oh, dear brother David, what a beautiful and loving tribute to your precious daughter, Pam, (our precious niece) and what emotions it brings to the surface for all her family and friends ("framily")!!! The tears do flow in remembering, but thank you fo...See More

Elizabeth Price: We never get over our loss, we get through it day by day with the strength of our Heavenly Father. October 18 at 10:27am. Joy Shupe Nicholson: Amen!!! So true Elizabeth!!!


PAM FINLEY: IF YOU WERE STILL ALIVE

Photo of Pam.

IF YOU WERE STILL ALIVE. . .

If you were still alive. . .
How happy I would be.
My tears would turn to laughter,
For all the world to see.

If you were still alive. . .
My broken heart would be whole.
For you departed so prematurely,
And our life was put on hold.

If you were still alive. . .
I wouldn't hurt so much.
Before, you were always available,
Now, you're out of touch.

If you were still alive. . .
I'd treasure our times together.
We'd enjoy each others visits,
In all kinds of weather.

If you were still alive. . .
My heart would no longer ache.
Bad things do happen in our lives,
That we would love to unmake.

If you were still alive. . .
I could call you on the phone.
Listen to your cheery voice;
Emptiness now, I must condone.

If you were still alive. . .
I'd still have a loving daughter.
Now that you are gone,
I'm like a lamb led to the slaughter.

If you were still alive. . .
I'd have one more reason for living.
Now that you are no longer with us,
My heart is filled with misgiving.

If you were still alive. . .
We'd hear you cheering for Heather,
When she scored a winning soccer goal;
Now we'll hear you never.

If you were still alive. . .
We'd hear one more exciting voice,
Cheering for the V.T. Hokies,
Which was your all time choice.

If you were still alive. . .
Everything would be so different.
There would be no tears of sadness,
Only feelings of pure contentment.

If you were still alive. . .
I'd have no reason to be blue.
Although no longer living here below,
Just Know, I'll Always Love You!

If you were still alive. . .
Thou daughter of daughters.
Truthfully, you've never been more alive,
God just changed your living quarters.

WE MISS & LOVE YOU PAM

Photo of Pam and her Father.

Composed by: Pam's Dad
August 13, 2016

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POEM RESPONSE

Emailed to Scot, Sam, and Heather Finley, Dave Shupe and Elaine Shupe on August 16, 2016.

Posted to Lisa Rice Davenport's Facebook Messenger page on October 11, 2016. (Lisa was Pam's best friend). Lisa's response: Thinking about you, Scot, Heather and Sam this month. It is still so hard to believe. I miss her everyday!

Mailed to niece Norma Forbush on October 12, 2016 along with a card for her birthday. Norma's card response on October 18, 2016: Thank you so much for my birthday card and the beautiful poems! I love to read your poems over and over.


PAM FINLEY: PAM BRIGHTENED MY CORNER ~ September 20, 2016

Photo of daughter Pamela Shupe Finley.

PAM BRIGHTENED MY CORNER!

Brighten the corner
Where you are.
Pam was my daughter,
She was my star.

Pam did brighten her corner,
Wherever she happened to be.
She radiated excitement & joy,
For everyone else to see.

But it was much more than that,
Pam also brightened my space.
No matter the day or the hour,
She did it with love and grace.

From a baby, she loved brother Dave,
Reading to her from books like Dr. Zeus.
When the story was completed,
She did not want him to vamoose.

I surprised her one day,
Talking on our reel-to-reel RCA recorder.
Actually talking, singing & reminiscing,
As below and in that order.

As a young 9 year old girl,
Songs she learned in children's church
She truly loved to sing.
Songs that no one could besmirch.

She also sang all the songs,
She learned in elementary school.
She would go through them one by one,
And her tender voice was so cool.

Her lifelong friends were Amy, Lisa & Karen,
And they enjoyed many good times together.
No matter where they were or happened to be,
They soared high like birds of a feather.

As an exquisite young pre-adolescent,
She would name all of her friends.
At church, school & neighborhood,
Until she finally came to an end.

She rattled off many names
That I couldn't even pronounce.
Names like Daisy Daquilanea,
And others she did clearly announce.

The school songs she sang
Were catchy and spirited.
Her melodious, singing voice
From me, was not inherited.

As she grew older into an adult,
She treasured childhood friends.
Keeping in touch with many during life,
Which became one of many positive trends.

She sailed through Green Run High School,
And entered college at Virginia Tech.
She acquired more friends there,
Who became lifelong friends, by heck.

Her next big challenge was optometry school,
Located over in Memphis, Tennessee.
After four years of study & hard work,
She received her coveted Doctor's Degree.

Opening a practice in Roanoke, Virginia
In conjunction with Pearle Vision no less.
Operated her optometry practice for 20 years,
As one of Roanoke's best Optometrists, I suggest.

The apples of her own eyes,
Were daughter Heather & son Sam.
They completed her world on earth,
"The loves of my life," said Pam.

She was devoted to her husband, Scot,
Each to the other was a Biblical helpmeet.
The old adage, "It takes two to tango;"
Working together to make ends meet.

There's no question about it,
Pam was the apple of my eye.
From birth to the end of her life,
Always so neat having her nearby.

Just want to say a sincere thank you Lord,
For the joy Pam brought into our lives.
For 46 years, 7 months and 23 days,
Such happiness, & her memory still thrives.

THANK YOU PAM FOR ALL THOSE
WONDERFUL YEARS!

Photo of David Shupe.

LOVE, DAD
September 20, 2016

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POEM RESPONSE

Amy Jarvis Gould: Posted to Amy's Facebook Messenger page on November 15, 2016 (one of Pam's longtime friends from College Park), in honor of her birthday. Amy's response: Love this, so beautiful and true! Missing her everyday! Thank you Dave for this, it has brightened my day. 🙂.


PAM FINLEY: THE GOOD TIMES WE SHARED ~ September 23, 2016

THE GOOD TIMES WE SHARED

Pam piloting the pontoon boat.

DEAR PAM:

It's been a melancoly and sad
One year as of today.
That you quietly left us,
And flew so very far away.

The good Lord Himself decided
That it was for the best,
For you to so soon depart,
And leave your comfortable nest.

The ache that we still feel
Will not very soon dissipate.
But on your life memories,
We will always fondly meditate.

We promise you faithfully,
That we will not constantly dwell,
On all the negative reasons
Why you failed to get well.

Our thoughts will always be
On the good times we shared,
Which generated happiness,
None to be compared.

As a baby, your perpetual joy
Gently touched my heart.
Only wish that such beauty
Would never ever depart.

As you learned to crawl,
Curiosity was your forte
Exploring at floor level,
Going through each doorway.

You and your brother Dave,
Always got along so great.
Though you were 10 years apart,
You sure knew how to relate.

From a very young child,
You were such a special delight.
Your innocent view of a world,
Was one without blight.

In school, which I believe
You treated it as a game.
On weekends, you recorded & recited
Each of your roommate's name.

Dwelling on the ones
You chose as a friend.
Specifically citing each name,
Until you came to an end.

In 1987, Pam graduated
From Green Run High School.
Graduating in the top 5% of class,
Out of 800 graduates, so cool.

Pam went on and in 1991
She graduated from Virginia Tech.
Then applied for Optometry School
In Memphis, TN by heck.

Finally graduating in 1995,
Earning a coveted doctor's degree.
Then she moved to Roanoke, Virginia
From the State of Tennessee.

She set up her optometry practice
In conjuntion with Pearle Vision.
Which eventually turned out to be
A very astute decision.

For she managed her private practice
For just about twenty years.
Serving thousands of clients,
For which she had the utmost of care.

The pride of your beautiful life,
Were Son Sam, and Daughter Heather.
How very much you enjoyed,
Your family times spent together.

Whether home watching TV,
Or going to the ball game.
Going to church on Sunday,
It was uplifting all the same.

Although having different vocations,
You & hubby Scot were a team.
You each supported the other,
Holding each other in high esteem.

Thank you God for allowing Pam
To be part of all our lives.
We're all better off for knowing her,
And her memory still thrives.

WE ALL MISS & LOVE YOU PAM!

Photo of dad & daughter.

Composed by:
Pam's Dad For 46 years,
7 months & 23 Days.
October 18, 2016
(September 23, 2016)
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Rev. 21:4: And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes;
there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall
be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.

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POEM RESPONSE
Emailed this poem to Scot, Sam and Heather Finley, and Dave Gene Shupe on October 17, 2017.

Scot Finley's response on October 17, 2016: Hi David, Thanks for the email; Heather and I plan to call you and Dave tomorrow evening sometime.

Yes, tonight is a somber evening. At this exact time a year ago, Pam and I were watching Virginia Tech and Miami on TV. Despite her being on oxygen, she was completely into the game. She even shouted at the TV a number of times - at great plays for us, at missed tackles etc. Pam had had a great day. Heather had electrified the crowd at her travel soccer game that afternoon, getting her second "hat trick" (three goals) for only the second time in her soccer career. Despite Tech losing, she went to bed happy. I tried to talk her into letting me carry her upstairs to try out her new "hospital bed" where I thought she would be more comfortable. But no, she thought she would just lie down and sleep on the love seat. It had been a full day for us, spending every hour of the day with each other. So the kids went on upstairs and I made sure she was comfortable and warm and up on all medications before making my own bed on the couch. She slept soundly and woke up in the arms of Jesus. It was just that easy. A final grace.

I worked around people all day today; it was a picture-perfect day here today. All the sights and sounds and smells of a mid-autumn day. Coworkers joking. But I lived inside my own head all day, thinking of only one thing, reliving the hours of a year ago. Knowing my Beloved had had no idea that that Saturday would be her last. Would we have done anything differently? I don't know. She and I always reveled in the simple things - Sam's football, Heather's soccer, trips to the beach, Busch Gardens. Tonight, I stand watch. Tonight I appreciate more than ever what remains of her in two wonderful children. In what remains of my life I will always see Pam in Heather's face.

We will honor Pam's death by going on Living! Of making something of our lives that would honor her. I'll talk to you tomorrow; it will be a long night for me. Love you both, Scot.

Dave Shupe's response on October 18, 2016: As usual, another great poem. I think you outdid yourself with this one. Can’t believe it has already been one year since her passing. I will surely miss her for the rest of my life. Sorry to hear about the hernia popping up again. Hope you don’t have the same problems after the next surgery as you did the last time. Love, Dave.

Mailed this poem to Jean & Mike Fallon, Pam's former patients, on November 4, 2016 in replying to a "Thinking of You" card with heartfelt comments.